Proven Marriage Advice for Men Who Want the Naked Truth
It’s too late.
For me, anyway — as a formerly married man, I already said “I do.” And it came back to bite me in the ass.
Since I got divorced, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what went wrong and what I could have done.
But what I keep coming back to are the numbers:
Research shows that more and more people are choosing not to get married. In fact, since 1960, the number of people over 25 who’ve never been married has more than doubled.
But does that mean that more and more people are less and less happy? After all, a lot of men still believe you need marriage to lead a satisfying and fulfilling life…
But today, I’m going to show you why you don’t need marriage to be a happy man.
The False Link Between Marriage and Happiness
The truth is that society’s views surrounding marriage are changing. Fast.
The same research I mentioned above also shows that most people only want to get married if they believe they’ll spend the rest of their life with that person.
Otherwise, most Americans under 40 believe “society is just as well off if people have priorities other than marriage and children.”
So what’s spurring these beliefs?
As someone who’s been on both sides of the argument — single, married, and now single again — I know for a fact that marriage isn’t necessary to achieve happiness.
Yes, I have kids…and they are my biggest priority…
But I’m happier as a divorced guy now than I ever have been.
I enjoy time with my children, but I’m also having a blast meeting people…
Doing things I couldn’t have done when I was married (who wants to go to Miami tomorrow?!)…
And leading the life I want.
Why It Took Me 15 Years And a Failed Marriage to Realize What I Was Doing Wrong
One of life’s biggest keys to happiness is the freedom to make your own choices.
And unfortunately, marriage in the “traditional” sense doesn’t allow for a lot of individual freedom.
Instead of self-determination, marriage requires compromise. Just look at my marriage as an example:
Let’s call my ex-wife “X” — early in our marriage, I felt ready and willing to compromise, and so did X…
But a willingness to compromise will only get you so far if you don’t want the same things as your wife.
I wanted to move to Hawaii, but X didn’t.
I wanted to stay longer on vacations, but she wanted to go back to work.
I like going out, she likes staying home. I’m a coffee-slugging night owl, and she’s a Diet Coke-sipping morning person. I like a lot of sex, and X likes less.
Not a winning combo for either of us.
And so 15 years into my marriage with X, I started feeling like a compromised version of myself.
That’s when I decided to pursue true happiness. Clearly, marriage wasn’t doing it for me — and it took me 15 years to figure it out.
Here’s the bottom line: The only time you should say “I do” is when saying it will lead to a happier version of yourself.
And there are 3 steps to figuring out what’s truly going to make you happy:
1) Figure Out What YOU Want
Even though more people today are opting out of marriage…there’s still a lot of pressure to tie the knot.
Especially if you’re already dating someone, the pressure to pursue marriage is very real.
Whether it’s coming from your:
- Church…
- Parents…
- Partner…
- Or friends…
It’s there, lurking.
Hell, half the people on Tinder claim to be “looking for the one.” And that’s because most people think that if they don’t get married, they’ll end up alone.
I can tell you from experience this isn’t true!
You — not society, not your buddies, not your parents — need to figure out what you want.
So if you’re marriage-minded, embrace that — but don’t give into the pressure if it’s not what you want.
When you’re honest about your true intentions, you’ll save yourself a lot of wasted time and stress. That brings me to the next step…
2) Lean Into Your Desires
Now, don’t get me wrong — I’m absolutely not against marriage.
When I got married, I thought it was exactly what I wanted…and I thought it would bring me true happiness.
And at the beginning…it did! There were probably more happy times in my marriage to X than bad spots.
But on the other hand, that may not still be the case if we stayed in our marriage for longer than we did.
A lot of good came from being married…but I also saved myself a lot of trouble by getting out of it.
So if you figure out what you want and it’s not what you currently have, you have to take action to get out of it and chase what you desire.
And sometimes that means making mistakes to figure out what you don’t want.
As my marriage was falling apart, I went to strip clubs…
Hung out with women my wife didn’t know…
And eventually, I cheated.
It wasn’t anything X did or didn’t do — it was me. I was unhappy, and instead of ending the marriage like I should have…
I just made everyone miserable by staying unhappy. It was only when I owned up to my true self that things started getting better.
And it’s only then that you can move on to the next step:
3) Make informed decisions
As a divorced man, I am not looking for marriage.
I’m upfront about it, and I let every woman who’s interested in me know that I’ll never be “The One.” And my decision to tell women I’m not “The One” is informed by my past experiences.
So if you make informed decisions, you’ll attract the women who want the same things you do…
And you’ll save hours of wasted time and emotional agony.
If you want to date but not get married, for example — then tell the women you date that that’s the case!
And if you want marriage…ask your married friends what they like and dislike about their own marriages. Do your research.
Then picture yourself in every marriage scenario you can think of with that woman — if she fits in your picture, then bend that knee and pop that question.
And if your goal is to have some casual fun, don’t be ashamed about it! After all, this is about what YOU want…
And if you want to get it, you need to let her know.
The “Sexual Sorting” Trick I Use to Let Women Know What I Want FAST
When a woman first sees you, she sizes you up in about 3 seconds — and there are 3 different categories she might put you in:
The “friend” category, the “lover” category, and the “marriage material” category.
Using something I like to call “Sexual Sorting,” you can control which category she puts you in from the moment she meets you….
Just by using your clothing, body language, and eye contact to communicate what you want to her…fast.
So when I walk into a room, my clothes, body language, and eye contact send whatever “message” I want to her…so I can get her to approach ME.
And it’s so easy I learned how to do it in 5 minutes. And now, so can you — just click the technique you want to know more about below:
Technique #1: Sexual Sorting with clothes…
Technique #2: Sexual Sorting with body language
Technique #3: Sexual Sorting with eye contact…
And for even more advanced Sexual Sorting tricks and techniques, just go here:
Advanced “Sexual Sorting” to Influence Exactly What She Thinks of You in 30 Seconds Or Less…
