Discover the Best Dating Advice for Men Who Are Ready to Get What They Deserve–Will You Find “The One” This Year?
Like any new advancements, our addiction to and dependence on technology is both a blessing and a curse.
While having the internet at your fingertips can offer quick search results and instant answers…
It also comes with a wide variety of downsides.
Dating, for instance, has both been made easier and more difficult thanks to technology.
Sure, you no longer have to scour bars and coffee shops for a date — but many men find it’s much harder to find a solid match without first meeting her in person.
In fact, Singles in America — Match.com’s official survey of single people in the United States — has just released their findings for 2016.
The survey aimed to find out all of the most interesting dating and sex stats on single men & women all across the country. The goal was to help other single people better understand dating and sex trends.
Some of the findings might seem a little pessimistic, but they also offer pretty interesting ways to use these stats to your advantage.
So if you want to find love (or even just some causal fun) this year, here are a few facts to get you started:
What Is it Really Like to Date in the United States Today?
1) Technology Is a Burden (But It Might All Be in Your Head)
According to the survey, Millennials are 22% more likely to think that technology makes finding love more challenging.
Sure, Tinder might be convenient to use…
But is it the best tool for finding love?
The hookup-driven app might work for some, but after an array of bad dates or incompatible hookups, many young men and women are feeling less confident than ever about meeting “the one.”
So if you’ve experienced frustration over dating apps like Tinder, you’re not alone.
2) Loneliness Is More Common Than You Think
I know, I know, more bad news — but the good news is coming soon. 🙂
The study found that over half of Millennials reported feeling lonely.
It sounds kinda depressing when you first read it… but this stat really shouldn’t be so surprising when you think about it.
Social media & apps like Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, and Instagram don’t actually keep us connected in a way that fuels our emotions.
Instead, they keep us disengaged from our actual relationships and more interested in online personas.
Think of how much time most people spend perfecting their online profile, pictures, or creating the best Insta or Snapchat story. And it’s all to give off the appearance of happiness.
All of this instant connectedness can really make a person feel isolated and alone.
Talking with someone via social media or text messaging is also not the same as connecting with someone in person. This shows again that technology just isn’t a substitution for the real thing.
Does that mean you should give up on technology altogether?
Not necessarily (but more on that in a minute).
3) Younger People Don’t Just Want to “Hook Up”
Interestingly, the study found that Millennials are 177% more likely to feel pressure to get married and settle down.
Wow.
Many millennials are marrying later and later, which could be due to the lack of connection caused by social media and dating apps.
As a result, it’s taking many people a longer time to find someone worth dating and settling down yet.
Also worth noting:
Many millennials don’t see marriage as the only path.
They’re more likely to want to get their career going or travel before even considering settling down. This can lead to unwanted pressure from their families to get married.
Dating apps also make settling down difficult by bringing so many prospective people to your fingertips.
Even if you don’t find much of a connection with most of your Tinder dates, giving up on the process can be hard. This is called “FOMO,” or “Fear Of Missing Out.”
But, don’t despair. It’s not all bad.
It turns out that while millennials might not be having the best time with dating, they’re still extremely hopeful.
The Good News About Dating in 2017
1) Younger Women Are Putting More Work Into Finding a Committed Relationship
According to the survey, Millennials are 125% more committed to figuring out how to make a love connection than previous generations.
(Note: Did you know there’s a way to tell if she’ll be compatible with you before you even talk to her? Check this out to see how.)
Whether this is to combat loneliness or is part of an addiction to technology, Millennials really do want to find love. On top of that, they are somewhat addicted to the process of getting there.
While this can seem scary if you love the hunt more than the actual act of finding love, it still offers hope for singles everywhere.
Most Millennials ultimately want the same thing:
To find someone to connect with.
2) More & More Men Are Looking for Love
An impressive 68% of single men in the United States want to find love in 2017.
Just to understand the demographics a little better, it’s not just women looking for love.
More than half of American men who are single right now really do want to find someone to connect with.
Those are pretty good odds for women out there looking for love, and if you’re a guy who’s looking for love, you can take solace in knowing you’re not alone out there.
