How To Handle a Girl Who's Not Responding to Texts–Here's How to Get Her to Text You Back FAST (And Then Some)…
From ghosting to dwindling texts back, it can be hard to figure out how to get a girl to text back–particularly if you think you’ve done everything right.
Texting should make dating more accessible and fun, but like most technology, it can be complicated.
According to research, 65% of the world's population globally sends & receives SMS messages.
Don’t worry–that’s why we compiled this handy guide on how to become a text message dating guru, and exactly what to say when she doesn’t text back.
Because a poll of 2,201 adults found 62% of women prefer to text rather than talk, versus 38% of men… so these days, knowing how to text is more important than ever.
Let's get started:
How To Get a Girl to Text Back, Every Time
Him: “Hey Ashley, how’s it going?”
Her: “Pretty good, thanks, u?”
Him: “I’m fine, just eating lunch…what are your plans this week?”
We’ve all been there before — you’re texting her and the conversation seems fine…
Then all of a sudden, she’s gone.
You had her right there — or at least, you thought you did — so what the hell happened? And where do you go from here?
Figuring out why didn’t text back or where the conversation went wrong is a problem many guys face in today’s world.
That’s why we made this easy-to-follow video to teach you some of the best tricks for getting a girl to text you back. We’ll also show you:
- What to say when she doesn’t text back…
- How to easily get the conversation flowing again…
- Easy ice-breakers that she can’t resist…
- Ways to get her to respond to you (without every texting a word)…
- How to quickly make her remember why she liked you in the first place…
Use these tips to reignite any conversation and move yourself to the front of her mind. You can also use these tips to gauge her level of interest in you.
Now that you know how to get the conversation flowing again, let’s dig a little deeper into some of the reasons why she might have ignored your text, and how to prevent this in the future.
Don’t Make “She Didn’t Text Back” The Norm: Tips For Always Getting a Text Back
Do you know what one of the biggest questions men have regarding dating?
“What’s the best way to text a girl to get her out on a date?”
Some guys aren’t sure if they should call, approach in-person, or simply text.
You might be somewhat surprised but texting a girl to get her into the bedroom is one of the easiest things ever! It doesn’t take much skill at all.
There are millions of women being texted every day and there are millions of girls responding to them…but most of these women haven’t met their potential new partners from being approached on the street.
According to research, 88% of U.S. adults have sexted.
They’re usually Facebook friends, blind-dates, from social circles, co-workers, even online dating and apps now more frequently, etc. But rarely are women meeting men from in line at the store or on the street. Here’s where the dilemma arises!
Here’s the deal… if you’re meeting a woman in real life and you can’t get her out on a date or if she didn’t text back consistently, then chances are it’s not your texting that sucks!
It Was Your Interaction With Her That Sucked!
Just because she gave you her phone number doesn’t mean she’ll meet up with you for a date and it definitely doesn’t mean she’ll hook up with you!
It doesn’t take much to get a phone number from a girl. As a matter of fact, it only takes a tiny bit of interest from a woman to agree to give you her number.
Most guys don’t lose the girl they got a phone number from because of “bad texting.” It was because they didn’t gain her interest right away.
And that’s really why she didn’t text back.
This can cause a lot of distress and wasted energy as a result.
According to psychologist Perpetua Neo:
It's good to plan for your future, but when you're planning with somebody else it's never so simple. Instead of thinking about what do you have in your life right now, you're thinking about what happens if this person isn't going to answer, and what happens if this future is not perfect? So we are not enjoying where we are in the moment — instead we are stuck in a future where we think the worst.”
Although texting can be a very powerful tool in your arsenal of tricks, the vast majority of the time it should only be a formality, a prelude to the actual date!
If you’ve increased her interest in you enough, your texting just has to be normal at best to get her out on the date.
If you did just enough to get her number (which isn’t much), then you have a lot of work to do with texting to get her out on a date!
