How to Use the Body Language of Sex to Get Her Into Bed ASAP…
Here’s a secret most women don’t want you to know: Your body language is the most powerful tool you can use to influence a woman’s decision to sleep with you.
So as a woman, there are certain body language “signals” I look for when I’m deciding whether or not to sleep with a guy.
Collectively, there are 6 of these signals, and together they form a “checklist” — so if you can show her every signal on that “checklist”…
Your chances of getting her in bed, on top of you and begging you for more go through the roof.
As you may have guessed, that means there are 6 things that need to happen when you meet a woman if you want the night to end back at your place.
But before I show you what they are, let’s talk about what it is your body language can do for you.
The #1 Reason Your Body Language Matters More Than a 6-Pack or a Fat Wallet
There are certain underlying factors that motivate women to sleep with you. I won’t deny that a great body or a big bank account can motivate some women…
But it won’t motivate every woman. And on top of that, a good body and a big bank account aren’t strong motivating factors.
The strongest motivating factor in a woman’s decision to go home with you is a combination of 2 things:
Comfort and desire.
A woman has to feel comfortable if she’s going to get naked with you…and she has to want to get naked with you in the first place.
So yes, a great body or a big bank account might make her feel desire…but not reliably so. And they definitely won’t make her feel comfortable.
That’s where your body language comes in — using these 6 signals, you’re not only showing her that she can feel comfortable and open up to you…
But you’re also ramping up her attraction.
And here’s what they are:
1) Keep your hands visible
Your hands tell women a lot about you. And if you keep them in your pockets…
Or underneath your crossed arms…
Or generally out of sight…
She’ll assume you’re hiding something or that you’re uncomfortable. And that will turn her off almost instantly.
Remember, she needs to feel comfortable if she’s going to make herself vulnerable with you, so it’s important for you to make her feel safe.
And the best way to use your hands to do that is to keep them visible at all times. When you’re talking to her, use your hands to make gestures, or put them on the table if you’re at a restaurant or a bar.
Even if you aren’t feeling open and comfortable, it’s important she sees you that way — so make sure she can see your hands.
2) Don’t fidget
If you’re a big fidgeter, I’ve got some bad news for you: Women don’t want to sleep with men who fidget.
But here’s the thing: They don’t want to sleep with men who are super stiff, either.
Men who fidget often come off as dishonest or afraid, and men who are too stiff come off as liars, so it’s important to strike a balance so she sees you as an open, honest man.
This is important for the same exact reason it’s important for you to show her your hands — she won’t be open with you unless you’re open and vulnerable with her.
So when you’re with her, focus on physically relaxing. If you notice you’re not moving, loosen up your shoulders a little bit and try and use your hands when you talk to her.
And if you’re fidgeting a lot, consciously fold your hands in front of you and focus on her.
Which brings me to the next sign she wants to see before she sleeps with you…
3) Sit up straight
While yes, women want a man who has a relaxed posture, they don’t want to go home with a sloucher.
And that’s because men who slouch come off as disinterested or aloof — like you’re not taking your time with her seriously, and you just don’t care.
On top of that, slouching can also reveal a lack of confidence. And as David has written about before, confidence is one of the most sexually attractive traits women look for in a man.
So if she’s going to go home with you, she has to know you’re interested — and one of the best ways to do that is to sit up straight and lean in closer to her.
If you’re at a bar, for example, lean toward her across the table or across the bar. And if you’re back at your place, sit up and lean slightly toward her on your couch.
This will show her you’re a) confident, and b) interested in her — a win/win if you want to take her to bed.
4) Walk with purpose
Think about the last really attractive woman you saw in public. Was she:
- Looking down…
- Walking slowly, almost like she was shuffling…
- Moving awkardly…
Or was she:
- Striding confidently…
- Looking like she had somewhere to be…
- Holding her head up…
Probably the latter, right?
Women want to sleep with men who look driven — like they have a purpose in life. So when you’re walking, lift your head up and quicken your pace.
If you look like you have somewhere to be, women will take notice — in a good way.
Now, this isn’t an easy signal to “show” her if you’re on a date…
But there is one thing you can do:
If you’re taking a walk, simply stand tall and match her pace. In this case, your purpose is her — so you should walk at whatever pace she’s going to get as close as you possibly can to her.
5) Mirror her body language
This one’s a biggie. Women use your body language as clues to predict how you’ll be in bed — so if you match her body language, she’ll take that as a sign you’ll be able to connect in bed.
Remember, women need a connection with a man before they decide to sleep with him, so if you can establish a connection, there will be almost nothing stopping you.
So how do you mirror her body language without looking like you’re mocking her?
If you’re at a bar, take a sip from your drink every time she takes a sip from hers. If she leans toward you, lean back toward her. If she leans her arm on the chair, lean yours on your chair as well.
It’s as simple as observing her actions and repeating them. It sounds like “voodoo,” but it all boils down to science:
When you mirror her body language, she’ll subconsciously see you as someone who admires and agrees with her. And those are 2 huge clues that you’ll have a good time in bed together.
That brings me to the final signal she needs to see before she sleeps with you…
6) Use this “Sexual Escalation Touch” to complete her checklist…
Fact: Women trust your actions (including body language) more than they trust your words.
So the easiest way to complete her “checklist” of signals and build a connection with her is by engaging her most powerful sense:
Touch.
Not just any old touch, though…this is something more specific called the “Sexual Escalation Touch” — it only takes 3 seconds…
But it instantly lights up her brain so she thinks, “This is a man who’s interested in me…and I’m ready to go home with him. Now.”
In fact, my current boyfriend admitted he used this “Sexual Escalation Touch” on me…I had been on the fence about him, but he used it on our second date…
I didn’t even notice it at the time…all I knew is that by the end of the night, the only thing I could think about was getting him in bed with me…
And I hate to admit this, but I ended up making him breakfast the next morning (bacon and eggs, his favorite).
This “Sexual Escalation Touch” is pretty powerful. So check it out — you’ll love it:
The “Sexual Escalation Touch” That Completes Her Checklist and Gets Her in Bed FAST…
