I’m assuming you haven’t got a woman at your place.
Two-thirds of these tips will still be helpful if you do, but these are–believe it or not–ways to improve your sex life, from where you are, right now.
How to get better sex when you’re not getting any sex?
First of all–and I’ll certainly be giving you things to do once you finish this section–your post-COVID sex life may well be better no matter what you do during this time.
Judging from online activity, there’s a lot of pent up need in the dating world.
Yes, for guys that means a lot of sex we’re not having, and possibly a lot more porn….
Dating is not driven by men, however, but by women.
What does this time, when most group gatherings are banned and bars and restaurants are closed, mean for women?
It means there are a LOT of sexually frustrated, horny women.
In the dating world:
While men are making passes at and getting rejected by and buying dinners and drinks for and basically hunting women down…
Women are looking desperately (through clouds of drinks, dinners, rejections and passes) for Prince Charming.
The Difference Between “See and Meet” and “Meet and See”
While a large part of men often want something from the women they see and meet, a large part of women want to MEET or SEE a man they want something from.
Can you understand that difference?
Men are far more likely to find a woman (Pre-Covid) they want at least something from than women are to find a man they want ANYTHING from.
Men are surprised when they want something long term from a woman, while women are surprised when they want ANYTHING from a man…
(Besides help with packages or technical support, hahaha.)
BUT they are constantly auditioning for a role that they NEED to fill.
Right now, women–who need men to audition–are having trouble getting any candidates to reject: no passes, no dinners and no drinks.
When they come out of this and begin mingling again, they will be, in my humble opinion, ready for the flirting they’ve missed.
Women are online in droves–picking over a different pool of less proactive (and often frankly less active) men than what they are used to.
Women are ALWAYS more pliable in person than on paper.
They are more moved by actual personality traits than by lists and descriptions, and this will be amplified once they are seeing men face to face again.
In other words, it’s going to be a stampede of women coming for men…
Now Is the Time…
So you don’t need to do anything? And women will just come running?
Well, I’m saying they will be more ready to see your strengths than before, but that doesn’t mean you can’t improve (or develop) those strengths.
Time to yourself is a good time to improve things like your voice: Reading out loud each morning when you awaken, in your deepest and most resonant voice will do that.
You can improve the rhythm and style of your speaking… Choose a short but good poem or song lyric. (Change it every day unless you want to memorize them.)
You can improve your place.
Now cleaning up is something I always recommend to improve a woman’s desire to stay and return to your home.
This is a time to box things up for the month or so they’ll need before you’re ready to get rid of them permanently. Or at least leave them in the garage or basement.
Get someone to suggest changes to your place–a professional or a knowledgeable relative. (Honestly, a gay man or a straight woman is usually best at interior decorating, sorry to be biased…)
This is a good time to get a rug or replace a sofa; to mount your TV or repair your dining table.
Let’s Talk Actual Sex Life
This last tip might be a bit awkward. Sorry about that.
While you’re not having ‘sex’ you are probably–I touched on it before–increasing your use of pornography.
(You’re probably whacking off, I mean.)
Well, now I’m going to recommend ways you can improve your ACTUAL sex life while you are having sex with no one but yourself.
It is possible. Believe it.
How?
Here is a fundamental truth, that men perhaps don’t know, or at least don’t use.
So, enough verbal foreplay. Here’s the recommendation:
Next time you’re popping your zipper, hold out, from the time you achieve your erection to the time you reach orgasm, for ten minutes.
I won’t go into methods (this isn’t that kind of column) but even if that means you just stop touching it for 8 minutes, so be it.
Work that duration until you can last (or wait) twenty to twenty-five minutes.
This is FAR easier alone than if you are with someone, if only because a timer is not very sexy.
You’ll thank me…
and she’ll thank you.
(And you will LOVE how she thanks you, over and over…)
Now, if you want to work on really impressing those pent up, horny, frustrated women:
This Is a Great Time to Work on ALL Aspects of Dating…
Like I said, this pandemic has left millions of women frustrated, and in DESPERATE need of male “attention.”
Even my friend, Claire, who’s normally the quietest girl in the room admitted yesterday, “Honestly, I’m embarrassed to say this. But for the last few weeks, I’ve been touching myself constantly. I SO need to be with a guy when this is over!”
So whether you’re still struggling with approaching women, or want to her addicted to sex with you by being the best f*ck she’s ever had…
And I’m here to help you!
Here are some top-notch guides and resources to help you EXACTLY where you’re at right now…
These guides have been successfully used by countless Gotham club members to get dates online, turn women on, get laid, and turn casual hookups into long term relationships…
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