Are Your Porn Habits Killing Your Sex Life? Dating Expert Reveals All…
More people watch porn in the United States than anywhere else in the world.
In 2015 alone, nearly 88 trillion videos were viewed worldwide on Pornhub — that’s 12 videos per person on the planet. In one year. On one porn site.
Let’s face it: Porn can be awesome.
But when does it go from being a pleasurable release to something more insidious? And how do you know when it’s a problem?
The Dating Expert Who Reveals All…
Simone Paget was always the friend with the “weird and crazy dating stories.”
She’s experienced everything — from the guy who asked her to come over and make him a sandwich because his mom wasn’t home…
To the guy who was a perfect gentleman in person, but in text he couldn’t stop talking about her “boobies”…
In an effort to document her stories, Simone started a blog, and within a year it took off.
Simone is now the resident sex, dating, and relationship columnist for the Toronto Sun, and her blog, Skinnydip.ca, has an established following of readers who love following her life — in both the dating realm and otherwise.
It’s safe to say Simone knows what she’s talking about when it comes to sex and dating (and she’s even writing a book about it!).
Over the years, Simone has found that a lot of what men do wrong during sex can be linked back to their porn consumption.
In fact, did you know that porn can ruin your sex life in the future even if you’re not having regular sex right now?
There are five serious consequences of watching too much porn that most men never realize…
Before you can start having the best sex of your life (and more on that in just a second), you have to recognize if something is stopping you — now is the time to find out.
So if you want to climb inside the mind of a woman and understand what’s really going on in her head when she’s having sex with you…
Then Simone’s got the answers.
5 Dangerous Consequences of Watching Too Much Porn
1) You send her running for the hills (without knowing what you did wrong).
Women love being sexual…
And the right women are even willing to try new things in bed with you…
But not 24/7.
If you find yourself trying to sext the girl you met at that bar last week every single afternoon, then you might be driving her away without even realizing it.
It’s easy to think that, because you can watch porn 24/7, and because the women in these videos are perpetually turned on, that you can initiate sexual conversation at any time, and she’ll be down for it if she’s cool.
According to Simone,
“There’s a time and place for [sexting], and it’s not all day, every day…That’s a big turn-off. Knowing how to be sexy without being overly sexual all the time [is a good thing].”
Your porn habits could be subconsciously influencing the way your brain thinks about sex in such a way that you want to be sexual all the time and you aren’t able to “turn it off.”
And if she realizes that, chances are you’ll not just turn her off, but send her running — far away from you.
2) You feel worse about yourself.
He’s:
- Ripped…
- Powerful…
- Aggressive…
- And super well-hung…
What I just described is basically every male porn star.
When you watch video after video of this type of guy having sex with really hot women, then it’s only natural to want to be him.
Here’s the thing, though: Women don’t always want the ripped, powerful, aggressive man.
He’s one-dimensional and completely boring.
So if you’re constantly holding yourself up to this high standard, you end up feeling bad if you don’t live up to it…
And you could be pushing women away because of it.
Why?
When you feel badly about yourself, women can pick up on it almost immediately. And a lack of confidence is a huge turn-off.
Speaking of pushing her away…
3) You won’t be as satisfied when you do have sex.
You might think that watching porn is a great way to prepare for upcoming sexual encounters.
You won’t have all of that pent up sexual energy, and you’ll know exactly what to do to get her off every time…right?
Wrong.
Porn is rarely realistic, and a lot of the positions in the videos are not only uncomfortable, but they’re not actually pleasurable either.
According to Simone,
“…[Men] think that [porn] is what [sex in real life] should be and sound like when that’s not true, or not necessarily realistic for normal people. It’s not really sexy, either. [Men] don’t realize a lot of that stuff [happens] because it’s a movie and there’s camera angles…It’s not real life.”
If you expect every sexual experience you have to resemble your favorite porn video, then chances are she won’t want to have sex with you ever again.
When you focus on how your sex measures up to what you see in porn, you can’t focus on your own pleasure (let alone hers)…
And that means you won’t feel nearly as good as if you just let your expectations go and embrace the sex you’re having.
4) You use the wrong kind of dirty talk.
Dirty talk can be a lot of fun.
And when it’s done correctly, it can be a huge turn-on.
But the dirty talk in porn usually has nothing to do with the dirty talk she wants to hear from you.
According to Simone, this goes hand in hand with the bad sexting.
“When you’re talking in the bedroom but you sound like the soundtrack of a bad porno, it’s usually a bad thing. Sometimes there’s a time and a place for that…but using language that’s not sexy [is a turn-off]. I’ve encountered that before, especially from guys who do watch a lot [of porn] and consume that kind of media.”
Now, that’s not to say you should never try dirty talk in bed with a woman, but if you do, don’t be too obvious. According to Simone,
“It’s like talking about body parts like, ‘Oh yeah, doing this, doing that.’ You don’t need to narrate exactly what’s happening because I’m there. Sometimes silence is actually sexier.”
If you do want to talk dirty, a simple whisper about what you like can work wonders. As resident sex expert Ruwando has mentioned before, your choice of words can make her want you just like that — but you have to say the right thing.
So if you’re sourcing your material from porn, you’re probably going to fall flat every single time.
5) You’re missing out on women who want to go home with you.
There’s a difference between “watching too much porn” and being diagnosed with a porn addiction.
But there is one similarity: Both conditions can cause you to become completely anti-social.
If you feel like porn is your only “escape”…
And you watch it to avoid seeing and interacting with people…
Then you could be missing hundreds of opportunities to meet real-life women who are interested in sex right now.
I’m not going to deny that getting a release from porn is easier than finding someone to have enjoyable sex with, but the truth is that it’s far less satisfying.
If you find yourself getting lost in the K-hole of porn on a daily basis for hours at a time, then you might need to reconsider your habits.
But I do have some advice for what you can do to instantly improve your sex life…
How You Can Have Better Sex Right Now…
The truth is that real women want you to be sexual with them…
They’re so desperate, in fact, that they’ll seek out other outlets if they aren’t being satisfied.
So if you’re watching porn instead of touching her, she’ll find pleasure somewhere else — guaranteed.
In fact, did you know that more and more women are shelling out hundreds of dollars to get “happy ending” massages from specially-trained masseuses?
It’s absolutely true–women literally pay these men to touch them–solely because they crave a specific type of touch in the bedroom. If they can’t get it, they’ll go anywhere else to find it…
Once you have this knowledge, you can skip the adult sites and use it to have a real girl in your bed, arching her back and moaning your name as she begs for more.
Just check this out to learn why she’ll do almost anything to get the touch she’s craving…
