When it comes to oral sex, most men hear the same advice, over and over:
“Just write the alphabet with your tongue, and you're good to go.”
Sure, I won't deny that that technique works sometimes… but that's the thing–it only works sometimes. (Plus, if every guy is doing it, it's quite likely there are a lot of women who are bored of it by now.)
So when I found this article detailing 3 new & highly specific oral sex techniques to use on women–and from a lesbian, no less–I knew I had to share it.
Because, after all, oral sex is a pretty big component of the sexual experience.
Recent data from the National Survey of Family Growth finds that 86-87% of American adults aged 18-44 have given oral sex at least once.
Plus, in a study of Canadian college students, 97.1% of men and 95.4% of women said that receiving oral sex was at least somewhat or very pleasurable.
And yet, the reality is… probably not enough women are getting the amount of oral they desire.
Another study found that only 44% of women received oral sex in their last sexual encounter, compared to 63% of men–so the more you give, the more likely she is to sleep with you again.
These techniques are highly unique, highly effective… and, since they come from a woman, it's clear that they're highly proven as well.
Of course, at the end of the day, I won't deny that sex isn't just about oral–and in fact, oral sex doesn't even have to be on the table every time you have sex.
However, for the man who'd like to spice things up in bed… or simply please women more effectively… then these techniques are a great place to start. 😉
If you don’t feel very “experienced” with your oral skills, or you simply want a nice way to warm her up, then this lip tracing technique will work wonders for you.
It’s also pretty straightforward–here’s how it’s done:
Starting at the bottom of her labia, use your tongue to lick upward toward her clitoris. Go slow–if you go too fast, she may become too sensitive or not experience as much pleasure as she possibly can.
Once you hit her clit, lick back down the other side of her labia. Keep moving up and down like this, and experiment with both your breath and speed.
If you notice her breathing increasing, or if she starts to moan, then keep doing what you’re doing–that means she likes it.
2) The “Aphrodite Technique”
This next one is a little more intermediate–but the payoff is huge when properly executed.
Start off by separating her vaginal lips with your tongue, and use as little pressure as possible.
Make your way up to her clitoris, then move your tongue in a swirling motion all around her clitoral hood. Keep doing this until you notice her getting wetter and more excited. Resist the urge to increase your pressure.
Once she seems like she’s about to explode, then you can increase the pressure and pace of your movements.
Pro Tip: Move your tongue between her clitoris and her labia for a truly pleasurable experience.
And if you really want to take her over the edge, try sucking her clitoris. But be careful–some women are more sensitive to this technique than others, so make sure she’s comfortable and enjoying it every step of the way.
3) On The Edge of Her Seat
This one puts her, quite literally, on the edge of her seat–and for good reason, too.
It’s especially great if you’re used to the “same ol’ same ol’” when it comes to oral, because it goes beyond the typical, “write the alphabet with your tongue” advice that most guys hear growing up.
Have her lie back, and place your arms beneath her thighs for leverage (she should be straddling your face).
From there, it’s really up to you how to do it. Depending on your style, she can either use her own strength to grind her hips against your face, or you can take control and send her over the edge on your own.
In fact, if you want to spice things up even more, you could even throw a vibrator into the mix! (Never underestimate the power of using a good vibrator with a woman–trust me.)
At the end of the day, the key is to make sure that whatever you do to her *down there* feels good. And of course, it’s even better if it ends in a hot-as-hell orgasm. 😉
According to Shanna Katz, sexologist, sex educator, and author of Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind: An Illustrated Guide to Giving Her Amazing Orgasms Opens a New Window:
It’s awesome for guys to say, [giving oral sex] is going to be part of my sexual repertoire. It makes you look like you’re interested in your partner’s pleasure, which is something that makes you a great partner.”
Though if you would rather wait for her to orgasm during sex, then I totally understand…
So if that’s the case, here’s a cool technique you can use to give her an insane amount of pleasure & make her crave your “manhood”:
This is the best technique to make her orgasm fast…
The #1 Technique to Give Her More Orgasms During Oral…
As a woman, I loooove a guy with a talented tongue… but you know what’s even better?
