Last week, I showed you some unexpected advantages of texting girls instead of calling them… and today, I want to talk a little bit more about that.
Because in today's day and age, there's no denying that texting is a huge part of your game when it comes to attracting women.
Especially when studies show texting is a huge component of escalating with women–in many cases, you may end up texting her consistently before you even go on a date together!
When it comes out of your mouth, you can't quite take it back. However, with texting, you can edit it in your head before you write it down.
Let's say you want to text her, “Fat Freddie will be joining us later… apparently he got drunk and made out with a waitress.”
But whoops! You remember that–small world–Freddie is her cousin's husband. So this sentiment then becomes:
“Freddie will be joining us later… apparently he got drunk.”
It Doesn’t End There…
On top of using your texts as a buffer, you can also use them to control the amount of conflict in your interactions.
Often, something that would seem contentious can be handled via text without emotions getting out of hand.
Sure, the other person may not be happy about the lack of “face time,” but in this scenario, voices cannot be raised…
No pushing or punching can ensue…
Sad faces that you can't say “no” to cannot be shown…
And there is a written record of everything that happened.
I won't deny that the same thing can happen in a face-to-face conversation. However, it's easier to miss, ignore, or pretend not to notice the seriousness when you're texting.
Now, I am not AT ALL suggesting that you don't take people seriously.
I am recommending, rather, that you exercise your ability to minimize the seriousness of the drama that may sometimes come your way.
Here's a personal example from my own life to illustrate this concept:
I remember–like it was yesterday–my uncle chatting with me as we watched his toddler exercise new legs across a basement's carpeted floor.
Looking over at the boy, he tossed a small basketball at his diapered backside.
He threw too hard or the boy was too unsteady, because after it hit his behind, the boy fell back, sitting down hard. He started to look and sound on the verge of tears.
What happened there? My uncle determined the frame of the event.
The boy’s frame was, “Owww! I got hurt! I fell down hard!
My uncle’s frame, on the other hand, was, “That was fun and it was funny. We were playing. We had fun!”
How “Frame Control” Helps You Attract Women With Your Texts…
This is a concept I call “frame control.”
Frame control is certainly not easy in face-to-face situations–especially with a better communicator.
Sorry to be sexist about this, but while my uncle may have aced a communications competition with his one-year-old son… almost every female over the age of 17 is probably a better communicator than you are–if you are male.
Of course, this is not always the case. There are no hard and fast rules in any area of human performance–of endeavor.
This means that in a face-to-face conversation, or talking on the phone, it's very likely that a woman will be able to push your buttons and amplify emotions that may not be helpful to you.
This reduces, of course, as you get better at the two most important male characteristics where social interactions are concerned:
Self-confidence & self-acceptance.
With texting, you can keep the effect of this extortion to yourself.
Or, “Forget it. I'm not going to speak to you again,” might have an intensely dramatic effect on you.
Sometimes it's best if she doesn't know that.
The #1 Texting Trick I Learned From a Political “Insider”…
A colleague who trains political candidates talks about the necessary number of “touches” which create loyalty or attachment.
Texting allows you to continue to give these touches–and the attention that another person craves–with a greatly reduced commitment of time and energy.
Let me show you what I mean.
Recently, a female friend told me why she broke up with her long-distance boyfriend:
“When he's with me, it's amazing. It's better than anything I've ever experienced. The sex is–for me–superior to any other relationship or fantasy I've ever had.”
“Wow,” I thought. “So naturally, you broke up with him.”
She went on:
“…But when we're apart, I feel like he's forgotten me. He drifts away. As soon as he's gone, I feel more and more like he's thinking, ‘how do I let her know I've lost interest?'”
Why does that happen?
Well, one on one face time is intense. You can't replace it with anything.
So how can you make a girl feel that intensity through texting? Is it even possible?
Yes–and I'll show you how.
5 Texting Hacks to Make Her Want You All The Time (Even When She’s Far Away)
Texts won’t replace that one on one personal contact, but it can fill the holes.
Instead of the intense 100% focused contact that you can give one on one, with texts you can contact often and quickly. Here’s how:
1) When she texts you, respond immediately.
But only to that first text.
Don’t get her used to an instant answer conversation in text, because you won’t be able to keep it up, and she will be more aware of the shortfall than the attention.
Of course, this is a guideline. You can definitely have some instant chat portions of this text conversation, but not right away. It's best to get her used to the fact that even if time passes, you WILL respond.
2) After your instant response, let reasonable spaces interrupt your responses.
Not all day, mind you–but 15 minutes, half an hour, and sometimes even 45 minutes are very comfortable.
3) Let your responses–this is for a girl you were very close to in person, mind you–be even MORE intense than when you are in person.
Things like, “I can’t stop thinking about you…”
And, “Your face was the first thing I thought of today, and I’ve been in SUCH an amazing mood!” Would be too much if you guys were seeing each other more than once a week.
She would expect you to back that kind of obsession up with promises, gifts, and romantic gestures–depending on her personal love language.
When you’re in different time zones it just makes her eager to see you, but she can understand that you can’t physically prove that kind of affection from 8,000 miles away.
4) The next text after a long pause can return to an immediate intense kind of response.
This includes pauses between the evening and the next morning, or between the morning and the evening after you've had a full day.
“I know it's ridiculous, but even though my day was great–I told you about that meeting that was so inspiring–it doesn't even feel complete until I see your name pop up in my phone.”
5) Reward her texts.
Intense responses like the above make it much more likely that–when she’s dying to talk to you–she’ll settle for the cold black typeface against her glowing phone screen.
Of course, it can take time to develop intense affection and attachment. Texting can give both of you the patience and the freedom to try the intense interaction that might be too much in person.
When a girl gives you her phone number, there's no guarantee that she actually likes you. Usually, doing this is just her way to figure out if she's interested in you sexually or not.
And as you probably already guessed, the way she figures this out… is through texting.
Not only do you have to stand out and get her attention–but if you want to eventually meet up & have sex with her, there are certain things you have to do too.
So that's what I want to share with you today!
I'm going to show you exactly what to text women, and when, so she'll be blowing up your phone and practically begging to meet up with you.
As a dating expert, I get asked questions about sex & women a lot–and so today, I'm answering this one:
“What are the best texts that get a girl to respond & keep her interested in you?”
Below are 8 proven texts to keep her interested…
In this video, I show you 8 texts that get instant responses & keep her interested in you, PLUS:
The#1 first text that makes women remember you the next day (works great if you met at a bar or club)…
How to easily avoid this huge mistakeother men make when giving their phone # to women…
My personal texting “pro tip” to keep conversations flowing without any dead-end messages like “k” or “thanks”…
A highly effective way to turn texting into a real-life meetup in a few days or less…
The texting trick that gets her to respond in seconds (can also lead to fast first dates)…
The Next Step: 5 Texts That Get Her to Meet Up With You (For Sex)
Now that you’ve been texting her, it’s time to ramp it up to the next level…
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