3) More Than Half of Single Millennials Have Online Dating Profiles
Here’s an interesting stat: 57% of all single millennials are likely to have created a dating profile on an app.
This shows that today’s generation really is serious about dating and is using any technology available to make this happen.
Even if most people don’t really love online dating or dating apps, clearly they are at least willing to put themselves out there.
So by now, you know that younger women are looking for love, and online dating isn’t really cutting it for most people anymore.
But what about sex & love? Are they still as important as they used to be?
Here’s what the survey found:
What Roles Do Sex & Love Play in Modern Day Dating?
1) Men Fall in Love More Often Than Women
This one might come as a bit of a surprise — men fall in love an average of 3.3 times in their lifetime, compared to a woman’s 2.3 times.
That means the odds are in your favor, particularly if you’re looking for love.
And, since it was reported that only 12% of single American men are looking to casually date, chances are, you’re looking for someone exclusive.
According to the survey, so are most women! So love is still as important as it used to be.
2) Sex Is Still Important
According to this same study, 73% more men than women believe sex can let you know if you’re in love with a woman or not.
At the end of the day, you can’t fake love — and most men are pretty confident that their feelings come across quite clearly during sex.
(One of the easiest ways to connect with a woman during sex is to give her an amazing orgasm. Here are a few tips on how to do that.)
Almost half of all men in the survey also believe that sex can help build a strong connection to a woman you’re dating.
So while men do apparently value sex more than women, it still plays a vital role in building important emotional & sexual connections today. This is true for both you and the woman you’re with.
3) Everyone Wants More Excitement in the Bedroom
Are you looking for more adventurous sex with the next woman you start dating?
Chances are, she is too.
The study found that 75% of men want more adventure between the sheets, as do 64% of women.
An easy way to introduce this kind of sexual adventure is to role-play — like this “taboo” sexual fantasy, for example.
Based on this data, there are some pretty clear ways to help finally find love in 2017.
We’ll walk you through how to take this data to the next level, use it to cut through all the red tape of online dating, and finally get the relationship you want in 2017.
Ready to dive in?
Let’s go:
Step 1: Use Technology Wisely
Before I can get into any of the relationship advice, it’s important to first navigate through the complicated process of online dating.
The problem with dating in today’s world is that the person who seems to care least ultimately has the most power (the woman).
That can make it difficult to know if a woman is really into you, because:
- She might act like she doesn’t care, so she seems laid-back and low maintenance…
- Or maybe she waits a long time to text you back to avoid being coming across as “clingy”…
- She just might not be into you…
You get the point.
Texting, social media, and dating apps have made it really difficult to decipher if a woman is really into you and is just “playing it cool”…
Or if she really isn’t into you and is slowly phasing you out of her social network.
While it can be frustrating to receive the same exact signs in two very different situations, there are some easy solutions.
1) Be Direct
Whether you’re texting, flirting via Tinder, or talking on social media, these technology-driven conversations are much more laid-back and ultimately require less investment than talking over the phone or speaking face to face.
Because of this, many women try to play it cool, even if they really like a guy.
No woman wants to be thought of as too clingy, so she’ll downplay her interest in order to keep you interested.
It might sound counterproductive, but that’s just how our dating society functions these days.
Most women are used to guys not setting specific plans or texting until the last minute to hang out.
So your solution, in this case, is quite simple: Get specific with her.
If you’re into her, don’t keep playing this game where you flirt or send her tons of emojis.
Instead, let her know you like her. Set a specific place and time to hang out, rather than asking if she wants to get a drink sometime.
This will allow her to see that you’re serious about spending time with her and forces a decision.
She’ll either say “No” (in which case you can stop wasting your time and move on)…
Or she’ll say “Yes” (and you can finally end the awkward dance that generally happens when no formal plans are set).
It’s a win-win.
(A lot of guys are afraid to be direct because they don’t want to be rejected. But if you can recognize the signs she likes you, you can prevent all of that in the first place. This cheat sheet can help.)
2) Ask “Real” Questions
Getting to know a woman via social media or dating apps can be more challenging than getting to know her in person.
A lot of singles tend to chat via apps or texting before ever meeting up.
This time is often wasted on pointless jokes and conversations that don’t help you figure out whether you might have a future with her or not.