This is honestly why some guys have so much trouble with online dating and dating apps:
Getting her to respond on these things is the same as “getting her number” in real life. You have to make that initial exchange so exciting, so memorable that she can’t wait to get out on a date with you!
It’s Still Good to Know How to Text a Girl…
Of course, you’ll still need to reach out to her via text, so it’s a good thing to know the best way to text a girl.
In fact, you can text a girl into liking you more than she actually does – if you know how to do it right.
On the other hand, you can text her too often or come off as “creepy” if you aren’t careful. But don’t worry, we’ll show you how to avoid this.
How To Always Make It a “Sure Thing”
These days, it’s important to seal the deal before meeting up. If you decide to go out on a date with a girl, you want to know that she’ll be 100% committed to hooking up with you the very same night you have your date.
To do this, just make sure that all the work is done before you meet up. The date is just a formality. Do this, and you won’t see any resistance in getting her back to your place.
Don’t even ask her for a phone number unless all the above is in place or you can be sure it will be a waste of your time (and you’ll be left wondering why she didn’t text back).
Follow this advice and you’ll find that when you do decide to text a girl for the first time, she’ll immediately respond and probably even ask you out first!
So, be sure to feel her out, gauge her interest (and yours), and really make an impression before sending her a text. If you do all of the work up front, you’ll never be left wondering why there was no text back.
Now that you know the best ways to avoid dealing with the feared no text back, we’ll take a look at the social media phenomenon that’s made modern dating harder than ever (and show you how to beat the system).
Why Do Girls “Ghost”? Here’s What Ghostbusters Didn’t Tell You…
We’ll start with the bad news first:
There’s not really one surefire way to stop a girl from “ghosting.”
It’s her decision to not text you back and you can’t quite control what’s going on inside her head.
And the truth is, women do this for a number of reasons.
Maybe she only feels “lukewarm” toward you…
Or perhaps she sees you as more of a “friend”…
And hey, it is possible that she really is that busy with work.
Yes, it’s pretty crappy. And yeah, it’s cowardly too. But it happens.
So what should your next move be?
First off, don’t hound her with questions. Yes, you can text her–but you don’t want to make her feel like you’re “stalking” her. That will just backfire.
You also want to make sure you don’t blow up her phone. Don’t message her directly on social media, and don’t track her down for an explanation.
The key is to think of ghosting as you would any other breakup.
That doesn’t mean it will be easy–usually, it’s not. But at least that gives you some ground rules to play by.
Ultimately, if you’ve been ghosted, you have to find your own closure.
Remember that being ghosted isn’t a reflection of you or your character.
Instead, it’s a reflection of her and her character (or lack thereof).
There’s nothing stopping you from bouncing back into the game.
However, if you want to give it one more shot with her… then we do have some tips for you to try.
3 Questions to Determine Why She’s REALLY Ignoring Your Texts
So, it happened. She didn’t text back and you don’t understand why.
If the waiting turns into days with no response, you’re left thinking:
“WTF is going on with this girl!?! Am I getting no text back on purpose? Or did she just forget?”
And that’s when it clicks. “She ignored my text.”
And it’s an excruciating situation to handle.
But before you can even think about what to do next, it’s important to understand the real problem — why she ignored your text (or texts) in the first place.
The Ugly Truth About Why There’s No Text Back From Her…
Here’s the bottom line:
If you send her multiple texts and don’t get a single response, it means she isn’t interested.
And if she isn’t interested, then she’ll never agree to meet up with you.
You could stew in your own frustrations…
Or send her angry texts you might regret later…
But the more proactive approach is to think about what actually caused her to do this.
Because at the end of the day, this girl gave you her number.
And that means that at one point, she was interested in you…
So at some point along the way, something happened that caused her to lose interest.
With that in mind, here’s a little quiz:
Ask yourself these 3 questions about your initial interaction with her to determine why she’s really ignoring your texts.
