The REAL Reason She Gets Horny When You Take Charge…

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How to Turn Her On & Take Charge the Way She Wants–Can You Guess Why It’s Such a Turn-On?

A lot of guys assume that the woman sometimes wants to lead.

It’s completely understandable.

After all, with more and more women feeling empowered to pursue their own interests, it’s only natural to assume that women would sometimes want to lead their sexual interactions as well.


Well, yes and no.

While women may sometimes say they want to lead…

The truth is, deep down, they’re more attracted to men who take responsibility. AKA, men who “take charge.”

So today, I’m going to show you why, and how to easily “take charge” with the woman you want.

Do Women Really Want to Get Their Way All The Time?

First, let me just say that taking responsibility does not mean you’re not doing what she wants.

In other words:

Yes, women usually want to get their way. But they don’t want to be the ones to enforce it.

They want you to lead the interaction. To a woman, this is incredibly attractive.


Responsibility = leadership. Being in charge means that you have power. And power is sexy.

Let me give you a concrete example to illustrate what I mean:

If a woman agrees to go out with you, where do you guys go?

Maybe you ask her where she wants to go, and she gives you some answers. But maybe she doesn’t seem to be quite sure where she wants to go until you choose something.

She may veto all of your suggestions, but eventually, you have to make the decision.

Similarly, if you tell her that you want to go out with her “sometime” without ever settling on a time and a place… then she’s going to be less interested in you.

And for many women, this is, in fact, a deal-breaker.

So you’ve got to “man up,” as they say.

Here’s how:

How to “Man Up” & Sexually Escalate for Maximum Success

So it’s clear that you’ve got to be the one who escalates on a date.

But how should you do that?

To escalate basically means that you are moving up each run of increasing intimacy. This means:

  • You take responsibility for starting the conversation…
  • The first kiss is yours…
  • You absolutely must make the first move.

(No matter how clear things seem, or how much she flirts, it is simply unlikely that a woman will make the first move. This is just how it is.)

And ironically enough, the more responsibility you take in this escalation…

The more comfortable she will be moving forward with you, and even initiating further escalation.

There are several reasons for this, but for now, just be aware that a man who takes responsibility is a huge turn-on for women.

So if you want your dates to go well, it’s important to incorporate this concept into your planning strategy.

But how exactly should you do that?

The Key to Planning the Perfect Date (Without Asking Her What She Wants)

Now, I fully understand if you don’t really care what the two of you do on the date (where you go, what you eat, etc.).

You probably expect to pay for it, but you may have no real care as to what food you eat, or what part of town you go to.

If that’s the case, it would seem like the easiest thing to do would be to simply ask her where she wants to go.

(After all, she’s the one who’s going to complain when she doesn’t like it, right?)

If you do ask, and she does have a place in mind, then she’ll probably tell you. And if that’s the case, then there’s a good chance you’re fine and the date will happen.

However, if you ask her, and she seems wishy-washy… or says “Umm, I’m not really sure”…

Then you’d better have a place in mind.

This is her way of throwing the ball in your court–she wants you to take responsibility.

It Doesn’t End There…

One thing I see some guys do is to announce that they’re paying for dinner.

“Let me take you out for dinner–my treat,” they’ll say.

And while this may seem like you’re taking responsibility for the interaction… it has quite the opposite effect on women.

Here’s why:

When you start a relationship by telling her that you’d like to buy her dinner, it tends to put her on the alert.

Yes, you may be taking responsibility to see that the first date happens, and you may say that you have no problem paying for dinner–both of which are generally attractive to women (generosity, responsibility, status, dominance)–but you are saying this without knowing much about this woman.

Without knowing her very well at all, you’re openly admitting that you’re willing to spend two hours with her and pay for it. And in her mind, this can make you come off as desperate.

This puts you in a very particular position–that she is the judge, and she is the prize.

And if you’d like to get any action at the end of your first date, this is not a great position to be in.

How to Take Responsibility Without Doing Much Of Anything…

So yes, you should pay… but don’t announce it.

And if she doesn’t have a place to go immediately in mind, you have to pick one.

Of course, it’s important to recognize that you don’t actually have to select a place, but you do have to take responsibility for the selection.

Here’s what I mean:

Let’s say she tells you, “I love seafood.”

Then you can say, “I know the perfect place–you will love it.”

Who chose? Technically, you selected the place, but you did it based on what you already knew she wanted.

When you use this strategy, you’re still displaying certainty and confidence. And that’s highly attractive to a woman.

Another example?

You might say, “There’s this amazing steak place in Brooklyn.”

Maybe she says, “I’m vegetarian.”

And then you go, “I know. That’s why we’re not going there.”

The result of this is that you can begin testing the waters by suggesting places that you’d like to go with her, without making any concrete plans.

One of the easiest ways to show a woman this kind of certainty, confidence, and responsibility is to simply begin your sentences with, “Let’s”:

“Let’s go here”... or “Let’s do this.”

You’re taking charge… and that’s what turns her on.

From there, it’s time to make sure that your date goes exactly as planned… and if you want to take her home on the first date, then there’s one easy way to ensure that happens.

Here’s how:

The REAL Reason Taking Charge Makes Her Horny…

What’s the Fastest Way to Make a Girl Horny?

It’s a great question… and one that a lot of guys in our community ask.

However, there’s a lot of “fluff” and misinformation out there… so I wanted to clear the air a bit and talk about what actually works…

And over the years, we’ve discovered that it all boils down to 3 straightforward steps:

Step 1: Seduce her with sex-infused words that start to turn her on (like these)…

Step 2: Add some “innocent” physical touches in these targeted areas to amp up her attraction…

Step 3: Finally, to seal the deal (and this is where most guys outside of our community drop the ball)… you can start using these specific “advanced dirty talk phrases”… and this is when she’ll usually invite you back to her place for a “drink.” 😉

Of course, without following these steps, it’s still possible to make a woman horny…

…but it usually takes way longer (3-4 hours, instead of the 15-20 minutes our method often requires).

That’s why we put all 3 steps together into this “Mega Pack” for you… which many men in our community have been calling a “total game-changer” when it comes to getting same night sex:

Get The 3-Step “Mega Pack” to Make Her Horny FAST…

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