Getting Out of The Friend Zone: Discover The Risk-Free Move That Gets Her in Bed With You…
Believe me when I say, I know what you’re going through.
I know what the desire for a woman is.
I know the hunger when you are alone with the exact type of woman that starts your fire.
And I know how difficult it can be to spend time with her, all the while wondering:
“Is she into me? Or does she just want someone to talk to?”
“Is she just being friendly?”
“Maybe she’s only looking for a free meal?”
“Is she trying to get me to fix her computer?”
Hopefully, by now you’ve read enough that you trust me.
And hopefully you won't be surprised to read what I'm about to write:
If you want to find out if she likes you back, and eventually sleep with her, then you're going to have to push through the fear and make a move.
It doesn't have to be scary. And it doesn't have to be risky. And yes, there is a way to stay friends with her after you do it.
Today I'm going to show you how.
Before You Make A Move–What You MUST Know…
First, let me just say that I understand if you don't want to make a move.
I completely understand the benefits of keeping the friendship alive.
But what you must understand, is that your friendship with this woman is only temporary.
If your friendship is a chessboard, the position of her pieces is constantly changing. Sure, you can move in response, but she's always a moving target.
What does this mean?
It means that as you continue not to make a move, you are losing the battle and the war.
It's only a matter of time before you're not friends anymore, and then you won't even have an opportunity to make a move.
Yes, of course, if you don't make the move… then you avoid the in-your-face rejection that a bad approach might produce.
You're also unlikely to get a friendship-ending turndown if you never make a move on her.
So since there are obvious benefits to putting off this move, why am I so against it?
Think about it like this:
If you make a move on a girl who's your friend, the worst case scenario is that she rejects you awkwardly and publicly, and then she tells her friends about it.
Then, maybe two days–or two hours–later, she'll forget that ever happened and act like nothing happened.
The reason I'm so against waiting to make the move is because the risk is so low, there's no reason you shouldn't make a move early on.
Is There Really Such a Thing As “Risk-Free Escalation”?
Male friends are actually hard to come by, so women are often looking for them.
In other words, if you make a move on her, there may be some discomfort–but because you are a rare friend to her, things will likely go back to exactly the way they were.
And that's the worst-case scenario.
The most likely way she'll reject your advance–if that's what happens–is that she'll be flattered and say something like, “Aww, I'm sorry… I don't really think of you that way.”
If you make the approach that escalates incrementally and pay attention to how she’s responding, as I constantly describe on this website, then the most likely thing to happen–far most likely, and I’m speaking from experience–is that she’ll respond favorably and then blur.
What does that mean?
It means that when you escalate in small steps, and get to the point where you can say, “… for a second, I thought you were about to kiss me.”… then she will.
That advance has never been rejected. In other words, she will almost certainly kiss you at this point.
Afterward, you may be unable to convert this into sex, and have difficulty getting her to meet up with you again.
This could be because she's embarrassed about how far things went, or because she's simply not interested or able to pursue a relationship with you.
Maybe she has a boyfriend.
Lots of stuff is possible here.
The point I'm trying to make is that the almost CERTAIN outcome is that she will not be too offended if you make a move.
On the contrary, she'll usually accept and kiss you–because of your masculine willingness to take the shot.
You have nothing to lose.
The Key To Getting Her In Bed & Still Staying Friends With Her…
OK, so I'm telling you that you have nothing to lose if you make the move.
What you may discover, though, as you get more experience… is that the girl who doesn't reject you doesn't remain your friend, either.
She's your friend now–and it feels to you that it is but a thin line that separates you two.
Where I might hesitate to make the move is if she's been your friend for a really long time.
If you value your friendship a lot, you could make it “weird” for a while if you make the first move.
Here's my rule about when you should go for it, and when you shouldn't:
If more than 60% of the value you get from your friendship comes from the idea that you think she may one day be your girlfriend–then please make a pass at her.
Why do I say “60%”?
Because I KNOW that if you are willing to admit it's more than half, it's probably more like 80%.
If you offer her value, then the friendship can continue indefinitely…
But the longer you wait to make a move on her, the more uncomfortable she will be if you do.
If you want her, then make a move soon, and make it smart.
There Are 3 Different Types of “Friend Zones” (Here's How to Get Out Of Each)…
And for each of these friend zones, there’s a specific strategy that works best to get her to sleep with you.
First, there’s the “internet” friend zone… you’re talking online, but you haven’t met up with her yet.
These girls can be flighty, and difficult to read. So if you want to get her out on a date with you (and eventually in bed)… follow these 3 proven steps to go from first message to fast sex.
Next, there’s the “I have a boyfriend” friend zone… that one’s pretty self-explanatory.
With these girls, you have to be subtle. (Otherwise she’ll realize what you’re doing, and may get defensive… even if she likes you a lot.)
So that’s why I recommend using these 3 “temptation touches” when you’re with her. They’re super stealthy, yet they work to turn her on fast… and often they can even get her to kiss you first.
Finally, there’s the “conflict of interest” friend zone… she’s a coworker or close friend, and you want to be discreet.
If that's the case, you're going to want to turn her on without letting her know you're hitting on her.
And the best way I know to do that?
They're subtle enough to use in a crowded cafe or even an office…
P.S. No matter which friend zone you're in, the key to getting a girl to sleep with you is to turn her on. So click here to see the fastest, lowest-risk way to do that.
[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on December 8, 2019.]