One of the Absolute Best Things To Say To a Girl…
When it comes to sex, there’s a lot of bad advice out there.
In fact, if you go through a bunch of terrible men’s magazines, you’ll probably come out with a ton of checklists on exactly what things to say to a girl and how to pleasure her…
…only to find that they fall flat in real life.
Or worse, they lead to bad, awkward sex for both people involved, and ultimately drive her out of your place and your life.
It can be incredibly depressing–the frustration of having come so close to giving so much pleasure to a beautiful woman who was begging to be with you minutes before…
…only for it to end in a mass of embarrassment.
And only because you followed the wrong advice, or had too much conflicting information floating around in your head.
If only there was a way to get rid of all of this sludge floating around your brain and leave only the really good stuff–the tips that will have her climaxing again and again.
The Secret to True Female Pleasure…
“You should really treat that first handshake or hug on a date like you’re f—ing.”
The words startle me as much with their impact as they do for the casual way they’re delivered.
That’s because they’re coming from renowned sex expert Ruwan Meepagala, who has a long history of studying, implementing, and refining some of the absolute best sexual and spiritual methods around.
This is for a very good reason. A number of years back, Ruwan was diagnosed with erectile dysfunction…at the “ripe old age” of 23.
Instead of wallowing in pity though, Ruwan studied the causes of and cures to his problem. He devoured books and studies on it, and sought advice from the top mentors in the field.
And over time, he not only conquered his E.D., but these tips also gave him the confidence to put his tips into practice with some of the most attractive women in the world, driving them wild with pleasure and desire.
As a result, he’s one of the most knowledgeable men in the world on all matters sex.
“You’re looking for the feedback of what’s going to feel the best in this moment,” Ruwan says.
“Some examples just to make this more concrete, if I’m with a girl and maybe it’s the first time we’re hanging out and we’re laughing and we’re vibing, I’ll immediately put my arm around her or I’ll immediately brush my body against her.
“Not to say that’s going to take things to the next level, but all I’m looking for is feedback. Because if it feels good, I know I can go further.“
The final sentence is important for a few reasons. One of the most important concepts that Ruwan talks about is the idea of feeling out “red lights” and “green lights” when you’re with a woman.
There are literally hundreds of these, and most of them aren’t set in stone.
“It’s really important that you pay attention to the moment to moment feedback because you can very easily make this into some mechanical rule and once you make it into a mechanical rule, you’re going to lose it,” Ruwan says.
That’s because mechanical rules don’t necessarily work. Every woman is different, and some like being touched in different areas than others.
“You try something, whether it’s an incidental touch like on the shoulder, whatever, and if it feels like she’s okay with it, you can do a little more. If she doesn’t, you do a little less. And it’s really that simple as far as looking for this feedback loop.”
Much like Craig teaches, a big part of the difference between the “naturals” with women and those who struggle with them is recognizing the signs she’s interested in you, acknowledging those green lights, and acting on them.
“We’ve all seen videos of guys who are making out with a chick within minutes or whatever, we’ve all seen stuff like that,” Ruwan explains. “The thing that they’re doing is nothing magical. All they’re doing is being really acute with noticing the green lights that her body is giving.“
Not only that, but this is also a key reason why dumb advice like “just be yourself” or “don’t get nervous” has been probably been thrown at you far too often, and has done absolutely nothing to help you!
The reality is that if you’re uncomfortable, that might show through in the way you touch a woman, and turn a green light into a red one.
“People can feel intentions through touch. If a person’s touching your shoulder and they want to f— you up, you can feel that immediately as opposed to they touch your shoulder and they want to hug you,” Ruwan says.
Not only that, but women are far more intuitive than men as a general rule, and they’re way more sensitive to touch than guys are. If you can feel the intention behind a person’s touch, just imagine how intense it is for a woman!
The Cure For the Chronic “Red Light”
If that’s the case, the absolute best thing you can do when you’re nervous, or uncomfortable, and getting “red lights” when you’re trying to touch a woman is to try to feel arousal and comfort within yourself as you touch her.
This is far more effective than if someone would tell you to “not be nervous.” Go out there and try to feel in your own mind the feelings you want her to pick up on.
