How To Talk To A Woman You’re Interested In Without Making ANY Embarrassing Mistakes–Will You Make Her Yours?
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As a dating expert and coach, I’ve spent years studying women and the way they operate.
And in my experience, the hardest part of dating to “teach” my clients? Good conversation technique.
The truth is that there are so many ways to mess up a conversation with a woman…when something goes wrong or she seems “off,” it can be hard to tell what you did.
But if you know the common mistakes to avoid — the ones that instantly turn a woman off — then you can keep her interested, and without doing much of anything.
I’ll show you exactly how to use your conversation to keep her interested in you next week…
But first, you have to know what to avoid. I call these the 7 Deadly Sins of Conversations with women.
Beginning with number one:
1) Asking “What do you do?”
This might be a hard pill to swallow…but asking a woman “What do you do?” on the first date is a huge mistake.
“But I love my job, and I want her to know what I do!” You might be thinking…
Avoid it.
Here’s the thing: “What do you do?” is a question for people who don’t know what to talk about.
When someone asks me that question, to me, it means: “I want to know more about you, but I’m just not really sure what to say.”
It’s playing it safe — and while that might feel like a good move, it’s not going to keep a woman interested in you.
Sure, the topic of what you do is technically interesting (since you do it all day, and you apparently do it well enough to be paid for it)…though it’s not going to be interesting to a woman unless she’s already interested in you.
Think about it like the plot of your favorite TV show:
What happened in the last episode?
Maybe you learned a new insight about the characters’ personal relationship…
Or perhaps a new fact was uncovered about a recent murder…
Chances are you didn’t watch your favorite character do paperwork for half an hour.
That paperwork is the TV equivalent of asking a woman “What do you do?”
The bottom line? Skip this question on your first date (and ideally, wait until the fourth date to ask).
2) Asking Too Many Questions
Speaking of questions…you might just want to stay away from them altogether. For a while, at least.
Asking questions is what talkative guys do to unintentionally dominate the conversation…
And it’s what shy guys do to keep moving the spotlight back to the other person (in this case, the woman).
Why is this bad?
Because questions require one thing for them to be an effective conversation tool: Rapport.
In a first conversation, you have no idea if:
- She’ll be offended by your question…
- She’s going to answer your question…
- She even wants to answer your question…
And so on.
Now, avoiding questions for an entire conversation (or date) is nearly impossible…but just be aware that you should keep them to a minimum with a new woman.
3) Discussing Television
I’ve said this before, so let four words suffice. Do NOT discuss TV.
A woman will happily discuss TV with you…just like she would with one of her girlfriends.
So unless you want her to immediately put you in the friend zone, avoid TV talk at all costs.
4) Talking About A Common Interest For Too Long
When you meet a new woman, it’s great to find things in common. This is good!
But stick to one common interest for too long…and the conversation hits a dead end.
Here’s an example:
You: “Oh, you like dogs too? I have a Labradoodle.”
Her: “Cool! I’ve heard they have great personalities.”
You: “Yeah, my Fido is so loyal…but he pees on the floor when he meets someone new.”
Do you see what went wrong here?
Because of the way the conversation naturally progressed, you ended up sharing more information than you probably planned…and for a woman, that can be a serious turn-off.
Instead, keep it light — I’ll show you more about how to do that next week.
5) Discussing Religion
You’ve probably heard before that polarizing topics don’t make great conversation starters…this is absolutely true.
And this is especially true if you don’t know the woman very well.
As a general rule, keep religion off the table for as long as you can. Religion is a topic that matters only when you’re getting into a long-term relationship…not when you’re casually dating a woman or only interested in sex.
Which brings me to the next deadly sin of conversations with women…
6) Discussing Politics
Like religion, politics can be a very polarizing subject.
Considering the current climate, avoiding politics might seem impossible…but you should try as hard as you can.
Why?
First of all, politics aren’t sexy. If you’re on a date with her or you’re interested in her at all…you do not want to talk about “un-sexy” things.
Secondly, political discussions have a tendency to take over the entire dialogue…you might end up talking about the electoral college until — oh s–t — it’s time to pick up the check.
(And she never got the chance to invite you back to her place, did she?)
And there’s one final mistake to avoid…it’s one that can turn a woman off almost instantly.
7) Not Listening
Women are tricky creatures…and they’re masters at knowing when a man isn’t listening. So if you’re so wrapped up in having a “perfect” conversation that you forget to listen, I can’t blame you…
But it’s also one of the worst things you can do.
Listening to a woman is the first key to holding a conversation with her. If you listen to her, you’ll have a much easier time avoiding these other deadly conversational sins.
And that’s because listening forces you to be present! So it becomes much harder to get stuck in your head, and subsequently make one of these other mistakes.
Beyond that, the next step is to look for the signs she’s not just enjoying the conversations…
But that she’s interested in you, sexually.
And here’s how to do that:
Look For Her 3 “Arousal Signals” to Find Out If She Wants YOU
If you want to figure out, once and for all, if a woman is interested in you…
…Without having to ask her…without being obvious…without ever revealing your true intentions…
It’s almost essential that you know how to read her body language.
Why? It’s science, baby!
A new Harvard study says a woman’s body will reveal her sexual interest in you using 3 key body language clues…they’re called her 3 “Arousal Signals.”
Arousal Signal #1 is all about her eyes…when a woman wants to take you into the bathroom, get on her knees and take you all in, she’s gonna look at you like this.
Signal #2 is all about her hands…if she touches you in this “innocent” spot, then it’s her discreet way of telling you she wants to kiss you.
The last Arousal Signal is the hardest to describe…you can go here to see what I mean.
These “Arousal Signals” are going to be a major game-changer, so I thought they were deserving of their own article.
Check them out — you’re gonna love ‘em:
Discover Her 3 “Arousal Signals” That Reveal If She Secretly Wants YOU…
