Talking to Girls at the Gym Has Never Been Easier–Do You Know These 3 Expert Openers?
My sister just joined a gym.
When she gets home every night, she tells us about what she did…
How long she did it…
And, of course — all about the cute guys she saw there.
Yup. It’s not only guys who check out the opposite sex at the gym. Us girls do it too.
And in fact, with the right conversation starters, you can easily approach a cute girl at the gym — and maybe even get a date out of it.
So today, with a little help from Gotham Club expert David Dupree, I’m going to show you the 3 best conversation starters to use on girls at the gym.
Are Women Secretly Checking You Out at The Gym? Here’s the Surprising Truth…
Like my sister, many women who go to the gym participate in a phenomenon called “stair gazing”, which is defined as:
The act of watching guys working out while you mindlessly climb the stair master.
It’s true — if you’ve been hoping that at least one of the cute girls working out around you notices how big your biceps are getting… then you’re in luck. Because chances are, most of the women at the gym have noticed you at least once before.
Don’t get me wrong — as a female and regular gym-goer, I work out hard. However, it’s always nice to have a little eye candy to check out every time I wipe the sweat from my eyes!
So now that you know there’s potential for a possible spark to happen, Gotham Club expert David Dupree has shared how to find out if that spark is the beginning of something more.
But before he shares his top 3 conversation starters, let’s talk about when you want to use them.
The #1 Time to Start a Conversation With a Cute Girl at The Gym…
While not every time is appropriate to talk to a girl at the gym (like if she’s about to walk in the locker room, for example), the absolute best time is during an instructor-led class.
Why?
This way, both of you are doing the same thing — taking a class — and, therefore, you have a couple things in common to talk and joke about.
Since both of you are there to get in a good workout, you’re going to want to make sure your opening comment is quick…
Easy to hear…
And has a time constraint.
But what exactly do I mean by “time constraint”?
Basically, just remember that no girl is going to have time for a full-on conversation with you during the workout, so you have to keep it simple.
3 Conversation Starters to Get the Ball Rolling…
So now that you know why talking to girls at the gym is easy, and when you should do it… let’s dive in to the 3 best conversation starters.
Here’s the first one:
“This is so much harder than I thought it was going to be!”
Say it with a smile — it lets her know that you’re a bit self-conscious. Which is great, because chances are she is too!
It puts both of you on an even playing field and gives her the opportunity to feel more comfortable around you.
Another opener you could try?
“Man, you’re really good at this.”
Or…
“What did [name of the instructor] say?”
By complimenting her technique, you’re taking the emphasis off of her physical attributes, so she won’t think you’re just checking out her body. And by asking her what the instructor said, you’re letting her know that you value her authority and respect her.
While true, these openers won’t get a full-fledged conversation going, they do a great job of establishing rapport, and make it even easier for you to talk to her once the class is over.
At the end of the day, whatever you say, make sure it is quick and easy. Remember, it’s just a comment — not a 10-minute conversation.
What Should You Do After the Conversation Gets Going?
I won’t lie — talking to women at the gym is tricky. It has to be the right situation, and the woman has to feel in control.
This is why you wait.
Instead of bombarding her with more questions during the class, give her some time to ease into the situation instead.
If she’s into you, when she finds the opportunity, she’ll start the conversation. Trust me. 🙂
Or even if she just laughs — you’ll know that she feels comfortable around you and wants to get to know you at least a little bit.
From there, it’s time to take things up a notch, and let her know that you’re interested in her…
And here’s the best way to do that:
The Time a Complete Stranger at the Gym Got Me to Ask HIM Out…
When I finished my workout last Wednesday, I just wanted to shower & go home. No small talk at the smoothie bar. No B.S.
Well, that all changed when I went to put my weights back.
As I slid the dumbbells back into their slots, I noticed some guy reaching for the weights next to mine… and then the craziest thing happened:
His hand grazed this spot on my arm… and I felt this kind of “spark.”
To be honest, it stopped me dead in my tracks… because the last time I felt something like that was with a guy I ended up sleeping with…
Naturally, I turned around to see who it was… and I have to admit, he wasn’t my type physically… though I guess there was something about him that seemed to pull me toward him… almost like a magnet… until I just couldn’t help myself:
“Uh, hey… I’m Bex. What’s your name?”
Well, we talked for a few minutes… it was just friendly chit-chat, but my heart was pounding… and this is kinda embarrassing to admit, but I even asked him if I could “feel his muscles” just as an excuse to touch him lol… and then I did something I’ve NEVER done before:
“Would you want to get coffee with me sometime? Here, let me give you my #…”
Later that night, I kept mulling over our conversation… what had triggered me to talk to him?
What did he do to make me feel that “spark”?
And why, oh why, had I been the one to ask HIM out???
I got on Google to do some research… and that’s when I found the answer:
