Discover The Best Oral Sex Techniques to Give Her Multiple Mind-blowing Orgasms–Plus How to Get Her “Hooked” on You In Bed…
When it comes to oral sex, most men hear the same advice, over and over:
“Just write the alphabet with your tongue, and you're good to go.”
Sure, I won't deny that that technique works sometimes… but that's the thing–it only works sometimes. (Plus, if every guy is doing it, it's quite likely there are a lot of women who are bored of it by now.)
So when I found this article detailing 3 new & highly specific oral sex techniques to use on women–and from a lesbian, no less–I knew I had to share it.
Because, after all, oral sex is a pretty big component of the sexual experience.
Recent data from the National Survey of Family Growth finds that 86-87% of American adults aged 18-44 have given oral sex at least once.
And yet, the reality is… probably not enough women are getting the amount of oral they desire.
Another study found that only 44% of women received oral sex in their last sexual encounter, compared to 63% of men–so the more you give, the more likely she is to sleep with you again.
These techniques are highly unique, highly effective… and, since they come from a woman, it's clear that they're highly proven as well.
Of course, at the end of the day, I won't deny that sex isn't just about oral–and in fact, oral sex doesn't even have to be on the table every time you have sex.
However, for the man who'd like to spice things up in bed… or simply please women more effectively… then these techniques are a great place to start. 😉
Beginning with technique #1:
1) The “Lip Trace” Trick
If you don’t feel very “experienced” with your oral skills, or you simply want a nice way to warm her up, then this lip tracing technique will work wonders for you.
It’s also pretty straightforward–here’s how it’s done:
Starting at the bottom of her labia, use your tongue to lick upward toward her clitoris. Go slow–if you go too fast, she may become too sensitive or not experience as much pleasure as she possibly can.
Once you hit her clit, lick back down the other side of her labia. Keep moving up and down like this, and experiment with both your breath and speed.
If you notice her breathing increasing, or if she starts to moan, then keep doing what you’re doing–that means she likes it.
2) The “Aphrodite Technique”
This next one is a little more intermediate–but the payoff is huge when properly executed.
Start off by separating her vaginal lips with your tongue, and use as little pressure as possible.
Make your way up to her clitoris, then move your tongue in a swirling motion all around her clitoral hood. Keep doing this until you notice her getting wetter and more excited. Resist the urge to increase your pressure.
Once she seems like she’s about to explode, then you can increase the pressure and pace of your movements.
Pro Tip: Move your tongue between her clitoris and her labia for a truly pleasurable experience.
And if you really want to take her over the edge, try sucking her clitoris. But be careful–some women are more sensitive to this technique than others, so make sure she’s comfortable and enjoying it every step of the way.
3) On The Edge of Her Seat
This one puts her, quite literally, on the edge of her seat–and for good reason, too.
It’s especially great if you’re used to the “same ol’ same ol’” when it comes to oral, because it goes beyond the typical, “write the alphabet with your tongue” advice that most guys hear growing up.
Have her lie back, and place your arms beneath her thighs for leverage (she should be straddling your face).
From there, it’s really up to you how to do it. Depending on your style, she can either use her own strength to grind her hips against your face, or you can take control and send her over the edge on your own.
In fact, if you want to spice things up even more, you could even throw a vibrator into the mix! (Never underestimate the power of using a good vibrator with a woman–trust me.)
At the end of the day, the key is to make sure that whatever you do to her *down there* feels good. And of course, it’s even better if it ends in a hot-as-hell orgasm. 😉
According to Shanna Katz, sexologist, sex educator, and author of Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind: An Illustrated Guide to Giving Her Amazing Orgasms Opens a New Window:
It’s awesome for guys to say, [giving oral sex] is going to be part of my sexual repertoire. It makes you look like you’re interested in your partner’s pleasure, which is something that makes you a great partner.”
Though if you would rather wait for her to orgasm during sex, then I totally understand…
So if that’s the case, here’s a cool technique you can use to give her an insane amount of pleasure & make her crave your “manhood”:
The #1 Technique to Give Her More Orgasms During Oral…
As a woman, I loooove a guy with a talented tongue… but you know what’s even better?
A guy who’s also good with his hands. 😉
Because yeah, even though tongue-on-clit action alone feels *amazing*… my girlfriends & I all agree:
When a guy uses his fingers just right during oral… it’s like BOOM, instant multiple orgasms.
However… I will admit that some fingering techniques work a lot better than others… and for me personally, this 5-Finger “Tantra Technique” feels the best. *mmmmmm*
It’s unlike most other fingering techniques I’ve seen or experienced… (goes way beyond “stick two fingers inside her and make a *come hither* motion”)… and it’s perfect to use during oral, because you only need one hand to do it.
Plus, because it gives her an orgasm super fast (like < 5 minutes for me)… you can save the rest of your energy for the main event. 😉
This video by Tantric Master Lawrence Lanoff will show you how it’s done–I hope you like it as much as I do!
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Obviously, if you’re giving her amazing oral… then eventually, things will probably escalate to sex. 😉
And one sexual technique that my girlfriends & I go head-over-heels CRAZY for is called the “Deep Spot” Technique.
If you’ve never heard of a woman’s “Deep Spot” (most men haven’t)… it’s this tiny fleshy patch deep inside of her (like a few centimeters north of her G-Spot)… and it’s jam-packed with mega-sensitive nerve-endings.
So when you stimulate it juuuuust right… usually, after a few minutes, it builds into this sheet-soaking, toe-curling release… for both of you. 🙂
(Note: If you’ve ever wanted to experience a “simultaneous orgasm” with a woman, then this technique is great for that.)
I first heard about the “Deep Spot” Technique from this Tantric Master, Lawrence Lanoff… and while I’ll admit it’s a little on the “advanced” side… it’s pretty simple once you know the steps:
Discover The “Deep Spot” Orgasm for MAXIMUM Pleasure (For Both Of You)…
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Oral. Who doesn’t love it?
But when it comes to receiving oral sex, women often get left out in the cold.
Some women don’t know how to ask for it…
Other women get nervous and refuse it even if they want it…
And some guys don’t ever think to do it unless they’ve gotten oral first.
And women might not be comfortable giving you feedback, either. Which is a real shame, considering that’s the key to giving more pleasure in the bedroom.
How are you supposed to get better if she’s not telling you what she likes?
For these reasons, many couples might take a few cracks at oral-for-her, and then give up.
But hold on!
Chances are, the lady you’re seeing hasn’t been with too many pros in the oral department.
That is, unless she swings both ways.
That’s right—who better to learn from than somebody who owns the equipment?
That’s why this survey gathered the wisdom of queer women who are, frankly, really good at going down on girls.
We’ve put it together here so you can impress your next date. 😉
So, what are the top tips from the pros, when it comes to going down on ladies?
1) Avoid The Clit (At First)
Seriously, boys. Don’t play that thing like a guitar string.
It’s way too sensitive, and can even be a little painful. Instead, work around the clitoris.
Foreplay is crucial here. There are lots of other nerve endings down there that need some love before the clit is ready to go.
Eventually, you might be able to get more direct clit-contact, but you need to work up to that slowly.
Asking her if anything feels too intense is a good way to avoid overdoing it, too.
2) Play With Positions
Use your arms to hook her legs and pull her in close. You can also play with yourself, too, which is likely to get her going even more.
Don’t be afraid to use your hands to rearrange her, and try different positions and angles of approach as you go.
Be a problem-solver.
If one position hasn’t got her moaning, don’t despair—just try another!
3) Use More Than Your Tongue
I mean, your tongue is just a muscle, and it’s going to get tired. You’ve got an entire face, so why not work with it?
Feel self-conscious about your big nose?
Well, here’s a way to put it to work. Instead of just using your tongue, forget what you’ve seen in porn and use your whole face.
Yes, this can get messy.
You’re basically making out with her, um, crotch. But it’s the best way to get the job done!
Also, don’t be afraid to roll up your sleeves. Literally. Adding your fingers and hands can be a great touch, and can give your tongue a break. (But more on that in a bit!)
4) Give Her a “BJ” (Sort Of)
Ok, don’t freak out. There’s not something your lady isn’t telling you. But you can use some of the same strategies that work so well with blow jobs.
What am I talking about? Take her vulva into your mouth, and move in and out.
You’ll stimulate more parts of her this way—that’s a plus!
P.S. Don’t forget tip #1 and try to keep your tongue off the clitoris while you perform this move.
5) Get Into It!
If you’re enjoying going down on her, make sure she knows it.
Women are often told that they are supposed to worry about other people’s pleasure. She might think it’s selfish to focus on herself.
If she feels self-conscious or like she’s taking too long, it’ll make it harder for her to climax.
If she knows you’re getting something out of it, she’s more likely to relax.
Think about it this way: if a woman is giving you oral and seems bored, that might kill the mood a little.
But if she’s all about it, you’re going to have a much better time.
If you’re turned on by going down on her, make sure she knows it. That’s a win-win for both of you!
6) Talk It Out
If you ask her questions while you get going, you’re both going to have a better experience.
Well, she might feel uncomfortable interrupting you to tell you to change something… BUT if you ask her for specific feedback, she may open up.
A new partner might not like the same thing you’re used to doing, so talking it out can be extra helpful in a new situation.
It’s also a good idea to make sure she even wants you to go down on her. For some women, it’s just not their cup of tea, and that’s cool, too.
7) Be Patient & DON’T MOVE!
Not to yell at you or anything, but if you’re hitting the spot—and you may be able to tell if you pay attention to her body language—keep doing what you’re doing!
Don’t change positions or tempos, and you’ll get her there in no time.
However, it's no secret that some women need certain combinations of things to get off… and not all women respond to the same touches, licks and movements.
But did you know there is one move that's proven to give almost any woman at least one orgasm–and possibly more?
BONUS: This Will Make Her Come Harder & More Often Than Any Cunnilingus Technique…
Like I mentioned above, when you’re going down on a woman… it’s possible you might get a little “tongue-tired.”
You might get sore, bored, and your mouth might start to ache… often at the exact moment she starts to REALLY enjoy it.
(It’s not your fault… most women need at least 15-20 minutes of oral to orgasm… and that’s a long time for your tongue to work!!)
Which is why if you want to get her off as fast as possible… it helps to use your fingers.
That short video tutorial ^^^ up there is for a move known to many lesbians as “5 Finger Tantra”…
And that’s because it was invented by a guy named Lawrence who used to direct tantric lesbian porn(!!).
OK so he didn’t “invent” the move exactly…
… though he did notice many of the lesbian actresses he filmed using it to get each other off during shoots…
Like during a POV oral scene for example, he’d notice one girl would be licking another girl’s clit for a while…
And when it came time to “finish” her, the girl would use her hand to do the move… and a few moments later, *BAM*:
Full-on pornstar-level orgasm with waterworks.
The crazy thing is, most people outside the lesbian community have never even heard of this move… (let alone tried it)..
P.S. You won't find any of this director's videos on popular sites like Pornhub… so click here now to see the technique in action.
[Note: This post was upated by Gotham Club on December 11, 2019.]