How To Be Sexually Confident & Blow Hot Girls’ Minds In Bed (No Matter How Long It’s Been)…
Feeling like you’ve lost your bedroom mojo?
It happens to every guy from time to time.
Work stress, a recent breakup, or other worries can leave you feeling less than stellar when it comes to sexy time.
If it’s been a minute since you’ve had sex, that can make things even more intimidating.
Not to worry, though.
Dr. Valeria Chuba, a sexologist from Massachusetts, has some tried and true methods to give you a confidence boost in the bedroom.
Below you’ll find her best tips, along with some extra tips from our experts about how to get back in the saddle, and keep every woman you sleep with satisfied in bed.
So let’s dive in!
1) The Funny Thing About Sex…
If you stop to think about it, sex is kind of, well, silly.
As you’re getting it on, things get messy and bodies make noises.
Instead of being embarrassed about your “O” face or the awkwardness of changing positions, try approaching the situation with a sense of humor.
“Sex is about connection, pleasure, and fun,” according to Dr. Chuba.
SPECIAL: This “T-Shirt Secret” Can Get You Laid Tonight…
Rather than focusing on getting everything right, take a moment to laugh when things go awry.
Laughing together can bring you closer to your partner and help her feel more at ease. It can break the tension and it shows your partner a sense of confidence.
After all, one of the sexiest traits in a man is a good sense of humor. 😉
So don’t worry if things don’t go perfectly. Have a good laugh and get back to getting your groove on.
2) Remember: You’re Not Psychic (And You Don’t Need Be)
You’re not a mind reader, and you don’t need to be.
Be upfront about what you enjoy, and encourage your partner to do the same.
“Good communication is a big part of any successful sexual relationship,” says Dr. Chuba. “There are few things more attractive in a lover than the confidence to speak up about his or her needs and desires, and the ability to listen to his or her partner.”
If you want your partner to go slower or faster, let her know. Whisper what you want in her ear.
Communication via dirty talk is a win-win for everyone.
If she seems shy about saying what she wants, pay attention to her body language.
Is she arching her back or digging her fingers into you? Then you’re on the right track.
If you tell her what you want, chances are she’ll return the favor, though, leading to better sex for both of you.
3) The “Feel Good Factor”
Rather than worrying about your performance in the bedroom, focus on pleasure–yours and hers.
“Whenever you feel yourself getting caught up in performance pressure, focus instead on your body sensations. Breathe deeply and if need be, slow down,” says Dr. Chuba.
If you’re worried about keeping it “up,” take a break to focus on her. Use your fingers to explore her body or go down on her.
BRAND-NEW: This “Raging Bull Secret” Helps Almost Any Guy Last Longer In Bed (Try This Tonight!)…
Women aren’t looking for an Olympic athlete in the bedroom; we’re looking for someone who pays attention to our bodies and what we enjoy.
Focusing on her pleasure will make you seem more confident, and before you know it, you’ll be feeling more confident too.
4) Learn From Your Past Experiences
Take a moment to reflect on what’s worked for you in the past.
Was there a certain position that really turned her on? Some roleplay that you really enjoyed?
“Getting clarity around your needs and boundaries will help you start a new sexual relationship in a more proactive way,” according to Dr. Chuba.
Think about what you need and want in a sexual relationship, then communicate that to your partner. It doesn’t have to be a big, serious discussion.
Ask her, “Hey, do you want to try [insert fun new position or idea]…” and see what happens. 🙂
That said, don’t let baggage from past relationships hold you back.
Was there something that turned you on that your previous partner didn’t enjoy? This is your chance to try it out.
Instead of worrying about a new sexual relationship, think of it as an opportunity. You can explore new things, try new positions, and experiment. Who knows what you’ll discover?
5) Masturbate More (Yes, Really)
You can’t tell your partner what you want if you don’t know what it is.
Yep, this is an excuse to masturbate (as if you needed one!).
In all seriousness, though, masturbation is a chance to explore what turns you on.
Rather than going with your tried and true technique, change things up.
Vary your stroking speed. Try doing things a little more gently (or roughly, whatever works).
TRENDING: 3 Shocking Rough Sex Moves She’ll BEG You For Again & Again…
“The more you know about what turns you on and helps you experience pleasure and orgasm, the better you’ll be able to share these things with your partner, leading to a more positive intimate experience,” according to Dr. Chuba.
Change up the porn you watch, or maybe dabble in reading some erotic literature (something a lot of women enjoy as well).
As you get to know new things that work for you, try them with your partner. If they work, awesome! If they don’t, you can always try something else.
At the end of the day, if you seem comfortable and confident, your partner will feel that way too. And that’s a recipe for amazing sex. 😉
Which brings me to our last tip… and it’s by far the most important:
6) If You’re an Older Guy…
Then one of the fastest ways to boost your sex drive… and become a raging bull in bed again…
… is to go straight to the source, and boost your bloodflow *down there.*
Because the more blood you have flowing into your d*ck… the easier it will be for you to get hard (and stay that way).
And in fact you can do this without ANY prescriptions, or weird exercises.
How?
Eat this simple combination of 5 bloodflow-boosting foods.
It was tested by one of Gotham Club’s readers… who at age 41 suffered from complete and total “dead d*ck”…
… he tried everything to fix it, and nothing worked…
… though thanks to these 5 foods, he was able to overcome it and become a raging bull in bed again… just like he was back in college:
Click here to see what the 5 foods are and how they can help you too.
