Discover The Telltale Signs That She's “Faking It” During Sex–Can You Spot A Real Female Orgasm?
It's a hard pill to swallow that a woman may be faking her orgasms during sex.
One-third to two-thirds of women have faked orgasms, in fact, according to this study.
However, there are many reasons why women do this… and not all of them have to do with the amount of pleasure you're giving her.
In fact, some women may not even know how to have a real orgasm.
So today, I want to show you how to tell if a woman is having a real orgasm–and what you can do about it if she isn't.
Hi, I'm Lawrence Lanoff. As a Tantric sex expert, I get asked questions about sex and orgasms all the time.
And today, I'm going to answer this one major question that's been on a lot of guys' minds lately:
“How can I tell if she's ‘faking it' during sex?”
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
Hey, it's Lawrence. In this video, I'm going to give you a few absolute, telltale signs that a woman is having real orgasms with you.
There are a number of things that happen when a woman has an orgasm… and they are incredible.
But to further understand the female orgasm, it's important to have a discussion about it.
It sounds so silly at first, but really you can just ask her about it.
“Are you having real orgasms?”
And if she is in a safe space with you, she'll tell you the truth.
If she's faking it, she may start out with, “Well, you know…” And it can be a very edgy discussion.
But the truth is, many women fake orgasms because they simply don't know how to communicate their pleasure yet.
So before you can get her to open up about it, it's important to spot the signs she's faking it.
How Can You Tell When She's Having REAL Orgasms?
You can tell if there's a real orgasm in the sense that there are uncontrollable contractions that happen inside her.
You'll feel these “pulsations” in her vagina… deep muscle tissue… and her abdomen.
All of these are useful signs.
However, every woman is different, so it comes down to asking her and observing.
Let's say you're licking her clitoris for a minute, and she instantly comes, for example. It's likely that she's faking it, and doing what I call, “porn sex.”
She thinks that this is how women in porn behave, so if she doesn't behave the same, then there's something wrong with her.
That's one of the big problems with porn.
In porn, the female orgasm is kind of a joke and can actually be hilarious!
It's like, “I take this hard c**k and I'll touch your vagina. And you're like, ‘Oh my God, Oh my God!!!'”
Women see this, and they think this is how their vaginas should work. But the reality is quite different.
What Do Porn & Pro-Wrestling Have in Common?
I used to direct lesbian porn for Playboy, so I know a little bit about what goes on behind the scenes on these sets.
Porn is very scripted, and much of the time, it is just fake as all hell.
It's kind of like pro wrestling–all a show.
When you're having sex with a real woman… I guess there's a little bit of showmanship involved… like if you know a cool move she hasn't seen before…
But ultimately you're both looking for a real result:
The more powerful, the better!
So you have to get past all of this “glamour” and focus on what's real during sex.
Rather than focus on the “little” signs that she had a real orgasm, look for the 3 big signs she's NOT faking it:
This includes things like:
1) Goosebumps all over her body…
(She cannot fake that!)
2) Breathing heavily, or a sigh of relief after a good full body orgasm is a great sign as well.
3) There is also this thing where the body is just like, “I can't move…” And that's a major signal it's real.
So if you notice that none of these things is happening, then you need to communicate with her about it.
It might be something you're doing… something you're not doing… or something with her body in particular.
Don't be afraid to ask her how she normally gets off during sex. Does she need manual stimulation? Oral? Does she use toys or not?
Any of these can help you get her off and be confident that she's actually crossing the finish line and having a real orgasm.
It will help you have better sex much faster–trust me.
ALWAYS Listen to Her During Sex When She Says THIS…
The one thing I can tell you is that when she says to you:
“Don't stop. Don't stop…”
Then don't f'in stop!
Do the thing that she tells you to keep doing, and don't stop. Because when she says this, it means she's close to having an orgasm.
Think about if the shoe was on the other foot:
She's riding you…
You're feeling your testicles begin to tense…
You're getting ready to blow.
You tell her “Don't stop… don't stop!”
And she changes positions just like that.
Pretty frustrating, right?
Not only would you have a grade-A case of “blue balls”…
But you'd almost feel “betrayed” since she explicitly did the opposite of what you told her to do.
So if you do the same to her… expect her to be kinda pissed off when it's all said and done.
If she knows her body (many women do not), and she's willing to have this discussion with you, then good. There's a lot of fun to be had. 😉
But are there any more specific things you can do to ensure she has a real orgasm?
Yes–and I'll show you exactly what they are right now:
You’ll Definitely Know These Orgasms Aren’t Fake…
It’s not always easy to spot a fake orgasm… but it is easy to spot a powerful orgasm.
I'm talking about the kinds of orgasms that make her forget how to speak… and cause her body to tremble uncontrollably like she’s possessed.
Unfortunately, most women don’t get to experience this kind of incredible pleasure with their partners… and it's because of ONE big reason:
Most men (myself included) learned about pleasuring women through porn. And while porn is great… it doesn't teach us what it takes to give a woman a powerful, real orgasm.
However, throughout my years of studying Tantra & its techniques… I've learned that once you know where to touch a woman *down there*… and how to stimulate her most sensitive areas… giving her this kind of pleasure becomes way easier.
One of these areas, known as “The Deep Spot,” has been a big hit among our community members… and some guys have even reported that stimulating her “Deep Spot” like this leads to super-fast squirting orgasms.
I'll show you why, & how to do it in this video:
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on October 5, 2020.]