Have You Ever Asked Yourself: Why Does She Ignore Me? This Expert’s Answer May Surprise you…
I constantly work with clients who seem frustrated by the dynamics of the first meeting.
They often tell me:
“She seems to like me, but when I make my intentions clear she freaks out and runs away.”
Or…
“She seems to like me, but if I don’t make my intentions clear she loses interest.”
From the first word of mine you’ve ever read, you know that I’ve been trying to help you gain the ability to light a girl up like a candle.
But so often, guys see that first hint of “light” from a woman and immediately jump the gun.
That’s what I want to address today. I’ll show you why women seem to “randomly” lose interest, and how to escalate with her properly so you never have to worry about scaring her away.
The “Candle Analogy” (Or Why Sexual Escalation Is Like Starting A Fire)
A candle is a beautiful thing, but it doesn’t work the way most people think it does.
What burns in a candle?
Most people think that the wick is the part of the candle that burns. What does the wax do, though?
In fact, when you light the wick, it burns pretty quickly down to the portion that is too wet with wax to burn–candle wax won’t burn at the same temperature that the wick does.
While the wick is burning down near the surface of the wax, the heat it produces begins to melt the wax. Once the wax melts, it begins to release the volatile gas that actually stays lit and burns down in the candle.
(If you don’t believe me, once a candle is already lit, blow it out and then bring a flame a half-inch from the wick. The candle will relight before you touch the wick because the gas floating above the candle will light.)
The wick holds the flame close enough to the wax to burn all the escaping gas.
The wick is not the part of the candle that is burning–it’s the part of the candle that you light.
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It Doesn’t End There…
What’s the point I’m making?
Have you ever gone camping? Have you ever lit a fire without a match or a candle?
How do you do it?
Lighting a fire starts with kindling and other dry things. That is certainly not enough stuff to cook your dinner or keep you warm throughout the night, though.
However, a big fuel-filled log is not going to light by twirling a stick or friction or even from using a match.
The point I’m making here is that the act of lighting a fire is very different from getting heat and light from it. It’s different from keeping that flame burning.
Meeting a woman–moving from “Hi, I like your style,” to, “This is my girlfriend, Melanie”--is a lot like this.
You are starting a fire, and you want to keep it burning so you get the warmth and comfort from it.
So how do you do it without scaring her away (or extinguishing that flame)?
How To Start Her Sexual Fire & Keep the Flame Burning Strong
A lot of guys seem to want to get heat from the fire, but they are unable to light it.
Or they want to keep lighting a fire that’s already lit, without realizing that they need to put fuel on the fire.
When you first meet a woman and you are attempting to make that magical transition from “We get along well,” to, “I want to be with you,” it’s a lot like lighting a fire.
The first gentle sparks that come from the twirling twig are just enough to barely catch a red ember in the kindling.
And when that ember–that glowing red smoke–comes, what happens next?
Do you throw a log on it, forget about it, and then start going about your business?
Nope.
Next, you get close to it and gently blow.
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You feed it with oxygen and cup your hands to protect it from too much wind–you coddle it.
If you treat it right–and you give it the patience it deserves–you’ll get those embers to burst into a tiny bit of flame.
That flame will then be hungry for more kindling, so now you have to feed that flame to keep it alive.
So, you drop that big old log on it, right?
Not so fast!
The flame is ready, but it will not light a log–the temperature needed is too high.
So now you start feeding that little flame with slightly bigger dry things–twigs and leaves–usually already setup to make the most of the flame.
How is it “setup”?
Well, your twigs and leaves and small brittle things are arranged so air can make its way comfortably around them, and so that the flame can stay alive.
This is what we call the “logistics” of sexual escalation.
Is There an Easy Way to Keep That “Flame” Alive?
These “logistics” are the key to keeping that flame alive and growing until you have a fire that you no longer have to watch.
By exercising control over where you take her and how you sit, for example, you can maximize the romantic or seductive effect of the first meetup.
As your flame grows bigger, you add bigger pieces of wood that maybe aren’t so brittle–this is when you guys are getting along well enough that there’s far more room for “slip-ups” and boring conversation topics.
Finally, when the flame is high enough, you can add the real logs.
At that point, the flame is big and hungry enough that it will devour everything you put in it and burn through the night without any more attention.
I hope you realize that the flame is a metaphor for that attraction she has to you. It begins as a fragile, easily-outed red glow in kindling and–if it’s handled and fed right–becomes a raging inferno that burns up everything in its path.
That is to say, her desire for you will continue to grow, even if there are obstacles.
(For example, if her mom doesn’t like you or her ex-boyfriend wants her back. With a big enough fire, these things are irrelevant.)
Eventually, that attraction and affection grow to the point where it takes on a life of its own.
I know, I know–it sounds like a lot of work. And I’ll admit, it’s not always easy.
That’s why I want to show you a simple way to get her fire burning for you. Some logistics are required, yes…
Though when done right, what I’m about to show you will allow you to sit back… relax… and let her chase you all the way back to your place ;-):
If That Fire Is Already Dead or Dying? Here’s How to Rekindle It…
Here’s a secret that most men don’t realize about women…
Women are terrified of being rejected.
And if a woman thinks that you might reject her, even a little bit, then she will start chasing you, and chasing you HARD…
… It’s just how their brains are wired…
Which means that if you can trigger this feeling in a woman, she’ll start messaging you to meet up…
… asking you to hang out way more often… and in some cases, she may even show up naked to your doorstep uninvited.
(Even if it’s been days, months, or longer since she last said anything to you)
And in fact you can do this in a few simple texts.
Now… I can’t take credit for these… they come from my fellow expert Glenn…
But I personally use them with new girls all the time, and you can literally copy & paste them into your phone and use them right now.
Click the one you wanna know more about below:
1) If You Want to Get Her to Meet Up or Come Over (Without Sounding “Needy”)
2) The “Howard Stern Trick” That Gets Her H*rny
3) The “Excuse Herself Exchange” That Gets Her to Come Over
4) If She Asks You A Question (This Instantly Turns Things Sexual)
5) The “Shower” Secret That Makes Her Think About Sex With You
P.S. I’ve had the most success sending these two texts in a row… would you try it?
