Dating Expert Responds: Should I Text Her Or Call Her & What Are the Advantages Of Texting?
Last week, I showed you some great ways to stand out and get more responses over text… however, there was one topic I didn't discuss in-depth:
Talking on the phone.
Because so many guys–especially older guys–still insist that talking on the phone is better than texting. However, in most cases, the opposite is true!
So today, I want to show you 5 key advantages of texting girls instead of calling them. And some of them may surprise you.
If you aren't really “into” texting…
Or you still believe that calling girls is the “decent” thing to do…
Then I'd like the opportunity to change your mind.
Because with the right texting skills, you can get way more dates–and fast sex–than you can over the phone.
And here are 5 surprising reasons why:
There is no question that texts are convenient. And often, they're more convenient than a phone call.
Instead of stopping what you're doing to engage a woman in a two-sided conversation, texts allow you to say what you want–or read a response–without committing to a full-on conversation with her.
For example, she might text you:
“What time are you coming?”
Then, instead of having a long, drawn-out conversation on the phone about what time is best… you can simply reply:
Sometimes, there is nothing better than the perfectly economic communication of “yes” or “no.”
And that's just the tip of the texting iceberg.
2) It Limits The “Back & Forth”
If you aren't really “into” texting, this might seem like a disadvantage. Maybe you like the “back and forth” of a phone conversation.
But think about this for a second:
If you've stopped what you're doing to have a 20-minute conversation about when you're going to go somewhere–when it's something that can be accomplished in two minutes (or less) over text–then you've just wasted a lot of time.
Does this make sense?
Imagine you're in the middle of a meeting at work.
Is figuring out how you're going to get together with a woman important enough to step out of your meeting and call her to talk about it?
Probably not, right?
Texting allows you to slice through the “chit-chat.”
If you have these kinds of conversations over text, then you can condense a 20-minute conversation down to two minutes.
And ultimately, this benefits you in the long run. Not only will this woman see you as easy to talk to, but she'll also see you as the kind of man who takes charge.
And for most women, that's a huge turn-on.
3) It’s More Controlled
Depending on what you want to control, texting can give you that power.
Like I mentioned above, texting can control the timing of your conversations.
On top of that, if you want to control the quality of your conversation…
How much you say…
Or how much you reveal…
Then texting gives you that kind of control as well. This is a kind of control that phone conversations simply cannot offer.
4) You Can Send Higher Quality Messages
What's great about texting is that you can research, review, and rewrite what you send her.
That way, you only send exactly the message you want–and you don't have to think on your feet too much.
However, it's important to mention one thing about this:
You don't want to overuse this kind of power.
Because the truth is, you get “bonus points” for responding quickly to women over text. And that's because when you do this, your texts will seem more unscripted & honest.
So if you respond too slowly, she may be able to tell that you're taking too much time to think about your response.
Yes, take the time to craft a cool & witty response–but don't take too much time.
5) It’s Less Effort (Most Of The Time)
I often tell this to my students as a general rule:
Make sure your text responses are the same length as what she texts you. In fact, a bit shorter is often better!
When in doubt, cut it out. And for this reason, texting a woman is often less effort than calling her.
You may have noticed that these longer texts tend to show up when a person is “qualifying.”
So when a guy thinks he's losing a woman, he may feel the need to explain himself over a series of extremely long texts.
Women pick up on this, and it's not a good thing.
Even if you're afraid of being misunderstood over text, there are ways around this.
And most of these ways boil down to one simple tip:
After you write what you want to send, delete as much as you can.
This is because shorter texts allow you to hide your anxiety…
Whatever. You can show the side of you that you want over text.
And that's the beauty of it!
Finally, when you're ready to ask a girl out over text, how should it be done?
This next tip should help you out with that:
What’s The Best Way to Ask a Girl Out Over Text?
You could be straightforward and simply ask her… though in my experience, that strategy only gives you about a 50/50 shot.
(Calling to ask her out will give you about the same odds.)
Instead, I’ve developed a much better texting strategy to ask a girl out… that, when used properly, gets her out on a date with you extremely quickly… and it works fairly decently too (about 75-80% of the time).
It’s not some cheesy “line”… and it’s also not some complicated strategy about “waiting X hours” to text her back… none of that B.S.
Instead, it all boils down to using these 3 little letters at the right time and in the right way.
You may already be familiar with this 3-letter phrase… and in fact, you may already be using it in your texts!
However, what most guys don’t know is that when you use these 3 letters at the end of certain messages, it can be a huuuuge turn-on for her… though it can also be a turn-off when used in the wrong way.
So I made this guide to show you what those letters are… when to use them & how… plus: two more amazing tips to help you “seal the deal” on your first date.
Man, I think you’re really gonna like this: