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How To Keep Her Interested & Turn Her On Without Fumbling Around for Words…

“Absence,” it is said, “makes the heart grow fonder.”

Perhaps … if it’s fond already.

The truth is that you can’t spark a woman’s interest by leaving her if she isn’t interested in you to begin with…

Or can you?

I’ve got some tricks up my sleeve that will spark her interest — and even if you have the world’s worst social skills, these tricks will allow you to hold any woman’s attention during any conversation.

It’s not about what you add to your interaction with her…

It’s about what you take away.

The One Mistake Even the Smoothest Talkers Fall Prey To…

You can be the world’s best conversationalist…

Keeping her interested, and making her laugh…

But if you just show your interest over, and over, and over…

She’ll get bored.

Enter — the Takeaway. Basically, Takeaways are a technique you can use to express your ambiguity. So after you “give” her something — your attention, affection, or interest — you take it away.

And that’s when she’ll express her desire for more.

Why?

When you tell a woman “I like you,” you’ve already lost her. It’s like a movie with zero plot or without any dangerous obstacles.

Women need drama in their interactions with men. And the “drama,” in this case, comes from conflict you create when you remove your interest, or when you use a Takeaway.

When you remove your interest just a little, she won’t know for certain that you like her — she’ll think you maybe like her. The drama lies in the “maybe,” and this “maybe” is what you depend on to hold her interest.

So how do you use Takeaways in real life? There are 5 ways to do it:

1) Time Constraints

Time constraints are perhaps the easiest Takeaway you can offer. These constraints are also perfect for guys who don’t have the best social skills.

And that’s because when you use a time constraint, you’re telling her that you don’t have a lot of time for this interaction — it’s going to be short.

So it relieves a lot of pressure for you, and it puts her at ease, because now she won’t have to worry that you’ll be “clingy.”

And here’s how you naturally introduce a time constraint in a conversation:

Say something like, “I can only talk for a moment.” Or…

“Before I leave…”

“Real quick…”

Anything to tell her that this interaction is going to be cut short. Because once you remove your interest in the form of time, she’ll want to keep talking to you for as long as she can — there’s your “drama.”

That brings me to the second instance you can use a Takeaway…

2) Your Body Language

The way you hold and carry yourself can also be a great and easy Takeaway.

For example, if you stand straight up or lean away from her, you’re showing her that you’re NOT trying to latch on — something many women (especially attractive women) are concerned about.

You’re showing her that you could leave this interaction at any moment and be fine.

Another way to express this kind of “I won’t be staying here, I won’t be impossible to get rid of…” sentiment is to look behind your shoulder while you’re talking to her, or to just look around while you’re talking to her (especially if somebody in the room is leaving or walking out).

When you do this, she’ll get the idea that you’re in a rush and that you can’t talk for very long. And that’s going to put her at ease and make her feel comfortable in your interaction.

3) Negative Compliments

Negative compliments are one of the most powerful takeaways, largely because using them simultaneously shows interest, takes away interest and shows confidence.

“Huh???”

When you compliment a woman, you’re clearly expressing something positive — so you’re showing your interest.

But as I’ll show you in just a second, the second half of a negative compliment removes your interest just a little — and it’s that “ballsiness” that reveals your confidence to her.

They are also easy to remember.

Here’s a powerful negative compliment I learned from my friend Eric:

“Nice nails. Are they real?” [She answers.] “Oh. Well. They still look good… I guess.”

Here, you’re showing interest when you say “Nice nails,” then you remove the interest when you say “They still look good…I guess.” And that creates a huge question mark in her mind that she just has to resolve.

Here’s another one I’ve found works well:

“That dress always looks good on you.”

Believe it or not, saying this to a very attractive woman comes across as an insult. I didn’t know this when I said it…until the object of my attraction responded with fire in her eyes, “Where did you see this dress?! I’ve never worn this dress before!”

That’s when I knew I had her — she immediately assumed I was picturing another woman in that same dress. And that’s what created the “drama” she so desperately wanted.

Which brings me to my next takeaway…

Friends Into Lovers? Cool Little Trick Inside...

4) The Bait-Hook-Reel-Release Method

My friend Eric also uses this strategy to “turn up the volume” on the interest you show a woman in a conversation.

The trick with this, though, is to always make sure you “release.” Many guys can bait, hook, and reel a woman in…but once they “turn up the volume,” the woman gets freaked out — like she’s uncomfortable with the amount of attention she’s getting.

That’s where the “release” part comes in — it takes away the cause of her discomfort (your “dialed up” interest) and adds uncertainty to your interaction.

Let’s see what it looks like in action:

Bait: Me — “What do you wanna be when you grow up?” (I recommend minimizing the questions until you develop some rapport, but you can get this information during conversation and simply refer to it, like, “It sounds like you want to be a race car driver! You should!”)

[She answers. What she says isn’t really important.]

Hook: Me — “Really? Like what kind? Like get sponsors and drive one of those ridiculous stock cars or Indy 500?”

[Again, she answers.]

Reel: Me — “That is so sexy! I saw a woman drive a race car once – I got such a crush on her! I think it’s my fantasy to date a race car driver!”

[Just imagine if you stopped right there… She would be SO uncomfortable. She would make her excuses and pull away.]

Release: Me — “You’ve got me where you want me now! I’m totally at a disadvantage. I can’t even talk to you.” [Look away. She will re-engage.]

This works very similarly to a negative compliment — it just extends the process of showing and taking away interest.

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5) The “Silent Sexualizer” I Used to Get My Hot Waitress’ Number

I was out at a trendy restaurant one night, and my waitress was drop-dead gorgeous — I couldn’t take my eyes off her the whole night. I just had to get her number.

That’s when I remembered this final takeaway — it’s a 2-second eye contact trick I like to call the “Silent Sexualizer.”

Here, the Takeaway isn’t what you say, because you don’t have to say anything…all you have to do is look at her in this one weird way, and she’ll instantly feel a twinge of excitement…

And as that feeling works its way up into her brain, she’ll start to think, “Who is this mysterious man…he looks like fun…I just have to know more about him…”

So I used the “Silent Sexualizer” on her when she dropped the check at the table…she looked at me a little funny as she was walking away…

But when she came back to pick up my card, she bit her lip and couldn’t stop glancing over at me…and as she handed me back my card, there was a slip of paper on top of it…

With her number on it…score!

This “Silent Sexualizer” doesn’t work 100% of the time, but for a single, available woman, it’s incredibly powerful.

So check it out — you won’t be disappointed:

The “Silent Sexualizer” I Used to Get My Hot Waitress’ Number…

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