When is the right time to have sex with a new partner?
It’s a question every new couple has to ask themselves…
How soon is too soon? Are we ready? Are there benefits to waiting?
I’m going to be honest, as a guy, I’m not good at waiting.
I don’t have a lot of patience when sex is involved. (Especially when it’s a really hot woman.)
But I have wondered in the past if having sex right away would ruin a budding relationship…
And I’ve definitely met women whom who I really thought wanted to have sex with me the night we met, but then she got worried about what other people would think.
Some people get down to business the first time they meet, even before their first real date.
Some people choose to wait until marriage.
The vast majority of us end up falling somewhere in between those two extremes.
But fortunately for those of you not interested in waiting (which is me, lol), it turns out you don’t have to play by “the rules.”
Mostly because there are none.
The amount of time people think is appropriate to wait to have sex is dependent on a lot of things. Their gender, their age, what they expect to get out of the relationship long term, as well as the chemistry of the two people.
What the Numbers Say…
A study by YOUGOV UK found (unsurprisingly) that 28% of men say they would have sex with someone the first time they meet. That compares to just 7% of women.
This idea seems to be pretty socially acceptable, and it’s not hard to see where this notion took hold.
Women tend to follow it because they’re worried about being thought of as “slutty”, while men go along with it because they don’t want to seem to overeager.
So what’s the difference between women and men? Men of all age groups were ready to have sex on first meeting by a large percentage, whereas the majority of women wanted to wait until until around the third date.
Another thing that stands out is a significant number of the women surveyed didn’t provide a specific time table for how long they wanted to wait.
They simply said that they would wait until they fell in love…
The study looked at almost 11,000 people, the vast majority of which had been in their current relationships for over a year, and sought to find out how satisfied they were.
It’s worth pointing out that those who waited a little longer to have sex reported being more satisfied in their current relationship than those who had sex right away…
Still, the differences between groups were small, with those who hopped into bed right away only being slightly less satisfied with relationship outcomes than those who waited.
So What Does All of This Tell Us?
There are no firm rules about how soon you should have sex with someone. It depends completely on your expectations, your wants and needs, as well as those of your partner.
The data show that there doesn’t seem to be as big of a stigma as people think about hooking up early, and if you and your partner don’t feel like waiting, there shouldn’t be anything stopping you.
But what can you do if society’s hang ups have gotten to her, and she’s not quite ready? What can you do to get yourself in the sack as quick as possible?
First, Try to Find a Younger Woman.
Remember, women in the 18-24 age group are reportedly the most likely to be up for it on the first meeting. Women in the 25-34 age range are right behind.
If you’re looking for your best shot, seek out someone under thirty five, as a woman’s desire to wait increases with age. 32% of women who were fifty five and up said that they’d wait until they’re in love.
This “Caveman Trick” Unleashes Her Fast Sex Fetish…
Seriously, the answer to making any woman feel like she absolutely MUST go home with you tonight and have sex — as much sex as she can, all night long — is as old as humanity itself…
People tend to forget that humans are animals, too… And all animals are biologically wired to want sex.
It’s literally hard coded into our DNA.
It’s society that’s taught us that sex with strangers is bad.
(Which is why we’re now seeing this huge anti-slut shaming backlash in our culture.)
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