How To Spank Her Into a Mindblowing Orgasm–Will She Be Your Naughty Girl Tonight?
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Spanking: childhood punishment, or naughty sexual kink?
The answer is obviously both — but today, we’ll be discussing the latter.
One recent study revealed that spanking is the #1 kinky sex act that women secretly want to try. Seriously — for most women, spanking is a huge turn-on.
But if you’ve never tried it before, how do you start experimenting in a way that won’t scare her away?
A survey of 1,500 Canadian adults found that more than one-third of women had fantasized about being spanked.
Should you just go for it… or is there something more subtle you should try first?
Well, today, I’m going to give you the answer. More specifically, I’m going to show you the 5 keys to incorporating spanking into your sexual routine.
Ready to dive in?
Let’s begin with key number one:
1) Find Your “Baseline”
The first step to experimenting with sexual spanking is to understand why it’s so pleasurable.
First of all, Spanking releases endorphins according to science.
To a woman, the pleasure of being spanked stems from submission — when you’re spanking her, you’re in complete control.
According to Dr. Rebecca Plante, an associate professor in Ithaca College’s Department of Sociology, on why spanking is pleasurable:
You’re talking about this fairly well-protected muscular region of the body that’s right at the base of the spine, where there are quite a bit of nerves, so it’s sensitive.”
But why spanking instead of, say, being tied up?
Well, this is gonna sound kind of strange… but it all goes back to childhood.
Because spanking is one of the first ways most of us are physically punished, it’s commonly associated with being “naughty.”
A lot of what kink and BDSM centers around is this concept of playing with “punishment” — not actual punishment, but conceptual, teasing punishment.
Enter: sexual spanking!
The first step to experimenting with this kind of spanking is to start slow — you don’t want to hurt her when she’s not expecting it.
Because spanking is such a common sexual fantasy for women, you don’t need to have a full-on conversation before you try it. However, you should start very light & soft.
Maybe lightly tap her bottom when you’re in doggy-style, or grab her butt when she’s on top and try lightly spanking her then.
Use a light, “tapping” pressure at first — it should make a small noise, but it shouldn’t quite be a “smack.”
Which brings me to my next step…
2) Observe Her Response
Like with any kind of sexual experimentation, communication is going to be the only way that both of you get as much pleasure out of it as you possibly can.
A survey by Lelo found that of people who had experimented with BDSM, spanking & using restraints were tied for the #1 most popular act.
So when you first start experimenting with sexual spanking, it’s important to observe her reaction and go from there.
Here are a few things to look for:
- Did she respond with a noise? Was it positive (like a moan) or negative (like a confused grunt)?
- Did she start to seem more “into it” after you spanked her?
- How did her breathing change after you did it?
- Look up at her — is she biting her lip, or does she look weirded out?
The answers to these questions should help you figure out if she was into it or not.
And if you aren’t sure, you could even ask her, “Did you like that?” Or you could try spanking her a little bit harder to see how she reacts.
So what should you do if she is into it?
Spank her harder! You don’t need to go from 0-60 right away — but if you started with a light tap, spank her a little harder. It’s OK if it makes a little “smacking” noise.
If she’s into it, you’ll know. And from there, it’s time to really start experimenting.
3) Experiment With Variations
I mentioned earlier that you could begin experimenting with sexual spanking in doggy-style and girl-on-top… but that’s really just the tip of the iceberg.
According to one recent study by the University of New Brunswick in Canada, younger women are more interested in threesomes than any other previous generation.
If you really want to step outside of the box, then you could try incorporating spanking into sexual roleplay.
What sort of roleplay?
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Start with the most obvious cliche — she’s been a naughty school girl, and you’re her teacher that has to “punish” her.
Have her lay across your lap, and spank her, increasing the pressure each time. Ask her if she’s been bad — she’ll say “Yes,” if she wants you to keep going.
You don’t have to experiment with costumes, but it could be a fun and fresh way to keep things spicy in the bedroom. She could put on a plaid miniskirt, and you could wear a suit, for example.
And remember — she can do the spanking too!
If you think being spanked is something you might enjoy, be honest and upfront with her — a lot of women also secretly want to play the “dominant” role in bed sometimes.
(You can also try eating this kinky pre-sex snack to stay rock hard for hours)
4) Incorporate Toys (Or Don’t)
Sure, your hands can do a great job of spanking… but they don’t have to be the only thing you use.
Of course, you don’t have to dive into the deep end with a cat o’ nine tails whip, but experimenting with a small paddle might not be a bad idea.
The key is to get creative — if you don’t have a paddle, maybe you have a spatula in the kitchen you can use or an old magazine instead.
And from there, if she’s really loving it & you’re properly performing the technique… you can actually spank her into an orgasm. It’s true!
Here’s how:
5) Take Her Over the Edge With the “S&M Spank”
“Harder! Harder! I’ve been a bad little girl…” I looked up at Bill with a devilish grin.
And to think, just an hour ago I had introduced him to my boss(!!!) at dinner… What. A. Night.
When we got back to his place, I could tell Bill was feeling a little frisky… so I expected the usual: a few minutes of foreplay, “pretty OK” sex, aaand maybe ice cream in bed for dessert…
Until he said, “Let’s do a little role-playing tonight… I’ll be the teacher & you be the naughty student.”
OMG!!! I had never experimented with role-playing… though I had always wanted to try.
Well, fast-forward 25 minutes… and I’m in pigtails, wearing a plaid miniskirt, laying across his lap… begging him to spank me for as long as I could take it… and loving every. Single. Second.
And by the time he was finished with his “punishment,” I was so turned on that I practically jumped on top of him… and like a good little girl, I pleasured him just the way he liked. 😉
Afterward, laying in bed, my curiosity got the best of me… “Bill, the way you spanked me was soooo f’in hot… but that came out of nowhere!! Where did you get that idea? And when can we do it again?”
Well, he didn’t say one word… he just showed me this video… and I guess the technique is called the “S&M Spank.”
The video also showed two more of these “rough sex” techniques… and after seeing my eyes light up, Bill agreed we could “test” them out that night. 😉 (What a guy.)
Which one of these would you try first?
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P.S. Most guys are too afraid to do this to me… would you?
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on April 1, 2020.]
