5 Texting Examples To Win Her Over Every Time–Will These Get You the Response You Want?
The technology you have at your fingertips is incredible.
You can use it to search through millions of sites for information, work from home, or start something new with the girl next to you at the movie theater.
Yes. Phones are a great way to connect and get to know people, but so many guys today have been led astray by posts claiming to have the secret to get laid fast, but then the girl never texts back.
Although there can be some truth to those articles, they never quite give you the full story.
Fortunately, I’m here to give you the best proven tips and tricks to not only get you a conversation, but create a bond that’s for a potential future.
1) If You Want to Text Her First
Here’s how I get her to text her first:
Me: Hey… Why am I craving chocolate ice cream and a game of pool??? Are you any good shooting pool?
Her: No… But I will try anything. 8)
Me: Even “trying” not to impress me so much with an answer like that???
Her: Oh… You’re good!
Me: Actually, I’m not that good at pool, either! Does 8 still work?
Her: Yes! But I have a 5 A.M. call time tomorrow so you get to hit and run.
Me: Whoa… Hit and run?? I’m not that easy. You girls all have a one track mind. Let’s start with pool and drinks and see how it goes first! lol
2) If She Mentions Something About Herself
Another time you can use this mentality is when a girl mentions something about herself.
Her: I love yoga!
Me: No you don’t. You’re just saying that because you think I’m hot and because I just told you I do yoga.
Me: You don’t have to say that just to get me to like you!
3) The “Location” Trick
Here’s another example that seems to work really well:
Her: So, where do you live? (typically asked in the very beginning of the rapport stage)
Me: Well… I guess we can go back to my place.
Me: That’s a great idea. My place is close by. Let’s go!
Me: Wow! You’re very forward. You wanna go back to my place already?
4) If You Want to Ask Her A Question
This example works both over text and in person — it’s great to use when a woman asks you a question.
Her: Do you know where such and such a place is?
Me: That was the lamest excuse to use on a guy you thought was hot and wanted to talk to!
5) If She Mentions The Shower
This one is oddly specific, but it works like f’in dynamite… ONLY use it if she mentions taking a shower though.
Her: OK… text me later or tomorrow. I need to jump in the shower now.
Me: Stop trying to get me to think about you naked. You perv!
I’m sure by now you get the basic idea — but now I want to talk a little more about why this works so well.
Why Texting Is Taking Over…
Over and over, guys tell me the same things:
“I don’t like texting”… or,
“I prefer to use the phone.”
I’ve heard it from both men and women–but there’s no denying it:
Texting is taking over.
I won’t deny that talking on the phone has certain advantages over texting. However, there are also certain advantages to texting a woman that the phone cannot provide.
So today, I’m going to show you some pros & cons of texting. And then I’ll show you how you can use this information to get more responses and dates with your texts.
Here’s everything you need to know about texting women in today’s dating scene (and if you're in a hurry–here is a quick checklist revealing what women really want in texts):
Texting Women: The Pros & Cons
If you don’t like texting, then you’re not alone.
Here are some of the most common “cons” of texting that may be the reason for your dislike:
Con #1: Texts Are Not “Live”
When you receive a text from a woman, is it recycled?
Are you the only one receiving this text?
Because she’s not standing there in front of you, it’s impossible to tell.
However, there are ways around this.
You can compensate for a “recycled” text by responding quickly, and by breaking up a paragraph into several shorter texts.
That way, it feels more immediate to her–like you’re thinking these thoughts right now, in the moment.
Of course, if she says something you don’t like, then you can also wait longer to respond.
Con #2: Texts Are Not Special
Unless you really like a girl–and you have no idea if you’re ever going to hear from her again–then you are very unlikely to celebrate the fact that she texted you.
This is true for her as well.
Texts don’t feel like somebody is giving you something. They don’t feel generous, and they seem impersonal.
So how do you compensate for the fact that your texts are not very “special”?
Pro #1: Texts Give You More Power Over Your Words
One of the pros of texting a woman over calling her is that you can find stronger things to say via text.
In a lot of relationships–even in the beginning–the two of you have private jokes.
This means that you’ve talked about or done things that have a particularly special meaning to just the two of you.
So in texts, you can refer to these things.
Even better, you can research them so that they inform your texts.
That additional effort–which a live conversation often doesn’t give the time for–can feel very good for her.
Pro #2: Texts Showcase Your Sense Of Humor
Here’s an example of how you can show your sense of humor to attract a woman over text.
I was texting a lover who was out of town… and I quipped that the protests to get her back to the city had already begun.
She responded well to this, so I immediately searched for a photo of a protest–and I found one with lots of “No” signs in it.
I went on to text her, “You obviously can’t hear it in my photo, but they’ve started chanting” (as though I had taken the photo).
She was in Palo Alto at the time, so after her reply, I went on:
“They’re saying,‘No Palo. No Alto,’ but my text doesn’t describe it, because if you could hear it, it’s more, ‘NO pa-LOW. NO al-TOW’!'”
I know this had a good effect because she responded, “LMAO! You’re too fast.”
(You can also check out some other teaser texts to send her right here.)
This is just one of the many ways texting a woman can make her want you more, little by little. Trust me, this is how you get her to chase you.
As you’ve seen, there’s many pros and cons to starting a conversation or relationship through texting.
Although it’s becoming the norm these days, many guys still have trouble finding that emotional connection.
Unlike face to face or phone conversation, texts only use one channel of communication:
It Doesn't End There…
Words communicate a lot, but they don’t communicate enough.
OK, you’re probably thinking that emotions are also included via emojis. Well, they are, but remember that these are symbolic emotions since there are a limited number of them.
For example, a statement like, “Don’t be stupid” can be extremely different with a rolling eyes emoji or a crying laughing emoji. Even the phrase “lol” can help.
These are still all visual, though. Text misses out on sound and touch.
Texts also miss things like rhythm, volume and intensity. I can’t yell in text, or whisper, or rap or impersonate other people’s voices.
The way to compensate for the lack of emotions in texts is to use extra emotion.
That doesn’t mean in only one direction, mind you. Remember that women are attracted to emotional variety.
Exaggerate the emotion, in other words, using punctuation, colorful vocabulary and emojis.
For example, you can “YELL ABOUT SOMETHING!!” In all caps…
Or you can “be really quiet” using a few short words.
You can also use pictures, memes, and hyperlinks to add motion, emotion, and energy to your texts. Remember, texting should be fun!
Asking a girl out over text can be tricky, but with these tips, you’ll be in the best position to slide on in.
(If you are still not sure about her level of interest before asking her out, check out this quick quiz to know for sure.)
Of course, your texts should still be shorter than hers. That way you leave her wanting more.