Some Women Seem to Act “Weird” After Sex–This New Study Answers: Is There Really a Connection Between Depression and Sex?
I love sex. I love the happy hormones that are released after a great orgasm.
But sometimes, and I have no real explanation as to why this happens, I get really teary and vulnerable afterward — a little sad, even.
Why does this happen???
If I don’t know, you can bet that my man has no clue.
So if a woman has ever seemed “distant” or even “depressed” after sex, it’s easy to assume you’re part of the reason why… even if you know the sex was amazing.
But this new study has a different answer — and it might just surprise you.
The Bizarre Connection Between Sex & Sadness (And What it Means For You)
A recent study explained this phenomenon by calling it “post-coital dysphoria.”
Post-coital = after sex. And dysphoria = unease or dissatisfaction.
It’s not clear why it happens, but nearly half of the 230 women surveyed in the study reported experiencing sadness after sex a few times in the past month.
And here’s the kicker: It’s more likely to happen when the sex is really good.
When I shared this scientific study with my guy, he was definitely relieved.
He shared with me that when I am being particularly teary or clingy after sex, he feels bad.
He told me that he feels confused about my emotions because we just had good sex — after good sex, he feels great…
And so he wants me to feel that way too.
At the end of the day, we women want and need to feel heard and understood (even when we are not making a whole lot of sense).
So if I’m feeling sad after sex — even if I’m not sure why — I still need to feel like I’m being heard.
Here’s An Example:
The other night, after a long bout of lovemaking, I felt this overwhelming wave of weepiness.
I wanted to be held. To be told how much I am loved. How I am the only one for him…
But here’s the thing:
My man and I have been together for nearly five years, so I already know how much he loves me.
And on top of that, we have always had great sex. We are married and love each other deeply.
So why do I need to be reminded of how much he loves me after sex when I already know the answer?
Is There an Easy Way to Make Her Feel Less Sad After Sex?
Feelings of self-worth…
And a deep desire to connect with the man I’m with.
Sometimes it’s as simple as not wanting to feel alone in this world.
It feels very primal, and quite likely stems from feelings of childhood disappointment.
But regardless of why we women feel this way, the fact is, we need emotional reassurance after sex sometimes in order not to feel sad or “weird.”
In speaking with several of my friends about their experience, it became clear that this is not unusual.
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It was actually a relief for us to know we were not alone in this experience.
My single friend, Alissa, confessed that she has had this happen to her even with shorter-term relationships.
And in some cases, she even feels this way after a one-night stand.
Even if she’s not in love with the man she’s sleeping with, it’s still important for her not to feel like she’s going to be abandoned.
She was never physically abandoned in her childhood, but emotionally, she never truly felt like she “belonged” to her family.
And for other women, they get sad because they aren’t happy in the relationship, or they might be experiencing a feeling of regret.
It Doesn’t End There…
When women feel this sense of emotional abandonment after sex, they may get quiet…
Distant…
And sad, or down.
The truth is, sharing a sexual experience is a sign that the woman you’re with really trusts you — and for a lot of women, this is very scary.
So if the woman you’re with is curling up and in need of an emotional boost, what can you do?
At the end of the day, it’s impossible to “cure” her post-coital blues, but there are a few things you can do to make her feel better about it.
Here’s how:
The Simple Solution to Cure Her Post-Coital Blues Once & For All
Cuddle with her!
Seriously — it sounds crazy, but that kind of physical connection can go a long way.
Rub her back, or hold her hand. Take at least 5 minutes to physically connect with her after the sex is over.
Why?
The “coming down” process after an orgasm takes time, and so it’s important to ease her back into the normal speed of things.
Give her the time to slowly go from being 100% connected to you… to being two separate people again.
You could compliment her…
Tell her how sexy and beautiful she is…
Remind her of how soft her skin is, or how good she makes you feel. Let her know what a great lover she is.
Just be present, ask her if she needs anything, and be there for her.
It sounds simple, but it goes a really long way.
Of course, she won’t always respond to compliments… or cuddling… even if you’re trying your hardest.
So is there an easier way to boost her mood after sex? Or better yet, is there a way to prevent her from being sad after sex in the first place?
Yes–and here’s how:
Here’s How to Make Her So Happy After Sex That She Might Get on Top of You For Round 2…
You know what makes a woman the happiest after sex?
When a guy can give her a “God-level” orgasm! *Mmmmm*
My hot girlfriends & I all agree… an incredible orgasm is what gets a woman to look at you with those “doe eyes” right after you’re done… and a smile that says she’d do anything for you…
… and in fact if the orgasm is REALLY good, she may even hop on top of you right then & there for round 2!
(Speaking from personal experience haha)
But what does a “REALLY good” orgasm even mean?
I’m talking about the kind of orgasm that leaves her shaking in your bed with pleasure…
The kind that gets her to gush, and moan so loud she wakes up the neighbors…
The kind of orgasm that feels more powerful than a clitoral orgasm and G-Spot orgasm combined…
I’m talking about a little something known as the “Deep Spot Orgasm.”
It’s an AMAZING sexual technique that’s often called “addictive”…
And I have to admit, I LOVE it when a guy uses this on me ;-):
