The Art of Seduction Can Seem Tricky, But if You Avoid This Mistake It’s Simple–Can You Guess What It Is?
Let me start today off with an old tale, that will help illustrate what I want to show you:
The wind and the sun were disputing which was the stronger — suddenly, they saw a traveler coming down the road.
The sun said, “I see a way to decide our dispute. Whichever of us can cause that man to take off his cloak shall be regarded as the stronger one. You begin.”
So the sun retired behind a cloud, and the wind began to blow as hard as it could on the man.
However…
The harder the wind blew, the most closely the man wrapped his cloak around him… until at last, the wind gave up.
Then the sun came out and shone in all his glory. And the man, who soon found it too hot to walk with his cloak on, easily slipped it off.
I recount this story because the wind and the sun represent the two forms of getting a woman to do something you want:
Force & persuasion.
Force says, “If you want to avoid pain… then do this.” While persuasion, on the other hand, says, “If you want pleasure… then do this.”
So when it comes to women, which is the better form of seduction?
Why Trying to Make a Woman Do Something (Almost) Never Works…
As you may have guessed, persuasion is a much better way to seduce a woman than force — especially in today’s society.
However, using force is inherently masculine, so a lot of guys think that the masculine means of compelling action — force — is the way to go with women.
This is entirely backward.
Women don’t respond to force. Instead, they respond to the feminine form of encouraging action: persuasion, or indirect encouragement or discouragement.
To be truly effective at seduction, it’s imperative that you can persuade a woman to do what you want. No force. No direct commands.
So today, I’m going to show you exactly how to do that.
Force Vs. Persuasion: Which Is More Effective With Women?
Like I mentioned above, persuasion is the better way to seduce a woman. Now let’s talk about why.
First, remember that a woman will decide to take action because she feels something. So if she decides to go home with you, it’s because she feels sexual desire for you.
But how can you use persuasion to make a woman feel sexual desire?
A great deal of attraction is based on what feelings motivate the connection a woman has to you — and with persuasion, these feelings are often more genuine than with force.
For example, if a woman goes home with you because she’s avoiding a threat (force), then that’s probably not going to be much fun for either of you.
If, on the other hand, she goes home with you because she feels that sexual desire, and wants to experience pleasure with you… then the odds of getting a repeat night in bed with her go way up.
At the end of the day, the art of seduction is not about simply “getting a woman into bed” or whatever… no. Instead, I want you to find a woman who loves you.
That should be your goal with mastering the art of seduction.
So with that in mind, here are 3 steps to make a woman feel that real, genuine sexual desire for you — even if you think she’s out of your league.
1) Show Her (Instead of Telling Her)
Your first step is to show her how you feel, instead of telling her.
Or, as veteran sales trainer Tom Hopkins says:
“If you say it, they can doubt you. If they say it, it’s true.”
So make her say how she feels about you — that way, you don’t have to doubt her (and give her the opportunity to doubt you).
The easiest way to do this is to use all five of your senses to show her.
If you want her to feel sexual desire for you, show her that you desire her as well, for example.
You could touch her…
Tell her that she smells good…
Listen to her, and show her that you’re listening…
And so on. Which brings me to your next step:
2) Give Her What She Wants
Your next step is to continue to show her your sexual desire — and use this to escalate into a “love” framework.
Because at the end of the day, the ultimate goal of seduction is to make a woman fall completely & madly in love with you.
So once your sexual desire is established, show her love:
Touch her softly and gently (or on the flipside, show her that you have to touch her to show her your lust & desire)…
Speak softly and in a loving voice…
And when you kiss her, don’t leave right afterward. Stay with her for as long as she wants.
Doing this will allow her to arrive at the conclusion: “He feels love for me… and I love him back. I want him, and I want only him.”
3) Confirm Facts, Not Feelings
Your last step is to confirm only the facts — not her feelings.
Because chances are, once she starts feeling sexual desire & love for you, she’s going to try and validate or verify it.
So instead of saying something like, “You love me,” which gives her the opportunity to disagree (after all, her feelings are not available for you to declare)…
Try making her aware of the facts.
For example, “You keep staring at me like that, and I’m going to think you really care about me”…
“You’re blushing…”
“When you kiss me, you hold me so tight and your fingers curl around my neck. I love that.”
Just make simple observations, and she’ll arrive at her own positive conclusions — trust me. 😉
You can also point out facts (or factual type things) about yourself that imply affection.
“When I’m listening to you, time seems to stop.”
“I get lost in the memory of that first time you kissed me.”
“Why is my skin all tingly?”
From there, it’s time to turn those feelings of love & sexual desire, into a real and physical connection (you and I both know what that means).
And I get it — taking that “next step” can feel super nerve-wracking… even if you’re pretty much certain she wants to sleep with you.
But I’ve got a trick up my sleeve to get around any nerves or final fears you may have… here’s how to use it:
Did You Know That There Are 8 Ways to Say “I Want You” Without Any Words?
These are simple, yet subtle eye contact seduction techniques… which work to give her that last little “nudge” she needs, to go ahead and make the first move.
(It’s almost like you’re giving her “permission” to make the first move… though most dating experts are too “PC” to admit this.)
These tricks are perfect for guys who are more reserved, or “introverted”… because they don’t require any words at all… though they’re just as (if not more) effective.
For example, one of my favorites is the “Steely Strong” eye contact trick. It only takes a few seconds… but it works to frame you as her #1 sexual option… and can often cause a woman to kiss you right there, on the spot.
I’ll admit that these eye contact tricks are a little hard to put into words… which is why I had my mentor & fellow dating expert, Magic, make these videos, demonstrating each one of them on his hot model “assistant.”
For the guy who wants an easy way to get girls to make moves first… these videos are a f’in goldmine:
8 Ways to Use Your Eyes to Say “I Want You” Without Any Words…