However… I will admit that some fingering techniques work a lot better than others… and for me personally, this 5-Finger “Tantra Technique” feels the best. *mmmmmm*
It’s unlike most other fingering techniques I’ve seen or experienced… (goes way beyond “stick two fingers inside her and make a *come hither* motion”)… and it’s perfect to use during oral, because you only need one hand to do it.
Plus, because it gives her an orgasm super fast (like < 5 minutes for me)… you can save the rest of your energy for the main event. 😉
Beyond Oral: Discover The “Deep Spot” Orgasm for MAXIMUM Pleasure (For Both Of You)
Obviously, if you’re giving her amazing oral… then eventually, things will probably escalate to sex. 😉 And one sexual technique that my girlfriends & I go head-over-heels CRAZY for is called the “Deep Spot” Technique.
If you’ve never heard of a woman’s “Deep Spot” (most men haven’t)… it’s this tiny fleshy patch deep inside of her (like a few centimeters north of her G-Spot)… and it’s jam-packed with mega-sensitive nerve-endings.
So when you stimulate it juuuuust right… usually, after a few minutes, it builds into this sheet-soaking, toe-curling release… for both of you. 🙂
(Note: If you’ve ever wanted to experience a “simultaneous orgasm” with a woman, then this technique is great for that.)
But when it comes to receiving oral sex, women often get left out in the cold.
Some women don’t know how to ask for it…
Other women get nervous and refuse it even if they want it…
And some guys don’t ever think to do it unless they’ve gotten oral first.
And women might not be comfortable giving you feedback, either. Which is a real shame, considering that’s the key to giving more pleasure in the bedroom.
How are you supposed to get better if she’s not telling you what she likes?
Eventually, you might be able to get more direct clit-contact, but you need to work up to that slowly.
Asking her if anything feels too intense is a good way to avoid overdoing it, too.
2) Play With Positions
Use your arms to hook her legs and pull her in close. You can also play with yourself, too, which is likely to get her going even more.
Don’t be afraid to use your hands to rearrange her, and try different positions and angles of approach as you go.
Be a problem-solver.
If one position hasn’t got her moaning, don’t despair—just try another!
3) Use More Than Your Tongue
I mean, your tongue is just a muscle, and it’s going to get tired. You’ve got an entire face, so why not work with it?
Feel self-conscious about your big nose?
Well, here’s a way to put it to work. Instead of just using your tongue, forget what you’ve seen in porn and use your whole face.
Yes, this can get messy.
You’re basically making out with her, um, crotch. But it’s the best way to get the job done!
Also, don’t be afraid to roll up your sleeves. Literally. Adding your fingers and hands can be a great touch, and can give your tongue a break. (But more on that in a bit!)
Think about it this way: if a woman is giving you oral and seems bored, that might kill the mood a little.
But if she’s all about it, you’re going to have a much better time.
If you’re turned on by going down on her, make sure she knows it. That’s a win-win for both of you!
6) Talk It Out
If you ask her questions while you get going, you’re both going to have a better experience.
Why?
Well, she might feel uncomfortable interrupting you to tell you to change something… BUT if you ask her for specific feedback, she may open up.
A new partner might not like the same thing you’re used to doing, so talking it out can be extra helpful in a new situation.
It’s also a good idea to make sure she even wants you to go down on her. For some women, it’s just not their cup of tea, and that’s cool, too.
7) Be Patient & DON’T MOVE!
Not to yell at you or anything, but if you’re hitting the spot—and you may be able to tell if you pay attention to her body language—keep doing what you’re doing!
However, it's no secret that some women need certain combinations of things to get off… and not all women respond to the same touches, licks and movements.
But did you know there is one move that's proven to give almost any woman at least one orgasm–and possibly more?
Keep scrolling for the foreplay move that's proven to make ANY woman c*m hard….
BONUS: This Will Make Her Come Harder & More Often Than Any Cunnilingus Technique…
Like I mentioned above, when you’re going down on a woman… it’s possible you might get a little “tongue-tired.”
You might get sore, bored, and your mouth might start to ache… often at the exact moment she starts to REALLY enjoy it.
(It’s not your fault… most women need at least 15-20 minutes of oral to orgasm… and that’s a long time for your tongue to work!!)
Which is why if you want to get her off as fast as possible… it helps to use your fingers.
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