Want to Find a Girlfriend Online? Read This First…
Tinder is much more of a science than it used to be — studies have shown the best “lines,” to open with…
The best photos to use on your profile…
What information to include and omit…
All just to land a match, with no guarantee of a date. So if you want to find a serious girlfriend or “traditional” kind of relationship, it can feel pretty frustrating.
Though one new study reveals that 8 out of every 10 girls on Tinder want this one thing…it’s something she probably won’t admit to you on the first date…or even the second…
But it’s turning the world of Tinder upside down as we speak.
The Strange (Yet Delightful) Secret She’s Hiding From You…
According to Tinder’s very own in-house sociologist, 80% of Tinder users DON’T want one-night stands.
In fact, they want long-term, serious, “traditional” relationships! So if you want to find a girlfriend online, it is possible…
If you know the steps to take. So rather than tell you to get on Google and do all the research yourself (which would take hours, maybe even days), we did it for you.
And using this research, I’ve developed a 4-step method to:
- Maximize your matches…
- Send the “right” messages she’ll respond to…
- Get her out on a date with you…
- And ensure the date goes well enough for you to land a second one.
Are you ready to start racking up the matches and get the girlfriend you deserve? Let’s start with step 1:
1) Make a Badass Profile
The first step to landing a date on Tinder is to make your profile stand out.
A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that the best way to land a date is to list all of your accomplishments. The idea is that women will see all of your accomplishments and clearly realize you’re the “best pick”…right?
Wrong — in reality, when women see this kind of “list,” they assume you’re overcompensating for something, or that you’re hiding a giant flaw.
Why? An NYMag article concluded that in order to catch a woman’s interest online, you should make yourself appear trustworthy and approachable — not too good to be true.
Translation: If a woman is going to reach out to you, she should feel comfortable doing it — not intimidated or turned off by an overly “cocky” profile.
For example:
If you have 2 post-grad degrees, maybe don’t put it front and center on your Tinder profile. A girl who didn’t go to college or who is still working through her degree might think you’re flaunting it and swipe left.
Another example — a girl who sees just how much you can bench press might decide you’re too into yourself or your looks to talk to.
When you use Tinder or another dating app, the bottom line is that you only get one chance to make an impression on her, so you have to sell yourself as an “approachable” and “trustworthy” man.
List some relatable or interesting qualities about yourself instead of bragging about your accomplishments — do you like to cook Thai food? Mention that you make a mean panang curry.
Or do you have a dog? You could say you love walking your dog on the weekends. (Pro tip: Most girls love guys with dogs.)
If you have a great job, write that you’re “passionate about work,” rather than saying you make six figures.
Framing your profile in a more humble and down to earth manner will help catch her eye, while giving her a quick way to get to know you.
From there, here’s your next step:
2) Be Upfront With Her
One of the main hangups guys run into when dating online is knowing what to say. You might think a simple “Hey” or “How are you?” works fine…
Though that clearly isn’t always the case. So how do you know when to break out a more “original” line and when to keep it simple?
The unfortunate truth is that girls on Tinder don’t expect to do the work — they have their choice of guys, and so they probably expect you to be the first to reach out.
According to the same sociologist who discovered 80% of Tinder users want to find a serious relationship, most guys who use Tinder wish girls would send the first message. So by reaching out first, you’re standing out from every other guy who’s too afraid to do it.
Because Tinder can feel like a “dangerous” or “dishonest” place for a woman (she has less social proof to see that you’re an “OK” guy than if she were to meet you in person), the best way to get her to respond is to be honest in your opener.
If you have an interesting sense of humor, try sending her a gif or making a silly joke. You could also ask her her opinion of something, like “Crunchy or creamy peanut butter?”
Or if you’re more of a straightforward guy, just be frank with her: “Hey, I think we might get along — would you want to grab a drink next Wednesday?” works well.
And if she responds to you, don’t wait hours to get back to her! Keep the back and forth going for 5-6 messages, then ask her out if you think it’ll work. Don’t just send a winky emoji and expect her to invite you over to her place.
If you’re direct with her, she’s much more likely to be direct with you as well. Which brings me to step 3:
3) Set Yourself Apart in Conversation
So you know how to frame yourself on your profile and that you should reach out to her, the next step is to keep the conversation going smoothly so you can quickly ask her out.
Think back to the last conversation you had that was so interesting you lost track of time:
Was it over sports?…
Politics?…
Maybe a hobby of yours?…
No matter what it was, talking about something you love is a really simple way to come off as “trustworthy” and “approachable” to a woman. The key is to make sure it’s something she might be interested in too.
So do a little research on her profile before you really start the conversation. If her profile says she loves hanging out with her dog, you can ask her what kind of dog she has, for example (and if you have a dog, mention that as well).
Similarly, if she mentions she really loves reading, ask about her favorite book and author, and then ask why.
It’s as simple as showing her that you’re interested in her interests…and that will get her interested in you.
Plus, if you two have similar interests, doing this can lead to some really great conversations in person — a great perk for your first date!
And once you line up that first date, there’s one final thing you can do to maximize your chances of landing a second date (and then some):
4) Use the “Pleasure Touch” on Your First Date
“How did we end up making out in my car? He was sooooo awkward!” I asked Craig.
Craig rubbed it in…”You mean the guy you said spilled his drink all over your new dress? Ha. I wonder if he used the Pleasure Touch...”
Flashbacks of last night hit me like a truck…
The warmth of his hand on my wrist…
How I leaned into him…
Almost like he had some sort of magnetic pull over me…
Heat rushed to my cheeks as I remembered that I was the one who asked him back to my car…it wasn’t until after our 2-hour makeout sesh that I remembered how painfully awkward he was.
And so when Craig showed me this article about the Pleasure Touch, I knew that had to be it. It had slipped right under my radar!
This “Pleasure Touch” is amazing. So check it out — you’re gonna love it:
Discover How to Use the “Pleasure Touch” on Your Next First Date…