If it helps, think of a memory from your own life that represents that feeling to you. Allow it to overcome your entire mind, your whole body. Be that memory for the whole time you’re talking to her and touching her shoulder, or brushing up against her arm.
This might take a little bit of effort at first, but once you practice it enough, you’ll have a library of memories and feelings at your disposal, where you can access each one in the blink of an eye.
The 3 Word Secret Passcode to a Woman’s Mind and Body
As a man, it’s important to be direct in your intentions.
You don’t want to be some guy throwing out canned lines and “routines” to try to trick women into being with you. You want to build real, deep connection with women that you vibe with.
Not only that, but most women respect some measure of dominance in a man.
As Ruwan mentioned above, the easiest way to convey all of this is by conveying your intentions and mindset through touch.
But is there anything you can say to a woman to convey those same emotions and intentions?
Thanks to Ruwan, there is. And it’s incredibly simple.
“I love starting sentences with “I want” because it’s so powerful and that it takes very clear ownership of what you want.”
“If I’m alone with someone and I want to be physical, I’ll flat-out say, ‘I want to kiss you right now.’ or I’ll touch her and if it feels really good to touch her, I’ll just say, ‘It feels really good to touch you.'”
Those three simple words, “I want to…” are incredibly powerful.
They tell a woman a lot in just 3 little words:
-That you’re a man who speaks his mind…
-That you’re not afraid to go after what you want…
-That you’re interested in her…
(And perhaps most importantly)
-That you’re not afraid that she knows it, and you’re willing to make a move based on it.
All of these things are clear to her just by using these three words.
And the best part? You don’t have to memorize anything else! Just speak your mind. Tell her your intentions. And then (assuming she gives you a green light), act on them.
Of course, that’s if she’s giving you the green light. What if she’s not?
“The biggest thing I’d say for guys is that, don’t try to make meaning out of it whether you get a green light or a red light,” Ruwan says. “Just pay attention to what is. If she’s giving you a green light, take it. If it’s a red light, stop and that’s it. Because you never know the light’s going to change eventually.”
The absolute worst thing you can do according to Ruwan is to try to get inside your own head and make up a story about why you’re getting a red light.
“Don’t make up a story like, ‘Oh, she’s saying no because of this and this. Maybe I need to go brush my teeth or some b.s.,'” Ruwan says. “No, stay with her and pay attention to her because really, a key to reading people, whether it’s women or men or whatever is to put your attention on the person.
“By putting your attention on a person and noticing how you feel, you’ll get enough feedback of how to interact with that person. Very few people hide their feelings in the way that we think. If you pay attention to someone, they’ll give you their operating manual basically.”
A Word of Warning…
The other key part of Ruwan’s “I want to…” secret phrase is that there needs to be some kind of a “vibe” or “connection” with the girl before you just blurt out what’s on your mind.
Shelley covered this in her article the other week. If you haven’t read it yet, read it now to get a woman’s perspective on what happens when you haven’t built the proper rapport or connection with a woman before telling her what “you want to” do with her.
This is a crucial step in the process. Do not try Ruwan’s method without this. It’s relatively fool-proof, but that doesn’t mean you have to act a fool to try to test it.
Your Reward For Your Patience
Because if you do make an honest effort to use Ruwan’s method, you’ll find that women are far more interested in you, both outside and inside the bedroom.
She’ll be more attracted to your masculine nature and energy. She’ll like that you’re leading the interaction. You aren’t asking for permission. You are telling her what you want to do to her, and she’s left to imagine exactly what that will look and feel like…
…and assuming you don’t get a red light, you can give her just that!
But How Can You Tell When She’s Giving You a Red Light or Green Light?
I get it–a lot of the “red lights” and “green lights” a woman gives off are pretty subtle.
So if you want to make sure you don’t blow right through one of her “red lights,” check out the 13 Signs She’s Definitely Not Into You. You’ll immediately know what to look for to make sure you aren’t wasting your time with a girl who’s not interested at all.
Then, once you know those, check out the 7 Hidden Signs She Likes You (Even If She’s Not Talking to You At All Right Now).
As soon as you start seeing a few of these green lights from a woman, you’ll know you can implement Ruwan’s “I want to” method without any resistance from her because she’ll practically be begging you to make a move on her!
So click here now to see what some of the biggest green lights are and start getting better with women where it counts: in the bedroom.
