If you’ve ever felt nervous or anxious when you’re in bed with a woman, then you’re not alone — not by a long shot.
However, that doesn’t make handling your anxiety any easier. I would know — when I was in my 20’s, I suffered from E.D. And it gave me a ton of anxiety at the time.
But with a little research and a lot of practice, I was able to overcome it without any expensive therapy or drugs.
So today, I want to show you my top three techniques to overcome sexual performance anxiety and have amazing sex.
So whether you’re having some sort of sexual issue or just want to be less anxious and more present in the bedroom (and a better lover), here are three things you can do:
1) Breathe Deeply
The first step is to breathe deeply.
You’ve probably heard me say this in other videos before, and you may have even heard it from somewhere else. That’s because it’s the hands-down most obvious thing that works every time.
When you’re anxious, you forget to breathe. And by breathing deeply, you’re not only telling your subconscious that you’re going to be in a relaxed state…
You’re also oxygenating your blood and reducing your own stress response.
Hopefully, it will also reduce the cortisol levels in your body, which can help prevent premature ejaculation and erection-related issues.
So take a deep breath into your belly, and that will help regulate things for you and put you back into the moment.
2) Do What Feels Good For You
This may seem obvious because you’re having sex, and you probably have sex to feel good. However, a lot of guys forget about this — especially when they’re anxious.
And that can take you out of the moment very quickly.
So instead of doing all of that, be as selfish as possible for a period of time until you get back into yourself and do exactly what feels good.
Imagine you’re the only person in the room, and do whatever you would normally do to make your body feel as good as possible. Obviously, there’s another woman in the room, but for a moment, think about it like that.
This works because when you get into your reptilian brain and become sensually selfish for a moment, it instantly gets rid of anxiety because anxiety can’t exist on that level.
3) The Silver Bullet
Finally, this last step is the hardest, but it’s also what works extremely well:
Call it out.
When you’re anxious, a lot of the time it’s because you fear being judged. By calling it out, you replace that fear with your own reality and force her to accept it as well.
This is how I overcame my E.D. in my 20’s, and it’s a piece of advice I urge all of my clients to adhere to.
I did it with many different women in many different situations. I’d just be like, “Hey, I’m feeling a little funny. I’m anxious right now.”
When you do this, you’re simply making a statement. You’re not asking her to help you or fix you.
And you’re not making excuses — you’re just calling it out.
By saying this and allowing her to hear it, you’re alleviating all of the shame you may be feeling as well.
Every single time I ever did this, the woman was receptive to me. Even if she was a little “weird” about it, she accepted it and didn’t insult or belittle me.
Funnily enough, after doing it a few times, along with some other things I was doing, it got rid of my erection issues altogether.
One thing that some guys find difficult to get over, though, is feeling like they’re “big” enough for the woman they’re with.
And the truth is, I used to worry about that too… until I found this:
What She REALLY Thinks About Your Size “Down There”…
For years, I thought women only cared about one thing in a guy:
D**k size.
I mean, I’m not exactly Ron Jeremy… so when I would see porn with these huge d**ks… it made me worry I “wasn’t enough” for the women I was with.
To be honest, it messed with my mind… and gnawed away at my sexual confidence with women…
Late one night, I was “browsing” the internet (you and I both know what that means haha)… and I stumbled upon this behind the scenes interview, with 3 hot pornstars… answering the question I had been dying to know for years:
“Does size really matter to women in bed?”
And man, it changed my life.
Turns out, size isn’t what matters most to women in bed… it’s something else entirely:
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