What happened there? My uncle determined the frame of the event.
The boy’s frame was, “Owww! I got hurt! I fell down hard!
My uncle’s frame, on the other hand, was, “That was fun and it was funny. We were playing. We had fun!”
How “Frame Control” Helps You Attract Women With Your Texts…
This is a concept I call “frame control.”
Frame control is certainly not easy in face-to-face situations–especially with a better communicator.
Sorry to be sexist about this, but while my uncle may have aced a communications competition with his one-year-old son… almost every female over the age of 17 is probably a better communicator than you are–if you are male.
Of course, this is not always the case. There are no hard and fast rules in any area of human performance–of endeavor.
This means that in a face-to-face conversation, or talking on the phone, it’s very likely that a woman will be able to push your buttons and amplify emotions that may not be helpful to you.
This reduces, of course, as you get better at the two most important male characteristics where social interactions are concerned:
Self-confidence & self-acceptance.
With texting, you can keep the effect of this extortion to yourself.
Of course, this is a guideline. You can definitely have some instant chat portions of this text conversation, but not right away. It’s best to get her used to the fact that even if time passes, you WILL respond.
2) After your instant response, let reasonable spaces interrupt your responses.
Not all day, mind you–but 15 minutes, half an hour, and sometimes even 45 minutes are very comfortable.
3) Let your responses–this is for a girl you were very close to in person, mind you–be even MORE intense than when you are in person.
Things like, “I can’t stop thinking about you…”
And, “Your face was the first thing I thought of today, and I’ve been in SUCH an amazing mood!” Would be too much if you guys were seeing each other more than once a week.
She would expect you to back that kind of obsession up with promises, gifts, and romantic gestures–depending on her personal love language.
When you’re in different time zones it just makes her eager to see you, but she can understand that you can’t physically prove that kind of affection from 8,000 miles away.
4) The next text after a long pause can return to an immediate intense kind of response.
This includes pauses between the evening and the next morning, or between the morning and the evening after you’ve had a full day.
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