We’ve all been there. You’ve landed a date with that girl you finally worked up the courage to ask out and you’re having an amazing time.
But then something happens…
The conversation starts to fade. You lose the chemistry and everything stops flowing–interrupted by some sort of terrible awkward silence.
You can tell she is starting to become less interested, so what do you do?
How do you continue to be interesting throughout the date and have her hanging on your every word?
Hi, I’m David Dupree, and every week I’ll be answering the most difficult & burning questions you have when it comes to sex and dating.
I get asked questions like this all the time, and today I’m answering this one:
“How do I keep a girl interested in me?”
Catch The Full Video Transcript Below…
What I’m going to talk about today is a really big topic.
Personally, I do a 3-month course on developing an interesting personality. However, today I’m going to give you the short version.
First of all, recognize that everybody is already interesting.
So the concept of “how to be interesting” is more about expressing the interesting parts of your personality.
In addition to that, the thing that really gets in the way of being interesting is one big thing:
Being too negative.
Because when you say something like, “No. I don’t like …” It’s just stopping the conversation short.
Not only that, but it shuts your mind down as well. And let’s not forget it shuts down the woman you’re talking to!
If you talk about what you do like, on the other hand, she’ll want to think of things she likes herself.
But I’m getting a little ahead of myself here–I want to show you 5 key ways to become naturally more interesting to women.
Beginning with #1:
1) Stay Positive
Staying positive in what you say can really open up a conversation.
Why?
Because when you say, “I don’t like this…”
Then everything after that statement is going to be removed from the conversation.
Any other things that you want to bring into the conversation will be measured against what you don’t like.
Whereas, when you say, “I like…”
What you’re really saying is, “Let’s talk about stuff we like.”
You’re opening the conversation!
2) Listen (Really Listen)
I will also say that the most interesting thing you can do is be interested in what she’s talking about.
Seriously, it sounds kinda crazy, but hear me out:
The easiest way to sound interesting is to be genuinely interested in what she’s talking about!
In fact, when a woman says that a man is interesting, what she means is that when she talks about what she likes, he follows.
It means that he:
Listens to what she’s interested in when she speaks…
Has good answers to her questions…
Seems really smart and reacts well to her interests…
Knows what she wants to talk about and when…
And so on.
3) Change The Subject Early & Often
It’s also important to get out of your head if you truly want to be interesting.
The main thing that stops a lot of guys from coming off as “interesting” is staying on one topic for too long.
What you’re looking to do, especially early on in a conversation, is change subjects a lot.
You should have at least 7 subjects ready to discuss in your first conversation.
Here’s an example:
Let’s say I’m on a date with a woman and we’re talking about Golden Retrievers.
If we talk about Golden Retrievers for the entire conversation, we have nothing in common. There is no connection.
Instead, I want to change the topic. Here’s what that looks like:
“Wow. I have exactly the same dog. You must live in a big apartment.”
Now, I’ve immediately changed the subject. It might sound like we’re talking about the same thing, but we’re not.
I know 7 subjects might seem like a lot to carry around in your back pocket.
Which brings me to my next tip to become more interesting…
4) Make A List of Your Favorite Subjects
If you can’t think of 7 things you like to talk about off the top of your head, then simply make a list.
In fact, you could even make a list of 15 things you like, then cross off the 8 topics that seem the least interesting to you.
It might be car parts–most women don’t want to talk about car parts.
Here’s my own list for reference:
Travel…
Psychology…
The dating scene…
Restaurants and food…
New York City…
Travel is one of the best topics to talk about with women–but keep in mind that there are different kinds of travel.
For example, there’s what I call Greenpeace travel (which I know nothing about). That’s like, “I like to go to Kenya, Nairobi, and Nepal.”
And then there’s resort travel–Nice and Milan, Paris, and of course, New York. That’s the travel I’m more familiar with.
Another one on my list is restaurants or food.
Food can be a very sensual topic. When you talk about something you like, you can get deep into it so you hit all the senses.
So what you want to do is talk about stuff that you are good at talking about and change topics a lot.
5) Read The Headlines
My final piece of advice to become more interesting is an historic recommendation that comes from a madam (a woman who runs a brothel)…
She would give the women that worked for her instructions to read the headlines every day. And this is absolutely effective.
Of course, you don’t have to read the paper or watch the news. News can be negative and long-winded.
But rather, read the headlines. Know what is current.
That way you have the things you like to talk about, and you are present because you got out of your head, so now you can intersperse some current events.
It will help the woman you’re with have something to talk about as well.
Remember, an “interesting” conversation means both of you are talking and interacting! So you don’t have to do much work at all.
And once you’re deep in conversation, you may be wondering just how interested in you she is…
And here’s how to find out:
How Interested Is She: Does She Want To Flirt, or Go Back To Your Bedroom?
There is certainly a time when conversation can become “too interesting.”
Eventually, you’re going to have to make a move.
I know, “making a move” sounds kind of scary to guys in our community. What if she says “no”? Or worse, makes a scene?
Well in my experience, there’s only one time that really happens:
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