Thousands Of Men Get Their Dating Advice From Friends–But Is It Secretly Hurting More Than It Helps?
Chances are, you rely on your friends all the time:
They bail you out of sticky situations…
They cheer you on when you succeed…
And they give you dating advice.
Which is great, right? Who wants to figure out dating totally alone?
Well, as it turns out, it might not be so great after all.
Because even though your friends might mean well–they might also try to protect you from feeling hurt.
So a good friend might not be 100% honest with you… or he might even be jealous of your dating success.
And as a result, if you ask them for advice, what they tell you may not always be the most helpful information.
Now, this isn’t true of all friends.
However, there are 3 types of friends, in particular, whose advice you may want to take with a grain of salt.
So today, I’m going to show you which kinds of friends whose advice you should avoid, and where you can look instead.
Here’s who to avoid so you can stay in control of your dating life at all times:
1) The “I Agree!” Friend
This friend might seem like a nice guy because he always agrees with you.
After all, who doesn’t like to hear that they’re right… all the time?
That’s why the “I agree!” friend seems so great–who doesn’t love someone who always says, “yes?”
However, this friend can’t give you what you need.
He can only tell you what you want to hear.
Maybe he’s trying to put your mind at ease over a relationship that isn’t going well.
Maybe he tries to comfort you by telling you that everything is fine, when in reality, your gut tells you that it isn’t.
The truth is, he can’t give you the honest feedback you sometimes need.
Whether you’re seeking advice to score more quick hookups, or need advice about a relationship, this friend can only give you an echo.
Sometimes you need an honest assessment of your situation.
You’re better off seeking a braver, more honest friend who can really help you.
2) The “Just Married” Friend
You know that feeling when you’re dating a new woman, and everything is going great?
That feeling–times a thousand–is what your “just married” friend is experiencing.
His entire life seems to be laid out for him. He may seem to even forget his single life (or single friends)!
And as a result, this friend might not be in the best position to give you honest dating advice.
In fact, research shows that being in love causes temporary chemical changes in the brain.
So what?
So, your “just married” friend is at the mercy of these feel-good chemicals.
He wants everyone to find married bliss–and he might encourage you to find it with the wrong person.
He might be way too optimistic, instead of realistic.
Right now, he sees the world through rose-colored glasses.
Give him a while to clean those lenses and get a clear look at life again before you turn to him for dating advice.
3) The Selfish Friend
This friend has his own best interests in mind–not yours.
Here’s how to spot him:
Maybe he’s an insecure person who has trouble finding relationships or flings. He might cover this up by claiming that he’s always “too busy” to bother with dating.
Or maybe he gets jealous when you have dating success, but he can’t admit it.
So instead, whenever you talk about your own successes, he either brushes it off or changes the subject.
Maybe he wants something you have, and he can’t have it, so he gives you advice that isn’t the best.
And it’s also possible that he wants to keep you as a friend so badly that he’ll do just about anything to sabotage your relationship.
Yes, the “selfish friend” can still be a great one. He might be spontaneous, adventurous, and all-around fun.
But this friend isn’t the one to turn to when you need serious advice.
Seeking advice from a trusted buddy isn’t always a bad idea–as long as you stay true to yourself in the end.
Because at the end of the day, you are in control of your own happiness and your dating success.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t any great resources for dating advice out there.
In fact, I recently came across a great resource that I’d love to share with you… here’s what it is:
3 Surefire Dating Tips That Any Guy Can Use Right Now…
As someone who writes about sex & dating for a living… I read tons of advice every day. And I don’t have time to mess around with any ineffective B.S.
So whenever I wanna know if a piece of dating advice is “legit” or not… I ask myself one question:
Is there cold, hard proof to back it up?
And by far the best resource I’ve found, that has the most proven dating tips I’ve seen in a long while… is this exclusive “Dating Guidebook.”
It’s based on an analysis of over 100,000 real online dating conversations… real-life texts between men & women… and even in-field observations during dates….
And it has the long-awaited answers to questions like:
- Should you always pay on the first date…?
- Do texts with emojis get more responses…?
- Are women more attracted to “funny” guys or “serious” guys…?
Anyway, here’s where I found it if you wanna check it out–I think you’re gonna really like this a lot:
