If Your Relationship Is Cooling Down, It Might Be Time To Ask Yourself: What Is The Seven Year Itch? And Is There A Way Around It?
If you make it past the third year of your relationship, congratulations! That’s a hell of a lot more than most people.
Though you may have hit some roadblocks along the way.
Maybe she doesn’t want sex as often as you do…
Or perhaps there’s just that one fight you can’t quite get over..
Whatever it is, I’d love to tell you that you’re beyond the worst of it, and there’s nothing but smooth sailing ahead.
Unfortunately…I can’t.
Statistically speaking, Cap’n, you’re fixin’ to hit the roughest waters of your relationship in the coming years. But what exactly is the so-called “7 year itch”? And how can you get around it?
It’s Evolution, Baby! (Maybe)
People who study these things (like scientists and sh-t) have determined that most long-term relationships end somewhere between 4 and 7 years.
Whether you call it the four-year hump or the seven-year itch, the struggle is real.
Some researchers think that the reason relationships fizzle after the four-year mark is because we’re biologically hardwired to move on.
Mammals pair up to mate and have babies. After 4 years, children need less care, so we feel like we’re pretty much done and ready to go looking for another mate.
Basically, mammals — including us humans — are not designed to mate for life. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. You just have to pay attention to these things.
If this theory is valid, you may not even realize why you’re feeling unhappy…
Dissatisfied…
Or like you need to sleep with another woman.
So, knowing that your feelings could be an evolutionary hardware malfunction gives you a place to start (and an excuse, I guess, if you want one) when it comes to dealing with them.
So what do you do from there?
How to Scratch The “7 Year Itch” For Good (Hint: Don’t Do It Yourself)
I wish I’d read some of these studies earlier, because I may have been able to avoid a lot of my own problems in my marriage.
I cheated on my wife at 7 years on the dot — as cliche as can be. The affair started about 6 weeks before our seventh anniversary and ended a couple weeks after.
Why did I do it?
I knew something wasn’t right, but I blamed it on a number of other things…rather than examining the possibility that it was instinctual.
My mother had died recently…
Work had become increasingly stressful…
My father had become ill…
And my second child was born — all in the span of a few months.
With an infant, a toddler, and a job, my wife was stressed and busy.
But a bartender at my local watering hole was just the right kind of nice to me as I was waded through my swamp of emotions.
So, I started hanging out there more and more often.
Then we started drinking together after her shifts…and suddenly, we were sleeping together. You know that thing about a “woman’s intuition” It’s true.
I thought I was being discreet and covering my tracks really well. Though my wife suspected my affair almost immediately. After several weeks, my father died, and it jarred me to my senses.
My wife and I went through therapy, and I jumped through all sorts of hoops to try and make things work.
We didn’t divorce until nearly 10 years later, but I’d put a big dent in my wife’s trust — and my cheating was a part of pretty much every argument we had for the next decade.
It just wasn’t worth it, and I knew I could never take back my affair.
So here’s what I suggest so you don’t make the same mistake I did:
Why You Should Always Let Her Help You
If you feel yourself getting the “itch,” think deeply about why you may be feeling the way you do.
Try to pinpoint what — if anything — is missing. And then do something about it.
Talk to your partner (but definitely don’t lead off with “I’m thinking of sleeping with other women!”).
Let her know that you feel like something might be a little off. Guess what? She may think so, too, because she is also a mammal.
So, now you’ve got a dialogue going. What do you do next? Well, there’s a study for that, too.
Spice up your sex life! This is where talking counts.
Couples who communicate about their sex lives tend to be much happier with the sex they’re having.
Variety is also a big factor that comes into play with what you do between the sheets.
Role-playing…
Sex toys…
And even a little light S&M can boost the meter on her sexual satisfaction (and yours).
The biggest measures of sexual satisfaction, though, are frequency and quality of sex. Not surprisingly, men want more sex, and women want more orgasms. And the more oral, the better.
So have a conversation — agree on how often you both should have sex with each other — and focus on her pleasure. You’ll reap the benefits later. 😉
And if you’re not sure where to start…or you aren’t feeling ready to have that conversation just yet…
Here’s a “workout” that helped make my sex life better than I ever imagined:
How to Use The “Warrior Workout” For Longer and Stronger Erections
If you’re like me, you don’t want to take a prescription or some sketchy “drug” to stay rock hard…you want to do it the natural way.
Enter — the “Warrior Workout.” All you need is 20 minutes and your own 2 hands to improve the size and strength of your erections. Here’s how:
1) The “Warm-Up” Stretch: Grip the tip of your penis — hold it and stretch it. If you want more info on how to do it, check this out.
2) “The Slide”: Make an “OK” grip, start at your base, slide to the right spot, and repeat. (For step-by-step instructions, go here.)
3) Pelvic Floor Muscle Exercises: AKA “kegels.” Just contract and hold as long as you can. If you want to maximize your power, check out this cool little trick.
4) The “Reverse-Kegel”: Push out, relax, and repeat. You can even use these during sex — go here to see what I mean.
Now put all 4 together, and you’ll be unstoppable:
Discover the “Warrior Workout” for Longer and Stronger Erections in 2 Weeks or Less…
P.S. No Warrior Workout would be complete without THIS… 😉