1) Was the conversation interesting?
Maybe the conversation wasn’t a nonstop thrill ride, but you still left satisfied because you got her number.
Well, that doesn’t change the fact that she may have left the conversation feeling bored…
And if she’s already bored, she won’t waste any energy responding to your texts.
So what can you do to “fix” this?
Look back for clues to help you figure out things you said that you might want to change the next time around.
Were you keeping the conversation fun and interesting? Did she seem fully engaged?
If not, then the problem was likely that you have little in common – which is fine.
Next time you’re out with a girl, pay attention to how she responds to you. Make a few jokes or try to figure out what she’s interested in to really get the conversation rolling.
2) Did you feel a physical connection?
It’s hard to focus on how you feel when you’re just worried about getting your words out right…
But to the girl you’re talking to, a connection means everything.
You may have seemed like a nice and friendly-enough guy…
But if there wasn’t anything sexual about the interaction between you…you’re probably out of luck.
And that’s because if she can’t picture you as a potential romantic or sexual partner, she’s not going to be interested in meeting up with you again.
And that means she won’t be interested in texting you back.
Did you reach out to touch her at any point during your conversation? The power of touch is proven to spark her sexual interest.
When you show a physical interest in her, then she’ll know you want to be more than friends…
3) Were you needy, desperate, or aloof?
If you’re coming off as needy or desperate, she’s not going to be into you — point blank.
But even if you don’t feel needy or desperate, there are certain actions women pick up on that signal to her brain you might be.
So if you repeatedly buy drinks for her and her friends…
Or you brag and keep trying to impress her…
She’s going to think you’re desperate for her attention and affection.
And that means she won’t want to give it to you.
Women will never value what’s given to them.
And if you keep trying to impress her, she’ll assume you’re just willing to give yourself to her without her having to work for it at all.
On the other hand, you might have acted too aloof.
It’s one thing to refuse to bend over backwards to impress her…
But it’s another to act unconcerned with your surroundings and uninterested in even yourself.
When you’re aloof and disconnected, you can’t participate in the present moment. And she’ll pick up on your “high and mighty” vibe like that.
Remember, she doesn’t need this interaction to go well and lead to something.
And even if you really want it to go somewhere, it’s important to let her know that you don’t need her.
3 Texts to Send a Girl Who’s “Ghosting” You (And How To Get a Girl To Text Back)…
So a girl has “ghosted” you… and you want to know if there’s anything you can send to get a text back from her.
These texts may not work to get her out on a date with you, but they can help bring you closure and may even prevent her from ghosting again.
The key is to be honest in your delivery and to make her feel safe.
That way she won’t worry you’re going to blow up at her if she tells you she’s just not “that interested.”
And yes, this means you need to be prepared to get that response. But hey–at least it’s a response!
So with that in mind, here are 3 texts you can send to get a girl who “ghosted” you to respond:
Text #1: “Hey, haven’t heard from you in a while… everything OK? If you’re not interested or too busy, just let me know. I’d really appreciate it.”
Text #2: “My buddy just bailed on me for happy hour. You in? Name a place and I’ll meet you there.”
Text #3: “Important question… are you pro or anti-pumpkin spice latte?”
The first text shows your honesty and is also direct, which works if it fits with your personality.
The second text, on the other hand, gets straight to the point if you feel like your previous conversation was a little “wishy-washy.”
And finally, the third text works if you just want a response. It may not rekindle the conversation or solidify a date, but it gives you the best odds of getting a response.
It also betters your chances of getting a date with her.
Like all technology, texting makes dating easier and harder, so understand that sometimes ghosting will happen and you’ll just have to move on. But these tips are the best way to make one final attempt before bailing.
We’ve covered how to put in the world to get an eager text back, how to improve your chances of having her text you, and how to prevent or deal with ghosting.
Next up, we’ll let you in on everything you wanted to know about texting an ex or crush from your past.
