How To Seduce Women Like a Pro–Do You Know How Easy It Can Be?
If you read my column last week, then you’re already familiar with the 5 stages of seduction.
So today, I’d like to break them down for you in-depth.
I’ll explain exactly what they are…
How to follow them properly…
And how to easily take a woman home on the same night you meet her…
Because with these steps, the truth is, it’s never been easier. 🙂
Let’s begin with step #1:
1) The Interrupter (AKA Interrupt-Her)
Most men think of this as part of the opener, but they are definitely different.
Because in order to say that first opener or ask that first question, you must break in upon her world.
In fact, some guys are great with the opener, but because they don’t realize that this is a separate step, their opener has to do double duty and it fails at interrupting.
Examples are quiet or cerebral guys who say things like, “That’s a really nice necklace” or, “You look like Emily Bronte.”
Because they are interrupting her with that statement, it has a first job that sometimes it’s not as good at.
Maybe she doesn’t know if you’re challenging her, complimenting her or what. Maybe she doesn’t know how to respond–and so she doesn’t.
Yes, you CAN do both the interrupter and the opener at once. If you do, however, it takes experience and getting used to being in that opening stage.
But let’s get down to it–what should you say to interrupt her?
I don’t recommend the, “Excuse me…” class of interrupter, where you basically let her know that you are an intrusion.
This includes, “I don’t mean to bother you…”
“Do you mind if I ask you a question?”
And, “I know you’re busy, but….”
You don’t want to tell her she’s being interrupted.
If you feel like you need something ingratiating to pave the way (sometimes I feel that way on the first few approaches) then I recommend this favorite:
“Can…” or, “Do you mind if…” “… I ask you an… odd question?”
The weakness of the request is covered by the intrigue that the word “odd” produces. It does NOT have to be an odd question. Whatever you were going to say is fine.
Others are, “Hey guys…” (Removing their gender suggests that you are not even looking at them to hit on them), and “Real quick” (time constraint).
2) The Opener
So when you’re ready to open, here’s your line.
It’s best if you don’t think it up (or sound like you thought it up) too much, because the more work you seem like you did…
The more “try hard” you seem (i.e. less attractive).
Also, the more work you ACTUALLY do, the more time you take to just start talking.
Here are some good examples:
“What are you drinking…?”
“Do you know if Karl’s working tonight…?”
“You’re not from around here…”
“You’re a Gemini, right…?”
“Who lies more, men or women…?”
And so on. Just keep it simple.
3) Change The Subject
Everything that most guys think the opener does is actually accomplished in this next step.
Women will be WAY more engaged if you are NOT trying to hit on them with your opening line.
So here’s where the twist comes.
Unlike the Opener, you get actual credit for anything interesting you say at this point–even if you worked all night on it.
Why?
Because when you change the subject, it seems like you just came up with it.
That’s not true if your opener is too contrived, but if it’s very mundane and realistic, then whatever you say here–especially if your emotion changes–can be super engaging.
The best is where the subject change is based entirely on her. That way, she has to follow it–she can’t resist!
Some examples:
“Wow, that’s an interesting accent…”
“You’re so in control of your emotions…”
“Woah, slow down–your friend didn’t even answer yet!”
The key is to get your opener out of the way, and then change the subject quickly. That’s the easiest way to keep her interested in and focused on you.
4) Touching
Sometimes, you can move her the first time before you touch her.
Last Saturday, for example, I saw a girl I liked at the bar.
I went over and said something, and then I said, “Come to the bar” (which she did).
I then introduced her to my friend and put her in front of us.
The truth is, I also touched her as soon as it was clear to me that she was coming.
Touch begins the Oxytocin flow through her (the “love” hormone) and forces you to invade her personal space.
So if you know you are going to eventually touch her, then you’ve got to get closer. Then go for the casual touch.
5) The Final Move & Close
If you’ve touched her and she is not defensive about your touch, then it’s time to try to move her.
It should be as easy as, “Let’s go to the bar…”
Or, “Let’s go meet my friends…”
Or, “Let’s go see what band is playing…”
But the key is to move her.
Why?
Because unlike touch, moving her is a sort of test–and that’s why it’s the last step before getting her in bed with you.
So if you can get her to go more than 10 feet away from her original spot with you, then that’s a great sign.
And if you can get her back to your place? Even better.
So if that’s the case… then it’s time to seal the deal ;-):
Once You Take Her Home… THIS Kind of Foreplay Leads to Sex More Often…
So she’s at your place… and maybe she’s sitting on your couch… or you’re even kissing a bit.
Yet at this point, as many guys in our community know, sex is still far from a guarantee.
So instead of waiting for her to suggest “taking things to the bedroom,” like a lot of guys might…
Or just “going for it” with some awkward advances…
What you really want is for her to get so turned on, that she starts taking off pieces of clothing… until she’s down to her bra and panties…
Because that’s when you can take her by the hand… and silently lead her to the bedroom.
But how can you get a girl that sexually worked up in a matter of minutes… to the point where she craves having sex with you right then and there?
It’s all about the foreplay, man.
And it’s not just like, “kiss her, feel her up, and off come the panties”…
No, it’s still a seduction. She needs to feel sexual. She needs to feel wanted.
That’s why I always focus on these “sensual spots” during foreplay.
One of my fellow Community Experts, Jessica, told me about them… and honestly, when you touch a woman in these spots during foreplay…
She’ll often moan… talk dirty… and peel off layers of clothing so she can feel the sensations directly on her skin.
Anyway, Jess made this video showing you all 8 of her “sensual spots”… and in my experience (and according to a bunch of other community members), they’re pretty much universal to all women:
Touch These 8 “Sensual Spots” During Foreplay to Make Her Crave Sex With You…
