If your friendship is a chessboard, the position of her pieces is constantly changing. Sure, you can move in response, but she’s always a moving target.
What does this mean?
It means that as you continue not to make a move, you are losing the battle and the war.
It’s only a matter of time before you’re not friends anymore, and then you won’t even have an opportunity to make a move.
Yes, of course, if you don’t make the move… then you avoid the in-your-face rejection that a bad approach might produce.
You’re also unlikely to get a friendship-ending turndown if you never make a move on her.
So since there are obvious benefits to putting off this move, why am I so against it?
Think about it like this:
If you make a move on a girl who’s your friend, the worst case scenario is that she rejects you awkwardly and publicly, and then she tells her friends about it.
Then, maybe two days–or two hours–later, she’ll forget that ever happened and act like nothing happened.
The reason I’m so against waiting to make the move is because the risk is so low, there’s no reason you shouldn’t make a move early on.
Is There Really Such a Thing As “Risk-Free Escalation”?
Male friends are actually hard to come by, so women are often looking for them.
In other words, if you make a move on her, there may be some discomfort–but because you are a rare friend to her, things will likely go back to exactly the way they were.
And that’s the worst-case scenario.
The most likely way she’ll reject your advance–if that’s what happens–is that she’ll be flattered and say something like, “Aww, I’m sorry… I don’t really think of you that way.”
If you make the approach that escalates incrementally and pay attention to how she’s responding, as I constantly describe on this website, then the most likely thing to happen–far most likely, and I’m speaking from experience–is that she’ll respond favorably and then blur.
What does that mean?
It means that when you escalate in small steps, and get to the point where you can say, “… for a second, I thought you were about to kiss me.”… then she will.
That advance has never been rejected. In other words, she will almost certainly kiss you at this point.
Afterward, you may be unable to convert this into sex, and have difficulty getting her to meet up with you again.
This could be because she’s embarrassed about how far things went, or because she’s simply not interested or able to pursue a relationship with you.
Maybe she has a boyfriend.
Lots of stuff is possible here.
The point I’m trying to make is that the almost CERTAIN outcome is that she will not be too offended if you make a move.
Here’s my rule about when you should go for it, and when you shouldn’t:
If more than 60% of the value you get from your friendship comes from the idea that you think she may one day be your girlfriend–then please make a pass at her.
Why do I say “60%”?
Because I KNOW that if you are willing to admit it’s more than half, it’s probably more like 80%.
If you offer her value, then the friendship can continue indefinitely…
But the longer you wait to make a move on her, the more uncomfortable she will be if you do.
Bottom line:
If you want her, then make a move soon, and make it smart.
Here’s how:
There Are 3 Different Types of “Friend Zones” (Here’s How to Get Out Of Each)…
And for each of these friend zones, there’s a specific strategy that works best to get her to sleep with you.
First, there’s the “internet” friend zone… you’re talking online, but you haven’t met up with her yet.
Next, there’s the “I have a boyfriend” friend zone… that one’s pretty self-explanatory.
With these girls, you have to be subtle. (Otherwise she’ll realize what you’re doing, and may get defensive… even if she likes you a lot.)
So that’s why I recommend using these 3 “temptation touches” when you’re with her. They’re super stealthy, yet they work to turn her on fast… and often they can even get her to kiss you first.
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