One Foolproof “Break Glass in Case of Emergency” Step to Make Her Respond…
Getting a girl’s number is no piece of cake.
So when you have a number that doesn’t go anywhere…
It’s frustrating as hell.
But it’s not necessarily a bad thing.
In fact, it can help you figure out exactly what you did wrong — and that means you can fix it!
So next time you do get a number, it won’t be a wasted effort.
But if you’re just not ready to give up, there’s an easy step you can take as a last-ditch effort to make her respond.
Here’s what to do when she ignores you:
5 “Copy & Paste” Texts That Get Her to Drop Everything & Come Over Right Away…
If you want a hot girl to stop ignoring you…
… always text you back…
… and eventually come over and have sex with you for real…
Here's the fastest way to do it:
When you want her to come over, send her one of these 5 messages.
You can literally copy and paste these messages, word-for-word, from this guide into your phone…
… and as soon as she sees it, it’s like *BAM* all she can think about is having sex with you.
Even if she was ignoring you for days before then (or weeks, or sometimes even months)… or even if she was in the middle of doing something really important… even if it’s freaking 2 A.M. and it’s raining outside…
… when she sees one of these texts, she'll get SO obsessed with having sex with you, that she'll most likely invite herself over to “hang out”. 😉
I think my favorite part is that NONE of the texts explicitly mentions sex… so you can even use them on a shy or reserved girl to get her to come over for sex too (she’ll just think it’s her idea lol).
Here’s what they are and how to use them–enjoy!
How Can I Get an Old Crush to Message Me Back?
Have you ever thought back to a girl from your past, and wondered… what if?
“What if we could be together…?”
“What if we were more than friends back then…?”
Or even simply, “I wonder what she’s up to now…?”
If so, you’re not alone.
But, if you’ve tried reaching out to her and you find yourself realizing, “She ignored my text,” then there are a couple factors to consider.
So what’s the best way to reconnect with a girl from your past without scaring her off?
This is a complicated question to unpack, because it really depends on your relationship with this girl.
If it ended well or if it’s still positive, then you should have no trouble picking up where you left off (and can use the above texting tips for inspiration)
But if it didn’t end well, or if you said some creepy or offensive things to her, it’s not going to be a simple fix.
The Cold Hard Truth About Girls From Your Past Who Don’t Message Back…
Messaging girls from high school or your past may seem convenient, but it throws up a lot of red flags–and they can sense it.
So, are you wondering what to do when a girl from your past ignores you?
Well, let’s look at the facts. You left high school, and you left those girls behind.
If they weren’t interested in you then, there’s little benefit in trying to get them interested in you now.
So instead, it's way easier (and faster) to go after hot new girls, who you already know are interested in you.
“How am I supposed to know if a girl is ‘already' interested in me?” You might be wondering…
And the truth is, it all boils down to a few simple signs.
Let me give you a little quiz to show you what I mean.
Let's say you're talking to a girl in a cafe, and things seem to be going well… so you want to ask her out on a date.
How can you know for sure if she'll say yes?
a) If your conversation lasts for longer than 10 minutes…
b) If she has the “right” body language…
c) If she asks you a bunch of questions about yourself…
d) There’s no real way to know for sure…
If you guessed a, c, or d… well, you’re not alone. Many of our community members used to believe that the key to figuring out a woman’s true level of interest was in her words…
However, in reality… this isn’t the case at all!
Because most girls get hit on a LOT… they don’t like to come off as “easy”…
… so the only real, honest-to-god way to know if a girl is into you… is to look at her body language for some subtle hints that she wants you.
Deep down, she's waiting for you to ask for her #… or invite her out on a date… or even go in for the kiss right then & there…
Anyway, many guys in our community have personally told me that knowing these signs has made talking to girls feel a LOT easier… and helped them get way more dates too.
So if that sounds like something you’d like… then I highly recommend you check out this video:
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on June 15, 2020.]