Meeting New People Is Easier Than Ever Before–Do You Know How to Expand Your Circle Of Friends?
When it comes to meeting women, social media and dating apps are awesome.
But for those of us of a certain age, the real-life meeting is still a thing, too.
In fact, it’s kind of preferable, because you ditch all the nuanced online messaging B.S. and just connect.
Online, it’s easy to waste all your time thumb-tapping yoru way into thinking a deal is done…
Only to find out that you want to run screaming out of the bar when you hear her actual voice.
Besides, even if you “meet” a woman online, the goal should be to meet her in real life eventually.
However, if your real-life meeting skills are a little rusty, you can’t rely on the Interwebs to get the deal done for you. You still have to do it yourself.
If you up your real-life social skills, you’ll not only increase your online dating chances, but you’ll also start meeting more women when you’re out and about.
So with that in mind, here are 5 painless ways to step up your “IRL” (in real life) game and meet more high-quality women, quickly:
1) Use Moderated Social Settings
I don’t know what your specific situation is, but if you’re a guy who has trouble talking to strangers or lacks the confidence to approach a woman, it’s really important to practice.
Not only does it help to build to build your confidence, but it also increases your social skills.
And believe me, better social skills make it a lot easier to meet new women.
In my personal experience, I’ve found that putting myself in forced — but moderated — situations is a great way to both practice and meet people.
For example, if you take a class or join a MeetUp that involves a group activity like camping, you’ll be forced to meet and socialize with new people…
But you won’t feel the pressure of having to fill awkward silences, or “lead” the interaction.
2) Talk to Servers & Bartenders
One of the best ways to up your social game is to interact with people in the service industry, like servers and bartenders.
Why?
They’re there to be nice to you and will usually be happy to engage you in conversation — as long as you don’t take up too much of their time and tip well. So if they try and engage with you, engage back.
At the end of the day, all small talk is good practice, even if it doesn’t lead to anything.
Another technique is to practice what you might say out loud — even if it’s by yourself.
Simply getting the hang of using certain phrases and imagining the situations in which you might use them will help you to feel more comfortable.
You could also make and keep a list of general conversation topics.
It doesn’t have to be an actual, physical list, but it doesn’t hurt to throw it on your phone’s notes app so you can practice. Memorize the list and keep up on your favorite topics.
And if you do use the list technique, avoid topics like religion, politics, your ex, and your kids (unless you’re asked specifically about them).
Music is usually a good choice of topic, and so are movies and TV shows. And when you discuss them, be open-minded and not aggressively opinionated.
(If she says her favorite show is How I Met Your Mother, don’t sneer and say “I hate that show!” For example.)
And once you’ve got your social skills up to par, and you’re feeling ready to meet new women — here’s what to do next:
3) Observe Your Environment
If you see a woman you want to talk to when you’re out, take a minute to notice a thing or two about her.
Does she have dimples…?
Is there something cool or unusual about her clothes…?
Is she drinking something interesting…?
Pick out one or two things that you can use to start a discussion.
But remember — don’t stare.
Just play it cool — and if you get caught looking, smile and start a conversation.
Details help to make a conversation personal, and often, bringing up details that you’ve noticed can be flattering.
It’s usually a good idea to keep your observations superficial and relatively innocent — complimenting her earrings will usually fly better than remarking on the depth of her cleavage, for example.
But what if she’s in a group of people?
In my experience, it’s best to include her friends in the conversation when you first approach her.
Snubbing or excluding a lady’s friend(s) is one way to make a conversation extremely short.
On the other hand, if she wants to ditch her friends to talk to you, roll with it — always!
A corollary to the “include her friends” rule is to include them in drinks as well — if you want to buy one woman a drink, buy her friends a drink — at least the first round, anyway.
From there, you can follow up with your conversation partner by asking if she wants another… no need to include her friends.
It’s often good to bring along a friend to act as a wingman, too. You can help each other out, both in terms of identifying likely conversation prospects and noticing details you can use to start a chat.
4) Dance (Seriously)
The cliché about guys not dancing is usually true — at least in the standard, club-style setting.
For you, this presents a huge advantage.
How?
When you’re at a bar or club where there’s dancing, you don’t even have to be able to dance — you just have to twist up enough guts to get out there and move.
In most cases that I’ve seen, guys are by far the minority on the dance floor. Except, of course, during the slow grinds when they come out of the woodwork.
But if you put in the footwork during the upbeat tunes by moving and smiling, your chances of scoring one of those slow grinds later on are pretty good.
Plus, women who like to dance — such as the ones that you find dancing at clubs and bars — are more receptive to men who are open enough to get out on the floor and join them.
Here’s the truth: I have gone home with and/or gotten numbers from a handful of women who I would not have met had I not danced with them.
Most of these strategies seem small or simple, but you’ll be surprised at how big of a difference they can make.
And if you’re really ready to meet more high-quality women on a night out, in the most pain-free and rejection-proof way possible…
Then you’ve gotta try this:
5) Look for the Signs She’s “Hot for You”
I think I’ve finally figured out why approaching women is so much easier for me these days:
These days, I focus on some subtle signs that a girl’s into me.
Especially as an older guy, if I don’t know if a hot girl’s into me or not, I get kinda nervous. And women just sense those nerves like dogs smell fear…
So, as you can imagine, when I found a way to know, every single time, if a woman liked me or not, BEFORE approaching her… well that was a game changer.
I used this this cool little “cheat sheet.”
It’s a list of simple clues a woman wants to talk to you… or kiss you… or even go home with you… and you don’t even have to talk to her to start looking for them.
The night I learned them, I did a “test run” at a local bar… and no joke, I saw 8 women who were giving off these clues.
(Which meant I got to pick the woman I wanted to go home with… man, that used to never happen to me.)
This “cheat sheet” has been a major game-changer for me and my friends… you can check it out here:
Discover the “Cheat Sheet” That Reveals the Signs She Wants You Bad…
