5 Surprising Truths to Consider Before FaceTiming A Woman

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Dating Expert Reveals the Surprising Answer: Is It Better to Call a Woman or FaceTime Her?

A while back, I showed you the ins and outs of texting & calling women. Today, I want to talk about something different:

Video calling, or FaceTiming with a woman.

Because while I often sing the praises of using texts to maintain a romantic connection with a woman–and I’ve even been known to seduce a woman using less than 160 characters at a time–there’s no denying it:

Talking on the phone is the most powerful form of one-on-one romantic communication after talking face-to-face.

“Huh? Didn’t you just say this was about video calls, David? I think you missed something!” You might be thinking…

And yeah, I get it.

But today, I want to show you why FaceTime is actually not as powerful as talking on the phone. And it all boils down to these 5 secret advantages of talking on the phone.

So what’s so good about the phone?

Let’s dive in with advantage #1:

1) The Phone Reveals Her True Feelings

First of all, the phone is PRESENT.

What does that mean?

The best way to imagine “present” is to think of a baby under two years old.

A baby doesn’t think about something before he reacts–everything that happens is happening immediately, in the here and now.

“The fan spins??? Wow! What was that? Someone’s outside. I feel sleepy… I’m going to… MILK! YES! I WANT MILK NOW!!!”

You get the idea.

So to a woman you’re on the phone with, “present” means that she can hear your responses and reactions as you have them.

When a woman is talking to you on the phone, she can feel your connect or disconnect.

If you’re laughing out loud, she can hear it.

Texting can be great for hiding your lack of emotion, but once you’ve learned to express yourself, you can make the most of that power on the phone.

Here’s an example to illustrate this power:

I met a beautiful girl outside of L.A.’s Bar Marmont a while back–it’s the bar attached to the famous hotel where John Belushi died (in Bungalow 3).

My wing was incredible–as I started talking to her, her friend came to get in the way.

He grabbed the friend and said, “let’s go this way,” giving me the crucial moment to take my shot and get her number.

When I called her later that week, though, it didn’t go very well.

I couldn’t tell what was distracting her, but she seemed uninterested. However, I felt that she WAS interested in my energy and personality the night we met… so I took a gamble.

“You know what?” I said, “I think I got the wrong Jacintha. I’m looking for the fun, spontaneous Jacintha I met the other night. Is she there?”

(Her name wasn’t actually Jacintha–to be perfectly honest, I can’t remember it right now.)

Anyway, we made plans and saw each other that night. I won because I could hear what was going on and reacted accordingly.

The bottom line?

Presence is one of the most powerful romantic and seductive devices you have.

2) There Are More Opportunities to Seduce Her on The Phone

The next advantage that the phone has is that it’s “live.”

When you talk on the phone, it’s happening actively, right now.

What that means for you is that–like in my story above–you can respond to a woman’s current circumstances and take them over for yourself.

She might be distracted and try to change the subject, but in that moment, you can recognize that and turn the conversation around.

When you text her or talk to her over FaceTime, though, it might be harder to tell.

When she gets excited over text, for example, she can calm down and take her time to respond. On the phone, however, it is all happening right now.

This gives you another huge advantage:

You can acknowledge when she feels something you want her to feel. Essentially, you have the ability to pace her feelings and actions as you see fit.

3) There Is No Guessing on The Phone

Since the phone call is happening right now, you don’t have to guess about what’s going on.

You may not know how she feels, but you know for sure what she’s saying and what’s happening at that moment. This makes phone calls both overt and obvious.

Of course, you don’t know what’s going on inside her head. You can’t hear that.

If she’s not saying anything, it might be because she wants to get off of the phone.

However, you still have the fact:

She is not saying anything.

And you can use this fact to your advantage, whether or not it’s something you want.

When you pace the facts of the present moment at the same time that you are “finding/interpreting” behavior you want from her, then you are getting close to her triggers.

For example, you could say, “I like how you’re breathing so slowly, and you get quiet like that… I feel like you’re in a trance listening to my voice.”

This is a very powerful tool to have in your arsenal.

4) She Has No Extra Time To Think

When you’re on the phone with a woman, she doesn’t have the time to “edit” her responses like she can with texting.

She can’t think, “I’ll answer that question after I take the pot off of the stove…” Or:

“I’m going to put on my pajamas and get into bed with a glass of wine, then I’ll continue the conversation.”

Instead, she has to react now–or struggle to hide her reactions.

Another advantage of this is that it’s much harder for her to ignore building tension.

She doesn’t have much time to question what’s going on–she can only really recognize how she’s feeling at that moment.

And that gives you a lot of power in the situation (but more on that in a bit).

5) The Phone Requires Almost No Effort (Unlike FaceTime)

Ultimately, the phone is a lot easier than FaceTime.

One of the biggest advantages of the phone is that it requires zero setup or explanation.

Even when she doesn’t want to talk on the phone, the ringing needs to be dealt with, and what happens after the phone rings is already spelled out:

She picks up…

Speaks to you…

Wash, rinse, repeat.

Easy.

And this ease for her is your advantage.

Most women are used to talking on the phone, so she wants to be on the phone–but in the beginning stages of a relationship, she doesn’t know you well enough to tell you what to do.

So instead, she’ll turn the spotlight on herself, and she’ll probably reveal a lot of information about herself that you can use later on down the line.

This is information like her interests, how she feels, and what she wants.

And of course, she won’t just come out and tell you.

There has to be some back-and-forth going on there.

But what kind of back-and-forth should it be? Do you start out with small talk? Or just ask her questions about herself?

What do you say on the phone that:

a) Increases her attraction to you… and:

b) Keeps the conversation flowing…?

In my experience, it’s a lot less about knowing what to say… and instead, knowing what not to say.

Here’s what I mean:

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What You MUST Avoid (If You Want to Keep Her Interested In You)…

Like I said, talking on the phone can help you get a lot closer to a woman, using very little effort… if you know what to say.

Because the thing is… even though plenty of women love to chat, and can talk to their girlfriends on the phone for hours… when they’re talking to guys, it’s different:

  • She might be quieter than she usually is…
  • She probably won’t go into details about her day like she would with her girlfriends…
  • And ultimately, if she likes you, she may playfully “tease” you just to see how you react…

That’s why I wanna show you this guide.

It reveals what you absolutely must NEVER say to a woman you like (including some surprising “everyday” phrases that are huge turn-offs for her)… plus what you should say if you want to eventually sleep with her.

Anyway, this guide has been pretty game-changing for a lot of my students, so I figured it was worthy of its own page… here it is:

Click Here to See the Surprising Phrases You Should NEVER Say to a Woman You Like (And What To Say Instead)…

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