Instead, ask questions that can help encourage authentic conversations. Start by honing in on her specific interests and figuring out what you two might have in common.
This could range from discussing your favorite movies or TV shows to your favorite food or hobbies.
If she’s out of school, ask her about her career or where she’d like to be in five years, for example.
Showing interest in her future and what motivates her is an easy way to show her you’re interested in her.
Asking these questions can also be helpful in setting up better dates for the two of you — for instance, if you’re both into horror flicks, a night out seeing a horror movie will score you more points than taking her to a rom-com because you feel it’s expected.
3) Read Between the Lines
Sometimes, no matter how direct or engaging you are, it can be hard for a woman to open up to a complete stranger, even if she’s into you.
If she’s shy, for example, she’s less likely to feel the urge to meet up with you right away.
So if you ask her out and she hesitates, you shouldn’t always take this as a bad sign.
Instead, try engaging conversation to get her to open up. If she still doesn’t budge, move on — but generally, chatting via technology is the easiest way to make her feel more comfortable.
Of course, if she doesn’t seem overly shy and simply continuously flakes on you, she’s probably not worth investing too much time in.
4) Stand Out From the Crowd
Finding the right girl starts with attracting her to what’s unique about you.
So the last step to use technology to your sexual advantage in 2017 is to stand out as much as possible.
When you’re setting up your online dating profile, find a way to make it unique and interesting while remaining true to who you are.
How?
If music is a huge part of your life, add lyrics of your favorite band to your profile. It might seem cliché, but it’s a definite conversation starter for the right girl.
Or if you really love hiking or camping, add pictures of your experiences, so she can see that you’re really into adventurous activities.
This will attract girls with similar interests, while girls who are more indoorsy might realize they’d be wasting your time if they reached out.
At the end of the day, it’s not about connecting with the most women — it’s about connecting with the right women, so you can find your perfect match.
Which brings me to the next “big picture” step of finding your dream girl in 2017…
Step 2: Getting Physical
The most exciting time in any new relationship is when things finally start progressing — and yes, I’m talking about sex.
Whether you’re going out on your first official date…
Or you’re having just another night of “Netflix and Chill” at her place…
Spicing up your sex life is important in shaping the rest of your relationship.
So if you’d like to add some intrigue to your sex life with a new woman, here are a couple tips to help you along the way:
1) Try Talking Dirty
If you’d really like to add some kink into your sex life, starting with dirty talk is the perfect way to test her boundaries.
You can start with little comments to work her up to it, like, “Do you like that?” or “I love the way you feel”.
Once she seems comfortable with your questions, you can keep building on your dialogue.
(Not all sexual experimentation is verbal. Here are a few moves you can use during foreplay to really get her going.)
Dirty talk can be a real turn-on for many women, so ask her open-ended questions like, “What should I do to you next?” to see how open she is for exploration.
Remember, 64% of single women reported wanting more adventure in the bedroom, so dirty talk is the perfect way to try to find out what else she might be into.
2) Have Sex in Unexpected Places
Sex in the bedroom can be totally hot — there’s no denying that.
However, sex in the kitchen, in your car, or even in a public bathroom can be even hotter.
If you want to kick your sex life up a notch, start simple with shower sex, or sex in different areas of your home (like the bathroom sink, kitchen counter, or dining room table).
Or if you’re really feeling frisky, see how she feels about sex in more public places.
Having sex in your car or truck is a relatively safer space to try this out at (especially at night).
You can also see if she’s into having sex in a public bathroom or fitting room for an extra thrill.
3) Be Honest About Your Turn-Ons & Turn-Offs
Of course, I’m not recommending that you tell her you’re into bondage on the first date…
But dropping subtle hints and talking to her openly once you start having sex is highly encouraged.
You want to find someone you’re compatible with, so being able to talk openly about sex is a must.
This also gives you the opportunity to find out what she’s into.
You can easily initiate a “safe” conversation around this topic by asking her what her sexual fantasies are, or if there’s ever been anything she’s wanted to try in bed that she hasn’t yet.
You could also discuss some of your favorite sexual experiences with her if you want to get a better idea of what both of you like.
