As a guy, you’ve probably had that thought like, “Why is she doing this? This is totally irrational.”
So, the first thing I want to spell is it’s not her being crazy. Instead, it’s her showing her emotions — and emotions by definition seem irrational.
It’s actually a good thing if she’s showing you her “crazy” side. Because if she’s showing you that, it means it’s a test.
She’s testing you to see if you can handle her in her fullness. This also has sexual benefits for you (which I’ll get to in a minute). But it’s also an opportunity to grow and to show her that you can handle her.
In fact, a woman will only do this with a man that she’s either intimate with, or thinking about being intimate with.
It Doesn’t End There…
The reason why it seems crazy, is that when you first meet a woman, she’ll be polite and composed. By every definition, she seems rational.
Then you start to get to know each other, maybe you get romantic, and then she’ll have this emotional outburst out of nowhere.
The reason why she’s doing that is because, unlike at work or with strangers, she is feeling comfortable with you. Comfortable enough to wonder, “Can this guy handle me a little bit more?”
This ties directly to her question of: “Can he handle me when I’m in full orgasm and out of control?”
Because for a woman to let go sexually and really feel all that pleasure, she has to trust that you can handle her.
If you can’t handle her having an emotional outburst, you probably can’t handle her in bed. That’s just how women will subconsciously look at things.
So, if she’s being “crazy” with you, take it as a compliment. And also know that it’s an opportunity for you to accelerate your relationship to the next level.
How do you do that? Just follow these steps:
1) Approve of Her Behavior
Approve of her — that’s the first thing. I want you to get out of this idea of judging her.
If you’re judging her or calling her crazy — saying stuff like, “She’s f***ed up,” or “Something’s wrong with her” — then you just failed her test.
She’s trying to see that you can approve of her and stay with her when she’s being emotional. Again, if you can handle her, she will be 100% present with you in the bedroom.
So, one is to approve of her. Be cool with the fact that she’s an emotional being. Let her know that it’s good to be emotional.
It’s one of the beautiful things about women: that they can go to these lengths that most men can’t really reach emotionally.
2) Stay Grounded in Your Reality
The second thing is being able to be grounded.
The way I would word this in this scenario is to really be sure of her reality.
When she’s being emotional and maybe saying things that don’t make sense to you in a logical, rational sense, it’s your job as a man, to stay in reality.
It’s not about what she’s saying — it’s about what she’s feeling. You just have to stay with her on the feeling zone. So you have to be clear, like, “Oh, this is the reality. We’re doing this tonight. This is what we’re doing together. The reality of the situation is this.”
Don’t try to force feed her — let her be emotional, but also let her know that you’re grounded and stable.
That’s really important because that’s essentially what she’s testing.
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