But that doesn’t mean you get away too easily with solving this objection.
That still requires a little bit of finesse.
Here’s my advice:
Use the fact that you aren’t her type to your advantage. She’s single isn’t she?
Weird that all those guys that were “her type” didn’t work out…
Play with that in a flirtatious way. 100% definitely DO NOT insult her, that’s a one-way ticket to getting deleted or ghosted. But you can still play off of this fact in a way that will make her laugh.
You could message her and say, “Well duh, why do you think you find me so devilishly charming?”
Or you could be slightly more serious.
If she says “idk, you’re not really my type.”
You could send a message saying, “Well maybe those other guys didn’t work out for a reason lol”
At the very least, this will get her considering the possibility of dating a guy who isn’t her “preferred type” (whatever that means).
Objection #2: “We’re Not Having Sex”
This may seem like another barrier, but this objection is actually a total softball.
Here’s why…
If a girl says something like, “if we hang out tonight, we’re not having sex,” that means two things.
1) She’s already entertaining the idea of hanging out with you and all you need to do is nudge her over the finish line.
2) She’s ALSO thinking about sex. (Why else would she even bring it up?)
She’s practically saying to you, point blank, “I’m going to hang out with you tonight and we’re going to f*ck, but I need to pretend to play hard to get.”
Here’s the best way to play this scenario:
Make her think she’s the only one thinking about sex.
Act cool as a cucumber and just be casual about it.
You can text her back something like, “Um I wasn’t planning it haha. I thought we were just grabbing a drink.”
Or, “That’s fine, I didn’t think we were. Pick you up at 8?”
Lines like these will put her mind at ease because they are communicating to her that there’s no pressure to have sex.
You’ll also distinguish yourself from all the desperate sad sacks out there.
Women want what they can’t have.
Make it seem like you could care less whether you have sex with her and she’ll be ripping your clothes off in no time…
Objection #3: You’re Taking Too Long to Ask Her Out
This one is a quiet objection.
She isn’t going to say it out loud — but trust me — from my experience on dating apps, talking to a girl for too long without pulling the trigger will get super annoying to her.
It will make her feel like you aren’t serious and you’re just wasting her time.
I discovered this from countless women telling me, “Thanks for not being another guy who just texts forever and never actually asks me out.”
Now, there isn’t a formula for how long you should text before asking her out.
It’s more of a feeling.
There’s no hard-and-fast rules you should follow.
Instead, trust your gut instincts.
First of all, I don’t recommend asking a girl for her number or asking her out on a date immediately, either.
She might not like texting forever, but she doesn’t enjoy getting murdered by a stranger, either.
Use the app to flirt, have some witty banter, and get to know each other a little bit.
You basically want to make sure that the two of you can get along personality-wise and give her time to start trusting you.
Thing is, if you can’t hold a conversation on an app where you have minutes or hours to think of a response, there’s no way you’ll be able to do it in person — which will just lead to a super awkward date that gets you nowhere and costs you money.
Always remember: You’re testing her too, this is a two-way street.
If you forced me to give you a timeline, I would say ask for her number within 2-4 days and ask her out on a date around day 6.
Again, not a strict rule, but this has been my personal sweet spot.
But if you want to make it happen faster… I do have a trick up my sleeve:
How to Bypass These Objections Entirely (For Fast, Easy Sex With Hot Girls)
I’m not gonna lie – dealing with these kinds of objections on apps is exhausting.
I mean what are you? A vacuum salesman trying to get a housewife to buy the “latest and greatest” model?
These are like catnip to a kitten…and heroin to an addict. Women literally can’t resist them. They’re pretty much compelled to find you attractive when they see them.
Put these in your profile and 9 times out of 10..you’ll have hot girls sending YOU intros!
I can’t say they were developed entirely with noble intentions…
In fact… it was a group of older data scientists who worked at a college… who wanted to f**k more of the hot girls they saw around campus all the time…
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