And it made continuing the conversation extremely difficult.
That was until I read a book, by award-winning author Malcolm Gladwell.
Hi, I’m sex expert Ruwando — and as part of my ongoing video series, I’m sharing my best pieces of advice to help you get physical with a woman the way you want — and in practically any situation.
So today, I want to show you this little-known “secret,” and how it can completely change the way you interact and get sexual with women:
Hey, Ruwan here, and today I want to talk about something that was a total game-changer for me and my love life:
Intuition.
So, intuition can seem like this crazy, mystical and magical thing if you don’t have experiences with it. However, as a mammal, you are an intuitive being.
As a human, you are able to emphasize with other people and in life — and it has a huge impact with how you interact and sexually escalate with women.
I know it can be a little hard to explain, or this might seem like a bizarre concept to you.
So let me illustrate this concept using a book from a well-known author.
The best explanation of what intuition is and why it matters comes from the book Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell.
In the book, Gladwell talks about this term called “thin slicing.”
Basically, it works like this:
At any given moment, you’re getting all these stimuli from your environment and your mind can only handle so much. Your mind can only analyze a few of your surroundings at a time.
So you take this small amount of data, you filter it, and you become conscious of just a little bit of it.
Your subconscious, however, can actually process way more of your environment than your conscious mind.
So even though you’re not consciously aware of 100% of your surroundings, your brain is still processing it.
How Does This Affect Your Interactions With Women?
So when you’re with a woman, your subconscious stores all of this information, even though your conscious mind can only be aware of a few things.
For example, a lot of body language experts will try to teach you, “Oh, this tell means this and this means that. Whatever.”
And that’s all true and fine, but if you’re trying to consciously pick up on all of that, you won’t be in the moment. You’ll come off as robotic and stuff, and you’ll be thinking way too much about it.
You have to stop thinking so much and start trusting your gut — then you’ll know exactly what to do, and when.
Can You Learn Intuition?
So you have intuition naturally, but not all guys know how to use it. And that’s because it’s easy to forget about.
In my experience, the easiest way to re-learn this intuition is to just pay attention to your surroundings when you’re with a woman.
The truth is, if you pay attention to a woman while you’re speaking with her or when you’re with her in any sexual situation, you’ll know exactly how to behave with her.
The more attention you pay, the more you’re going to pick up on this sensory data when you’re with her, and the better you’ll know when to kiss her or make a move.
It Doesn’t End There…
Have you ever been with a woman, and suddenly something pops into your head saying, “Should I kiss her right now?”
That’s likely you picking up on a subconscious signal that she wants to be kissed.
This is your mind interpreting the feeling in a way that’s showing you what to do.
However, does that mean your intuition is always correct? No — and that’s fine! Like I said, it’s a skill you have to build.
Calibration is the next step. So whenever you have these intuitive thoughts or want to escalate with a woman, you have to calibrate and make sure it’s what she wants first.
For example, if you get the thought, “Oh, maybe she wants to be kissed,” then act on your intuition, but don’t treat it as the almighty truth.
Maybe put your arm around her or touch her first, and pay attention to her feedback.
If she moves toward you, then she probably wants you to kiss her. If she pulls back, on the other hand, it’s probably a no-go.
This is basically how “naturals” with women do it. They use their intuition, they test their feelings, and they pay attention to the feedback they get and go from there.
However, if you don't feel like a total “natural” with your intuition yet, I know it can still be frustrating to decode a woman's signals.
So here's a little trick that's been working really well for me lately:
BONUS: The Easiest Way to Know for Certain She Wants You to Make a Move…
Your gut is telling you it might be time to “go for it”… but you’re still too nervous to make a move in case you're wrong…
Then there’s ONE thing you can do to find out for sure if she’s DTF:
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