We All Know That Dating Is Expensive–But How Much Are You Really Spending Each Year?
How much do you usually spend on a first date?
Around $30? $40? $100?
The number varies for many men — and it also depends on the kind of date you’re going on.
Now let’s take it one step further:
How much do you spend on sex & dating every year?
Chances are you need a little more time to think about the answer. And hey, I can’t blame you (I don’t even know the answer for myself — and I’m writing this article!).
Well, one recent study looked into how much the average man and woman spends pursuing sex & dating each year… and the results might shock you.
So when it comes to the cost of sex & dating, where exactly do you stand?
Let’s find out:
Do You Spend More on Sex & Dating Than the Average Man?
The study looked at 2,287 men and women and examined both men’s and women’s spending habits when it comes to the pursuit of sex & dating.
Here’s what they found:
While women spend an average $950 every year on things like lingerie, makeup, and other general sex & dating-related upkeep…
The average man spends a whopping $2,540 every year pursuing sex & dating.
“WTF?” You might be thinking… and I get it.
According to the study, the extra $1,590 men spend comes from paying for things like drinks, dinners, and expensive jewelry.
A lot of guys also throw down for gym memberships, so they can stay in the best shape for the ladies.
That all makes sense — but it still seems almost wrong that men are spending so much more than women.
I wanted to get to the bottom of it… so I developed a simple strategy you can follow to even out the playing field a little more.
Would you like to save on the costs of sex & dating without compromising your sexual success?
Here’s how:
1) Plan Your First Dates Wisely
One of the biggest costs of pursuing sex & dating as a man is — you guessed it — planning the first date.
However, not all first dates have to be expensive.
Instead of planning a date at a nice restaurant or a movie, try taking her to a local bar near your apartment, for example.
You could even go during happy hour when drinks tend to be less expensive (just don’t tell her that’s why you’re going there).
Also try checking out your local art galleries or museums — most of these places have at least one day a week when there’s no entry fee.
And when the check comes (if you do go to a bar), suggest you split the tab. If she agrees, then it’s a sign that she likes you for your personality and isn’t just trying to have a night out on someone else’s dime.
And if she scoffs at the idea? You might want to forget the second date — this woman is probably going to cost you more in the long run.
2) Forget the Extravagant Gestures (She Doesn’t Want Them Anyway)
This is an add-on to my last point:
Stop buying women flowers and expensive jewelry! I mean it.
As a woman, I can tell you that flowers have become a trite romantic gesture and are generally a nuisance. Plus, they all die anyway.
And as far as expensive jewelry goes, some of it is nice, sure — but more often than not, men choose expensive jewelry that can only be worn on super special occasions.
Why spend thousands on something she’ll only wear once or twice per year? Not worth it.
3) Get Creative
The study mentioned that part of the money men spend on sex & dating involves going to the gym. However, you definitely do not need a fancy gym membership to get fit.
YouTube has all sorts of fitness videos — try working out to a few in the comfort of your own home, and see which ones you like best.
Groupon also offers lots of cheap fitness classes if that’s more your style.
Another big chunk of sex & dating-related spending is planning a “date night.” So if you are in a relationship, try getting creative with a few low-cost ideas:
- Stay in and cook a meal for her…
- Plan a “movie night” with popcorn and beer or wine at home…
- Have a night where you play board games and compete for a “prize”…
- Go to a park or another outdoor public space and have a picnic…
The possibilities are truly endless — all you have to spend is a little of your time thinking about it.
4) Use Online Dating to Your Advantage
I know, I know — online dating is hard. But if you really want to save $$$ and meet more women, online dating is an essential tool you should be using.
You don’t have to use Tinder, either. Try OkCupid, Bumble, or Hinge, for example.
And when you do start talking to women, look for the signs she’s a gold digger before agreeing to a date.
For example, is she wearing expensive, name-brand clothes in her profile photos? Or does she have pictures of her going out all the time to fancy clubs?
These are two dead giveaways she might be more concerned with your wallet than your personality.
Finally, this last tip is the easiest way for you to save on sex & dating without compromising your sexual success… it’s simple:
5) Know What She Wants (Before Every Other Guy Does)
I often wonder why some guys just seem to *get* me on the first date… almost like they know what I want, before I know I want it… while other guys seem so clueless & confused.
So when I attended an event for dating experts in Manhattan the other night… I asked one of the guest speakers about it afterward.
Here’s what happened:
Him: “Those guys who just *get* you… they’re the ones you usually end up going home with on the first date, right?”
Me: “Well… yeah. It’s kinda crazy… some guys just know what to say from start to finish… almost like they can–”
Him: “Read your mind?”
Me: “Yeah!”
Him: “Ha — that’s no mistake. In my experience, those ‘smooth’ guys… well, they know what to do because they did their homework. They spent hours Googling what women want in a man… reading blogs about how to act on a date… analyzing dozens of sex & dating studies… all that stuff.”
Me: “Doesn’t that take up a lot of time and energy though?”
Him: “Yeah… it’s a pain in the a**. Which is why us guys in the dating community developed a little ‘cheat sheet’ that we like to use instead.
He went on:
“It’s got all the same information and statistics that those other guys have… so that any guy can use it to predict what a woman is going to say or do on a date… without having to do all that ‘homework’ himself.”
Well, as you may have guessed, I had to get my hands on that “cheat sheet” (being the researcher that I am)… I think you’re gonna like this a lot:
Get the “Cheat Sheet” That Shows You What to Say & Do for MAXIMUM Sexual Success…