Even if she isn’t particularly into bondage or has never been tied down, she might be open to slowly exploring that possibility with you, for example.
When all is said and done, you’ll never get what you want out of a relationship or sex if you don’t ask for it — so don’t be afraid to tell her what turns you on.
Step 3: How to Overcome “Fear of Missing Out” (FOMO)
One of the reasons why it’s so hard for many single guys to settle down in today’s technology-obsessed society is because of a phenomenon called “FOMO,” or “Fear Of Missing Out.”
Think about it:
Between social media, dating apps, and girls you see every day, it can be hard to pick just one woman to date.
That’s because there are so many other options right at your fingertips. In fact, the Singles in America study found that 57% of all American singles have experienced this FOMO phenomenon because of social media.
So if you’re worried about FOMO, or you’re worried the girl you like might experience this struggle, here are a few ways to tackle this “grass is greener” mindset head-on:
1) Remember That Social Media Is Not Real Life
Hop on Facebook and take a look at what people are posting:
Is it stuff about their jobs…
Their struggles…
And their general life issues?
Probably not, right?
People like to present themselves as their own “best version” on social media, even when this isn’t necessarily reality.
That bathroom picture of four hot girls grinning during a night out is proof that they were bored enough to want to take a picture, rather than enjoy the bar they were in. It sounds harsh, but it’s usually true.
When you’re really having a good time hanging out with a woman, you don’t need to document every second, but this can be hard to remember when scrolling through your friends’ feeds.
So try and limit how often you post on social media — and from there, here’s step two:
2) Picture Her Dating Someone Else
Even if you two aren’t exclusive yet, if you find yourself grappling with FOMO, it’s important to take some time to think about your priorities.
There’s nothing wrong with casually dating a woman (or more than one woman)…
But if you’ve been dating a rotation of women for a while now, you should try to figure out whether you really aren’t interested in an exclusive relationship, or if you’re just afraid of shutting the door to more possibilities.
One easy way to answer this question is to picture the girl you’re seeing dating someone else. Imagine another guy making her laugh, holding her hand, texting her all night long — how does that make you feel?
If she’s really a girl you’re into, chances are you’ll get past FOMO really quickly once you realize that you don’t want her to date other men.
Here’s the bottom line: If you’re happier than you’ve been in years with a woman, that should be proof enough that you aren’t “missing out” on anything.
3) Talk It Out
With more than half of all singles experiencing FOMO, it’s likely that the woman you’re into understands your fear.
Whether you’ve never been in a serious relationship before or you’ve only been in long-term relationships, let her know how you’re feeling.
If you do want to see her exclusively, tell her, but be clear that you’re a little nervous by the prospect of settling down.
She’ll appreciate your honesty — trust me.
Plus, it will keep her from wondering why you seem anxious or “off” from time to time.
Keeping an open dialogue about your fears is a great foundation for any new relationship — and it’s also a great way to maintain a healthy one.
It’s true that all of this information will help you find & attract your “dream girl”… but what if there’s more information out there?
What if there’s more data that can help you not only attract “the one”… but also know exactly what to do in any given situation?
After a little digging… here’s what I found:
Bonus: The Top-Secret Sex Study the Government Doesn’t Want You To See…
The “Singles in America” study can certainly help you find your “dream girl”…
But it’s not the whole story. And in fact, it’s just the tip of the iceberg.
Another recent study, conducted inside a secret government research facility, discovered a way for you to actually predict how a woman will act… and in nearly any situation (sexual or otherwise).
It’s called “Predictive Behavior Modeling”… and it gives you the power to anticipate her actions… thoughts… and desires… almost before she even has them.
This means that you’ll know exactly what to say & do on a date… how to get a second date… or even how to get her to home with you that same night…
So you can just sit back… relax… and “let it happen.” 🙂
I stumbled upon it while I was doing research for this article… and I’ve gotta say, it’s pretty crazy how accurate it is.
But just a heads up… this information is technically “banned” from the public… so I’m probably gonna have to take this down soon (like tonight — fingers crossed “they” don’t see it)…
Check it out here while you still can:
Discover the Top-Secret Sex Study the Government Doesn’t Want You To See…
