3 Easy Steps to Take You From “Just a Friend” to Boyfriend Material
“Did she just friend zone me?”
If you’re asking yourself this question, then chances are she probably did.
Now, I can’t tell you how you got there because to be honest, there’s more than one road to take you there.
But if you feel like your advances are going nowhere…
Or if she ignores every flirty sign you send her…
Or she can’t stop talking to you about her ex…
You’re in the friend zone.
You could tell yourself that she’s just getting over her last boyfriend who cheated on her, or that she’s just afraid, or even that she doesn’t want to hurt you…
But here’s the brutal and honest truth.
There are two fundamental things women notice that control whether or not you’ll be “friend-zoned”:
1) How attractive you are, and…
2) How confident you are.
If you’re stuck in the friend zone, it means she wasn’t impressed with one or both of these qualities in you.
If you’re average-looking, lack confidence or are inexperienced, don’t worry — I’ve got some good news for you:
Using these two qualities, I’m going to show you three specific steps you can take to get out of the friend zone and get her into bed.
What’s Really Going on Here?
Every time you meet a woman, she puts you into one of two categories: a potential friend or a potential lover.
It’s not hard to fall into the potential friend category with a woman — the tricky part is getting out of it. For the sake of this discussion, let’s say that there are two types of guys who get friend-zoned:
1) The attractive, inexperienced guy, and…
2) The average-looking confident guy.
It’s possible for both of these guys to get out of the friend zone, but there’s one more factor involved: motivation.
If you’re serious about getting out of the friend zone, realize that your efforts may end your friendship with her.
This means you have to be really motivated if you want to take things to the next level.
Working your way out of the friend zone only makes sense if you want this woman badly enough to work for it…
Because at the end of the day, working your way out of the friend zone isn’t about changing her — it’s about changing yourself.
This Is What You Do
So let’s begin with the attractive, inexperienced guy.
If you’re this type of man, you’ve probably been relying on your good looks and charm to get the women you want…
But you don’t have a lot of life experience.
It might be because you’re young…
Or maybe your work schedule doesn’t allow you much free time for travel…
Whatever it is, the first step in getting out of the friend zone is to recognize if you are this type of guy.
Most women who friend-zone attractive men do so because, in their minds, these men lack life experience or are extremely boring.
She assumes you do the same thing every weekend and go to the same places all the time.
In reality, she wants someone with a sense of adventure.
As a woman, I’m attracted to men who try new things as often as possible.
By trying new things, you learn more about yourself — for women, this is a huge turn-on.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, a lack of awareness or knowledge about the world will make women assume you’re inexperienced — including in the bedroom.
If you’re this type of guy, here are three steps you can take to get out of the friend zone with any woman:
1) Recognize that you are this type of guy.
You’ll never get anywhere with her if you can’t acknowledge your own faults. The first step to getting from BFF to boyfriend material is knowing what you’re doing wrong.
2) Go out and live your life — alone.
It might sound counterintuitive, but she needs to notice that you’ve gained experience without her before she’ll want to share her most private experiences with you.
So plan vacations — even if they’re just for a day — and try new things every week. Whether it’s a new restaurant in your neighborhood or a new workout at the gym, make a consistent effort to do new things.
Trust me, she’ll notice when you cancel plans with her because you’ve decided to go sky-diving solo.
3) Plan new experiences with her, and see where things go.
Once you’ve given yourself time to accumulate new experiences, approach her in a different way. Rather than plan your weekly happy hour at the same bar, suggest somewhere else.
Better yet, suggest an entirely new activity!
If you really want her to see you in a new light, you have to put yourself in a new light.
Women are genuinely interested in men who have something interesting going on, so if you can demonstrate your experience to her and share new experiences together, I can guarantee you she’ll want to be a bigger part of your life.
It Doesn’t End There…
If you’re not this type of guy, you have a completely different problem — you’re confident and experienced, but not exactly “handsome.”
The average-looking confident guy tends to tell women everything they need to know.
How to solve their problems…
What’s good for them…
What they should be doing…
And what they could be doing.
Women love this type of guy…
But only as a friend.
This type of guy judges women and tries to “fix” them. He wants to save them.
Here’s what you need to realize: By trying to save her, you’re killing your chances as a romantic partner.
Most women like hearing advice, but they do not want to be fixed or saved.
Take my word for it — a woman will never jump into bed with a man who’s trying to fix her.
This woman probably appreciates the general help you provide, but none of your advice will ever read as “romantic.”
If you’re this type of guy, here are three steps you can take to get out of the friend zone with any woman:
1) Recognize that you are this type of guy.
Like I mentioned above, the most important part of getting out of the friend zone is to acknowledge your own shortcomings. After all, there’s a reason you’re in the friend zone.
If you feel confident in your abilities but have never been complimented on your “model good looks,” you’re not hopeless — but you do have to own it.
2) Share your passions with her.
This woman sees you as a machine — you have the solutions to all of her problems, but you haven’t shared any emotional experiences together.
You need to show her that you can feel.
Think about the last time you felt deeply moved. Was it during a song, a particular football game, or maybe during a meal?
Focus on exactly how you felt, and the next time you see her, talk to her about your experience.
By opening up to her on a new level, she’ll be much more ready to open up to you in a brand-new way.
3) Be passionate with her.
After she recognizes that you have passions, you’re going to want to create passionate experiences with her.
For example, if your passion is food, invite her out to dinner at a particularly interesting restaurant you’ve been dying to try.
She will visibly notice your physical excitement, and she may even become excited herself.
This is your chance to make the move.
Women love to see men who aren’t afraid to express their emotions — especially when that emotion is passion.
When the two of you are in a passionate conversation together, she won’t be thinking about what you look like.
She’ll be thinking about how excited — and possibly turned on — she is by this new side of you she’s seeing.
The Key Point:
At the end of the day, the only way you’ll be able to get her to come closer to you is if you know who the real you is.
By knowing yourself, it will be much easier for you to examine your friendship with her and pinpoint exactly why she sees you as as just a friend.
It will also be easier for you to comfortably share new experiences with her.
The key is to reveal new secrets about yourself in your exchanges with her and hope that she sees you in a different, new and exciting way.
Beyond that, try and see her in a different, new and exciting way.
Figure out what excites her and moves her, recognize what inspires her imagination and let her know exactly how it makes you feel.
You might be surprised by what happens next.
Here Are Your Next Steps
Getting out of the friend zone is a huge accomplishment…
But it could blow up in your face if you don’t know how to tell if she actually wants you.
Just like men have certain ways of showing women they’re interested, women have specific ways of showing men they like them…
But these signs are extremely difficult to pick up on — even experts consistently miss them!
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That mysterious woman you make eye contact with on your morning commute…
The girl who pours your whiskey…
Even your closest friend…
She might want you so badly…
But if you don’t know these signs, you’ll never get her into bed with you.
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