How To Have A Great Relationship, Even If Things Are Cooling Off–Is It Really This Easy?
Click Here to Discover the “Tantric Dirty Talk” That Takes Her Over the Edge…
Over the past few weeks, I’ve written a lot about how to overcome the hurdles of being in a long-term relationship.
Whether it’s the “7-year itch” or the “10-year curse”… there are proven ways to overcome these road blocks and keep your relationship going strong.
However, what about the couples who have been together for 10-15 years, or longer?
Are there ways to keep things fun, exciting, and new, even if you feel like you know everything there is to know about the other person?
The answer is “Yes.” And today, I’m going to show you how.
The #1 Factor That Determines Your Partner’s Sexual Satisfaction
The truth is that if you make it to 15 years with one person, most of the heavy lifting is already done.
Couples that last more than 15-year mark often rediscover each other — and their earlier passion.
Psychologists chalk up this reawakening to becoming an empty-nester when the kids leave home. However, it even occurs for couples without children, signalling that there may be some evolutionary hard-wiring at play here.
Just sitting back and hoping for the best, though, is not going to guarantee a new honeymoon period in a long-term relationship.
Effort is still required if you want to keep the spark alive between you and your partner.
In fact, studies show that the biggest predictor of whether or not a long-term relationship will last is how often you and your partner orgasm with each other.
One study of older couples in long-term relationships found that the couples with the highest levels of sexual satisfaction had the most sex, and vice versa.
What does that mean?
Couples who had more sex also reported being more satisfied…and when you’re more sexually satisfied, you’re more motivated to have sex more often!
See where I’m going with this?
If you want to have more sex, one of the easiest ways to naturally accomplish this is to make sure your partner is sexually satisfied.
If you make sure she is having great sex — and plenty of “O”s — you will get more sex. And you’ll both be happier.
So that’s it? Just make sure she has an orgasm?
Not quite.
There is another thing to keep your eye — fingers, tongue, etc. — on: She may have had an orgasm, but was it a good one?
For both men and women (especially women), all orgasms are good…that much is true.
But some orgasms are better, and others are way — WAY — better.
Orgasm quality is a major factor when it comes (pun intended) to her sexual satisfaction in the relationship.
If You Aren’t Sexually Satisfied, Whose Fault Is It?
It might seem like I’m getting a little ahead of myself here — after all, who has time to think about orgasm quality if you aren’t getting much action to begin with?
But let me clarify something:
When researchers talk about how often older couples have sex, they don’t mean that they’re f**king like prom dates, with five fresh erections in a two-hour period.
Over time, sex drives naturally decrease. This is especially true if you’ve been with one person for 10+ years.
There are a lot of biological reasons for this, but that doesn’t mean you can’t overcome them.
So if you’re not sexually satisfied, it’s NOT your fault. And it’s most likely not your partner’s fault, either.
What tends to happen is that couples in long-term relationships take their closeness for granted…and so they end up losing the passion they once had for each other.
This is a difficult issue to overcome (especially if what you want is more sex)…but it’s not impossible.
How To Keep Things Hot And Heavy (Even If You’ve Been Together For Years)
Let’s assume that if a couple has been together for longer than 10 years, then they probably have a good idea of what the other likes in bed. So the struggle isn’t giving your partner an orgasm…it’s taking it one step further.
Studies say that the most sexually satisfied couples are also open with each other about what they want.
Letting your partner in on your fantasies and turn-ons — and listening to hers — helps to maintain the intimacy a good sex life needs.
So, if you want more oral sex, tell her!
Which brings me to my next point: The more oral sex, the better! For everyone.
The amount of oral sex that couples have with each other is another big predictor of how happy they are with their sex lives.
You don’t have to make it an awkward conversation. In fact, you can just make it part of your foreplay the next time you get busy.
At the end of the day, the key is to mix it up with the sex you’re having.
After frequency of sex and orgasms, along with communication, creativity is the next biggest thing that keeps long-term couples satisfied.
One of the easiest ways to get creative? Use some dirty talk.
Here’s something that’s been working really well for me:
How to Use “Tantric Dirty Talk” to Unleash a POWERFUL Orgasm
“Inside every woman are powerful orgasms beating down the door to be released”... my buddy Lawrence told me.
That was Lawrence Lanoff…a sex expert who specializes in tantra.
My sex life had been feeling pretty “blah” lately… so I came to him for advice, hoping to “spice things up” with my wife.
He went on… “And the only way to unleash these orgasms is to use this new technique… I call it ‘Tantric Dirty Talk’.”
“Tantric Dirty Talk??? What the hell is THAT?” I asked him…
“It’s pretty simple…” He said. “You just picture all the things you want to do to her in bed… and then you whisper these 6 words in her ear…”
He went on… “To a guy, it might seem ‘silly’… but for a woman, it builds up into an EXPLOSIVE release… usually within minutes.”
I have to admit I was skeptical…though when I tried it out on my wife that night… sure enough, a few minutes later, she soaked the sheets (and begged me for round 2…hell yeah).
This “Tantric Dirty Talk” f’in rocks. You can see exactly how to use it here:
How to Use “Tantric Dirty Talk” to Unleash a POWERFUL Orgasm…
