Have You Ever Considered Dating a Feminist? Then You’ve Gotta See This…
Feminism. What a loaded term.
It’s a word that probably makes you feel something — but is that something good or bad?
Maybe you read one man’s viral article about “Why I’ll Never Date a Feminist,” and found that you identified with him.
Or maybe you believe that men and women truly deserve equal rights, but you still hesitate to call yourself a “feminist” because “it just feels wrong.”
There are a lot of reasons (many of which are nuanced) for these feelings a lot of men (and many women) share — the feeling that “feminism” is inherently destructive.
But this article is flipping that feeling on its head — and today, I’m going to show you 5 little-known reasons why dating a feminist is actually a GOOD thing.
What Does “Feminism” REALLY Mean for You?
First things first — let’s agree on a working definition of “feminism.”
While much of society and the media would have you think that “feminism” means “Let’s give women everything and take it all away from men!”…
This is not the case. Like at all.
Feminism is simply the belief that men and women are equal — and as a result, the belief that women deserve the same rights as men.
Being a feminist does not mean that you hate men… it simply means that you believe men and women deserve the same things.
Another common misconception is that only women can be feminists. Not true!
If you’re a man, but you still believe that men and women deserve equal rights, then you, my friend, are a feminist.
Now, I won’t lie — there are some feminists who tarnish the name for the rest of us.
Some “feminists” really do hate men, and think that women are superior — the “feminists” who believe this are NOT feminists. They’re sexists.
But at the end of the day, there are a lot of perks of not just being a feminist… but dating one as well.
And here are 5 of the most surprising ones:
1) Feminists Are More Supportive (And Smarter)
It’s easy to think that the most “supportive” women are the ones who will bend over backwards for you… sort of like a 1950s housewife.
But think about this:
That same 1950s housewife will expect you to be the breadwinner… provide for her and her children… and do that until the day she dies.
Not so supportive anymore, is she?
A feminist, on the other hand, will be much more inclined to share both the financial responsibilities and the household responsibilities that come along with being in a relationship.
“But I don’t want to do dishes and take out the trash!”
Yeah, nobody wants to do those things. But according to several recent studies, men who actively contribute to household chores have more sex than men who don’t.
On top of that, another recent study found that women who seek out a man to “protect” them, or value chivalry above anything else, are not as motivated to pursue higher education.
Because they’re so obsessed with finding their “Prince Charming,” they might opt to forego college, instead spending their lives looking for a man to support them.
So there’s your first surprising perk. On to the next one…
2) Feminists Won’t Drain Your Wallet
This follows similar logic to perk number one:
A woman who sees you as her equal will be WAY less likely to expect you to pay for her.
Especially in a long-term relationship, the financial perks of dating a feminist become even better:
- She’ll be motivated to contribute as much money to the relationship as you do…
- She won’t be “weirded out” or turned off if she earns more money than you…
- She’ll offer to pay for you on certain occasions…
And generally, she’ll just do more without you having to ask.
Now, I’m not suggesting you stop offering to pay for dinner on a first date.
That kind of offer can often go a long way — even for a feminist.
But on date number two or three, you can be pretty damn sure she’ll offer to pony up (if she didn’t already do that on date number one).
In the long run, this will save you hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars.
3) Feminists Won’t Send You Mixed Messages
Fact: A woman who doesn’t call herself a feminist believes that women and men are NOT equal.
A non-feminist doesn’t want to take 50% of the responsibility in the relationship… she wants you to do MORE work for her.
Take communicating, for example. If a non-feminist has a concern or an issue, she won’t be the first to speak up about it.
Instead, she’ll wait for you to say something — as if you can read her mind!
This kind of outdated relationship style has proven not to be successful (just take a look at the divorce rates over the past 30 years).
A feminist, on the other hand, will realize that an open line of communication — not just coming from the man — is required to be in a successful relationship.
If something is bothering her, she’ll speak up.
If she wants you to do something, she’ll tell you.
It’s not “giving you orders” or “being bossy” — it’s saving you hours of wondering “Is she REALLY fine?”
You won’t have to worry about that when you’re dating a feminist.
4) Feminists Are Better in Bed
Yes, really!
Women who don’t call themselves feminists often err on the “traditional” side of things.
These are women who are most likely conservative… both politically, and in the bedroom.
Of course, not all feminists are going to be sexual freaks — but most feminists are at least more sexually open.
Rather than lie there like a dead fish and let you have sex with her (Missionary for 20 minutes and she’s done? Yawn), a feminist will be much more in tune to your needs…
And she’ll also be more likely to indulge any “taboo” fantasies you might have (especially the fantasies that involve subversive gender roles).
Still not convinced dating a feminist can be a good thing?
Then just wait for perk number 5…
5) Feminists Get Physical, Faster
Could Carl tell I had spent the last 3 nights fantasizing about the naughty things I wanted to do to him…?
He had moved into my apartment complex a few weeks ago… and I wanted him from the moment I saw him. But I didn’t want to seem too “forward” or “easy”… so I only indulged my fantasies alone, in bed, while I touched myself… until last night, in the elevator.
He never even said “Hello” to me… but when the elevator stopped at his floor, and he reached out his hand to say, “Have a good night”… I caved.
“Hey Carl… would you wanna come over for a drink?” I asked, heart pounding. (Did I really just say that?!)
Well… he said yes. 😉 And when I walked into work the next day… and told my mentor Magic about it… he laughed and said, “I know how this happened. Here, watch this:”
The Ultimate Guide to Getting Physical With a Woman (No Words Required!)…
