Is “Sex With Ex” Ever a Good Idea? How to Get the Benefits WITHOUT the Drama…
Sometimes, when you’re in between women, you fondly remember some of the hot sex with your ex…
And you might think it’s a good idea to hit that again…
But if you’re considering sleeping with your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, you’re probably asking yourself “is it worth it?”
And as you can imagine, you have plenty of company…
According to a survey by Adam & Eve, 44% of people have slept with an ex in the past, and Pew Research has found that 53% of people use social media to stalk their ex-partners.
So… it is worth it?
Well, the answer depends on what your expectations are and why you’re pursuing a hook up with your ex in the first place.
Let’s discuss in more detail.
I promise, I’ve got an answer for you…
The Case For Sleeping With Her
If you’re anything like me, you’re probably hoping the answer to this question is yes, so let’s start by discussing the reasons you might want to hook up with your ex.
For starters, sexual frustration is real.
It can give you a hair-trigger temper. You can become easily distracted, causing a lack of productivity at work. It can even create sleep problems as your feel-good and relaxation hormones fade into the sunset.
So sleeping with your ex can alleviate all of these legitimate problems.
Plus, the confidence and mood boost you’ll likely receive from sleeping with your ex will make it easier to meet other people — which means it could be easier to move on with your life.
Another reason is that sex with your ex will likely be a welcome distraction from the emotional upheaval and grief associated with a recent breakup.
Breaking up is hard. It can feel like your life is over and the world is crashing down around you.
As one of my favorite oldies songs by Skeeter Davis says,
“Why does the sun go on shining?
Why does the sea rush to shore?
Don’t they know, it’s the end of the world…
‘Cause you, don’t love me anymore…”
Sex can — at least temporarily — soothe these feelings during the rush of excitement and pleasure while you explore each other’s bodies and the afterglow that follows.
The final (and all too obvious) reason is that the sex will probably be great.
You know each other’s bodies.
You know what she likes.
She knows what you like.
You understand each other sexually more than even the hottest one-night-stand ever could.
So it’s pretty easy to get back into the sexual groove with your ex.
So, that’s a yes?
The Case Against Sleeping With Her
Unfortunately, it’s not all sunshine and orgasms when it comes to hooking up with an ex.
There are a lot of potential negative consequences associated with it, as you probably already know…
First, if your goal is to move on and start fresh with your life, having even casual sex with someone (let alone someone you spent months or years of your life with) often creates an emotional attachment.
This can delay the “moving on” phase and make you feel like you’re back to square one of getting over the divorce or breakup.
Next, while it’s true that having sex might be a welcome distraction to the emotional turmoil of separation, the dirty deed will also delay the healing process and make it worse in the grand scheme of things.
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The old phrase about tearing off a Band-Aid quickly — instead of slowly peeling it off — is appropriate here.
Last, if you’re hoping to lure her back into the relationship using sex, you’re setting yourself up for a long, drawn out headache.
It’s easy to get a rose-tinted view about another person when you’ve been separated for a while.
But you broke up for a reason.
The most-likely scenario is that you’ll just end up breaking up again in the near future.
In all likelihood, neither she nor you experienced massive personal growth in the short time you’ve been separated.
Plus, you probably haven’t fully resolved the issues and conflicts that caused you to break up in the first place.
So as good as sex might feel in the moment, these issues will rear their ugly heads eventually.
Or — it’s possible that she won’t be interested in getting back together at all.
Which means that you would be setting yourself up for even more heartache to pile on top of the initial breakup.
Either way, it usually isn’t a recipe for long term happiness or success.
So, Should You Do It?
Based on this information, the answer to your question might still seem unclear.
There are pros and cons to consider.
So I’ll stop sitting on the fence and give you my personal advice.
If you want to have sex with your ex because you need a one-and-done release of sexual tension (and there is absolutely zero anticipation from either of you that you’ll get back together) then go for it.
Sex is fun, it feels great, and it will improve your mood.
But in all other scenarios, don’t do it.
If you still have strong emotional feelings for her, don’t do it.
If you want to get back together, don’t do it.
To figure out what camp you fall into, ask yourself some questions about your intentions and really evaluate your intentions and decide what’s best for you.
You know what’s better than ex-sex 100% of the time?
Read on to find out…
How to Get the Benefits of Ex-Sex — Without the Drama
We just walked through a bunch of reasons you could want to have sex with your ex.
Turns out one of the main reasons guys decide to hook up with their ex is because they don’t think they could get laid with another woman.
Sound familiar?
You know your ex has “been there before,” and you think she’s the best you can get right now?
Well, my man, I’m here to tell you that’s BS!
With a little boost of confidence and the right attitude, you could 100% go out and get laid this weekend if you really wanted to.
In fact, I’d almost guarantee, if you went into a bar or club right now, you’d find at least a couple of hot girls who’d quite happily bang you senseless!
Want a little help?
Check out this video from Magic where he discusses a simple 3 step process to get ANY girl you want.
He’s going to go over:
- How to present yourself in a way women find irresistible
- The 3 types of guys women crave sex with
- How to go for the first kiss
- The 3 personality traits that turn women on almost instantly
- And much more…
