“Sexting” or the act of sending sexually suggestive texts or private messages is a common practice among single people in the United States.
About one in every five single people have sent a “sext” with the practice being more common among younger folks and more common with men than with women.
People sext for a variety of reasons including foreplay, establishing a connection with a new sexual partner, exchanging information about sexual desires and identity, and a desire to engage in a risky behavior.
While the portrayal of sexting in research and popular culture is mostly limited to unwanted d*ck pictures and something which occurs among sexually active youth, there are lots of reasons for you to engage in sexting.
For people interested in a power exchange relationship, sexting may be an effective way to establish and maintain power dynamics.
Why Do Women Get So Turned On By This Style Of Sexting?
A power exchange relationship is a relationship where one partner gives over power in specific area(s) of their lives and the other partner accepts the responsibilities of making decisions and directing actions in the delineated areas of the relationship.
Regardless of your roll in a power exchange relationship, sexting can aid you in establishing and maintaining a feeling of power or powerlessness.
Texting is a wonderful way to engage in power exchange!
It has the advantages of being private, immediate, and very revealing.
You can use texting to reinforce a D/s dynamic when you are long distance or when you live together.
It provides a different form of communication which can be more comfortable for some people to talk about their sexual and power dynamic needs.
We are not talking sending d*ck pics here!
Trust me when I tell you, d*ck pics are 100 percent supply and zero percent demand from women. If a woman wants a dick pic, she will ask you directly. If you have not been explicitly asked, we don’t need to see it.
So, how do you turn your phone into a tool for hot-as-hell power play and foreplay?
Text messages such as, “Imaging me kissing the small of your back, “ or “My hand is on your inner thigh and I can feel the warmth of your mound radiating down your legs,” or “I can’t wait to take my belt and secure your delicate wrists together,” are sexy without being gross or overly graphic.
They focus on non-genital body parts and imply sexual acts without getting too graphic.
In general, women tend to respond better to these less graphic texts than the more obvious, “I can’t wait to shove my hard c*ck deep into your a**hole and make you scream.”
Although there are some women who find the latter sexy too.
Avoid texts about impossible acts or things which you do not romance when you are with her.
One time I had a partner text me he wanted to put his di*ck in my nose.
This was neither sexy nor a turn on. I was left looking at my phone thinking, “Is this man drunk? What the????”
Ask Questions Like This & Get Her to Spill Her Dirtiest Fantasies…
Texting can be a lower risk way to discuss sexual fantasies.
Many people, especially women, are uncomfortable expressing sexual fantasies or asking directly for what they want.
Over text, the barriers for communication are lower.
This is a great way to tease out what she wants from you.
Asking questions such as, “Have you been fantasizing about any specific acts lately?” or “I want to buy something new for our next encounter. What should I look at for you?” can help her express fantasies she may not have broached with you before.
I have also used the “sexual secrets” game to draw partners out over text.
This is a pretty simple D/s game.
You tell your submissive partner that over the next week (or whatever time period you choose) you want her to send two sexy photos of herself and one sexual secret a day to you via text.
How The “Sexual Secrets” Game Can Unleash Her Naughty Side…
This game has several purposes.
First, the act of taking sexy photos of oneself means your partner is thinking about you for a given time period every day as she feels hot and sexy.
Second, you gather information about her sexual history and current desires.
The game connects you and your partner every day in a sexy and fun way which can help bridge distance and/or time apart.
In addition to being hot, these games reinforce your D/s dynamic.
You as the dominant are telling your submissive what to do and expecting her to do it as instructed.
You can get specific with the photos so they please you. You can dictate what she wears or how she poses in the photos. You can ask that she shoot just her face or her whole body while masturbating for you.
You can set time limits. Finally, controlling her orgasms from afar is a very dominant move which can be very sexy for both of you.
The Science Behind How Sexting Turns Her On…
There is some scientific reasons sexting can work to increase anticipation and create a strong D/s dynamic.
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